Poll: Do you consider Cyber sex cheating?

DAPUNISHER

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To make a long story short my wifey asked me if I've been having cyber sex because I've been spending so much time here lately and I posted pics of my son and myself. She said that if I were having cyber sex that it is technically cheating
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I assured her I wasn't doing any such thing and that I couldn't see how that would turn me on anyways but that if I had been having cybersex that it wasn't cheating anyways. She says she believes me but debated the issue of it's being cheating with me. So I would really like a third parties opinions as to where you stand on the issue because I'm not sure if I'm right anymore after listening to her point of view about it.
 

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Maybe you should check out Jerry Springer, I think they debate this every now and then.
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<< Maybe you should check out Jerry Springer, I think they debate this every now and then.
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Ha ha...but Jerry Springer guests are years behind the rest of us...
 

Azraele

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Imo, it's cheating.

Try it this way. How would you feel if your wife had cybersex with someone?
 

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<< Maybe you should check out Jerry Springer, I think they debate this every now and then.
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Ha ha...but Jerry Springer guests are years behind the rest of us...
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try decades
 

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In my opinion it just comes down to personal standards on what "cheating" really is. Is cheating strictly a physical thing, or do adulterous thoughts and desires count as cheating too?

I don't know really where to draw that line. I guess I find it a compromise between the two. A fleeting "I'd hit it" thought may not be construed as cheating, but active roleplaying of a sexual nature with a person other than who you are in a monogamous relationship with is dangerously "flirting" on that border.

I dunno. I guess minor flirting and playful comments made in jest are fine. But, when it starts to become pro-active, consistent, and intimate, then I think you have just landed in cheating territory.

Was that definition coherrent?
 

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<< Imo, it's cheating.

Try it this way. How would you feel if your wife had cybersex with someone?
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I considered that and it wouldn't bother me any more than her reading a cheap romance novel because it would just be a fantasy either way, and besides I'm not the jealous type.
 

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<< I considered that and it wouldn't bother me any more than her reading a cheap romance novel >>



A cheap romance novel dosent have someone else at the other end.
 

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<< Maybe you should check out Jerry Springer, I think they debate this every now and then.
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Your answer incriminates you as being a viewer of that tripe ;) I've never seen it so I'll bow to your inferior knowledge :cool:
 

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<< Imo, it's cheating.

Try it this way. How would you feel if your wife had cybersex with someone?
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I considered that and it wouldn't bother me any more than her reading a cheap romance novel because it would just be a fantasy either way, and besides I'm not the jealous type.
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Yea, but then what makes you think she won't act on the things she's typing?

I'd never do it, and my wife/girlfriend would become my ex-wife/ex-girlfriend.
 

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<< I considered that and it wouldn't bother me any more than her reading a cheap romance novel because it would just be a fantasy either way, and besides I'm not the jealous type. >>


Well, the romance novel is made up of ficticious characters, and you do not interact with them. In cybersex, you are interacting with a real flesh and blood human. And it does bother your wife.
 

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<< I considered that and it wouldn't bother me any more than her reading a cheap romance novel >>



A cheap romance novel dosent have someone else at the other end.
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I understand that, it was simply an analogy to show how I catagorize it. Besides, typing frilly words to each other means nothing to me. However, if they were watching each other on web cams then I'd be upset..... I think :confused:
 

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<< why dont you let her search through your posts? >>

I did. I have nothing to hide and besides she trusts me it's just that her friends got her upset by telling her horror stories about what can happen
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I think they probably watch that show the other nob was just refering to as well.
 

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<< I'd say it's cheating. I like vi_edit's description. >>



I do, too.

I consider it cheating, most definitely. I did it once, technically while my last gf and I were having a break... I've never felt so much guilt in my life.
 

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Oh, I know some personal horror stories from people that I've worked with in the past.

While you may find cyber sex harmless, it's when you start putting two and two together....like those 5 day business trips that always seem to pop up unexpectedly and mysterious gifts and a good chunk of money suddenly missing out of the checking account.

I knew a guy who at first thought it was just an online relationship, to later find out that his wife was actually flying from Illinois down to Texas to see this guy she was IM'ing. Granted, you have to have a pretty non-communicating relationship in the first place not to notice the warning signs, but if you have a spouce that frequently does go on business trips for work, then you just might not know exactly what's going on.
 

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<< Yea, but then what makes you think she won't act on the things she's typing?

I'd never do it, and my wife/girlfriend would become my ex-wife/ex-girlfriend.
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I just can't get emotionally upset or paranoid over that type of thing, it's not my style. My wife is an intelligent, college educated, Highly successfull Advertising Executive and she has many men with far more to offer her than I do that she deals with everyday right in front of her and since I don't sweat them I'm certainly not going to sweat some Goober who picks up on chicks using the internet ;)
 

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You're prob having cyber sex with a man anyway so it's twice as bad...

I think his real name is Phil:D
 

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<< Maybe you should check out Jerry Springer, I think they debate this every now and then.
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Your answer incriminates you as being a viewer of that tripe ;) I've never seen it so I'll bow to your inferior knowledge :cool:
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I have seen maybe 30 mins total of Jerry Springer. It is appauling to see the diminished morals people flaunt these days.