Poll: Are any friendships forever?

[EyeMWing]

No context. Just your thoughts.

 

[AcidicFury]

Why not?

 

[ArmchairAthlete]

We don't quite live long enough.

 

[TallBill]

Some can, but are rare. I dont think I keep in touch with anyone regularly except my girlfriend. She should be my friend forevor.

 

[EyeMWing]

Originally posted by: TallBill
Some can, but are rare. I dont think I keep in touch with anyone regularly except my girlfriend. She should be my friend forevor.

:beer: Best of luck to you with that.

 

[Schadenfroh]

Originally posted by: TallBill
Some can, but are rare. I dont think I keep in touch with anyone regularly except my girlfriend. She should be my friend forevor.

You will, at some point, end up holding a gun to the forehead of everyone you become close to.

 

[maziwanka]

im not old enough to know the answer to this question

 

[SilentZero]

I think some are yes.

 

[EyeMWing]

Originally posted by: maziwanka
im not old enough to know the answer to this question

Take a really bad guess, then.

 

[maziwanka]

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: maziwanka
im not old enough to know the answer to this question

Take a really bad guess, then.

i'd like to say that there are. i've been fortunate to still be friends with ppl i've known since the 8th grade, when i moved to this town (im 23 now, so its 10+ years)

 

[brtspears2]

I say yes, but rarely. You get to the point where a friend starts to take advantage of you and you get stuck at a crossroads if you want to help them out or ditch them

(Had a friend in a group project, he didn't do anything, we excluded him, he fails class.)

 

[johnjbruin]

nothing lasts forever - be it people, relationships or materialistic things - it does not matter.

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

I believe many people have that special one or two person they can rely on in life.

The people I've been around with have been hurtful to me emotionally (yes, words do hurt), may be unknowingly, but their view of certain situations and mine are different. I see things from their side and thus I don't push the issue. Things have fallen to the wayside and relationships have drifted away. What a difference a year certainly makes. I've asked for their assistance and have been turned down. Contacts used to be mutual before. I've even tried to maintain contact and when I do call they just don't want to go out or hang out with you, what can I do. I've tried. In the end, I guess we mutually agreed to keep our distances. Small issues gets mangnifiied exponentially when you have many relatives elsewhere and gossip starts to happen when one phone call leads to another.

Because of these certain issues and experiences, I've grown to become more independent and mature. No longer do I rely on anybody but myself. Unfortunately at the same time as well I've become unwilling to deal with people in general. I don't put in the effort, alas, aside from contacts at work I really have no friend that I keep regular contact with.

I'm not going to go so low as to beg those mentioned above to be my friend. If that's the way it has to be, then it's alright with me.

And believe me, the issues have been laid on the table and addressed before and it went nowhere. I'm tired of it. Old people and parents have this certain fixated mentaility/thinking that one cannot change. If parents don't learn to let go and let me learn to walk and fall along the way, I'll never learn my own ways, that'll hurt whatever is left of a relationship even more so.

Right now I'm simply focusing on what I need to do in order to get myself out of this situation. As much as I hate to say it, I'm going to die a lonely old man, and I'm willing to come to terms with that.

Sorry for the rambling. Seems like I've written a whole lot about nothing and gone off topic in this thread. Just saw an opportunity for me to have a medium/forum to express some of the thoghts that's been inside me for the last little while.

But I'm sure my problems are miniscule compared to issues that other people face in their day to day lives, such as crab.

 

[puffff]

college friends and high school friends i dont think can last forever. cause most likely you will end up moving to different cities. you dont have to have a fight necessarily to break up a friendship. just being away from people for a long time will dissolve things.

 

[SynthDude2001]

Originally posted by: brtspears2
I say yes, but rarely. You get to the point where a friend starts to take advantage of you and you get stuck at a crossroads if you want to help them out or ditch them

That has been my experience as well in the past few years (I'm only 20 though).

Edit: Not with all my friends though. I've just been too trusting of people who in retrospect didn't deserve that trust at all...

 

[lavagirl669]

I think they can and do at least for me.

I've been friends with my two best friends for 30+ years each since we were kids.

We still keep in touch, and will do anything for each other in times of need or otherwise.

That is true friendship imo.

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: TallBill
Some can, but are rare. I dont think I keep in touch with anyone regularly except my girlfriend. She should be my friend forevor.

This is a problem with hetero males. Their social world contracts to their female life partner, if they are not careful. Why not take the time to nurture friendships with people of both sexes outside your primary relationship?

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: brtspears2
I say yes, but rarely. You get to the point where a friend starts to take advantage of you and you get stuck at a crossroads if you want to help them out or ditch them

(Had a friend in a group project, he didn't do anything, we excluded him, he fails class.)

I hate that group mentality. How difficult would it have been to "carry" him for that one class? That's what I would have done.

 

[Trygve]

Sure. Some of them hold steady through the years, with others you drift closer and further apart as time and circumstances change. There are some people that I always have some degree of contact with, others who can disappear for years, but are still friends when they turn up again. Going from friendship to hating each other's guts is neither inevitable nor even likely.

 

[UncleWai]

I have examples for both sides.

I completely lost contact with my best friend during middle/high school. Partly because he is white and we hang with different crowd now.

I have quite a few old elementary schoolmates from Hong Kong that I am still great friends with. Two of them came over to Seattle to study. We hang out all the time here.

 

[AndyK47]

I've had friends come and go during elementary, middle, and High School. Some of them I don't talk to at all anymore, and the rest are more like acquaintences now. Since I started college this year, I haven't kept in contact much with my friends from high school....it's a whole new world beyond high school. Who knows whether or not I'll keep in contact with my friends from high school/college around 10 years from now.

 

[Cougar]

Forever is impossible to achieve since we won't live that long, but I think it's entirely possible to be friends for life. What tends to complicate things is when people move away. I've had some really good friends move away and slowly we lost contact to the point where we've never spoken again. I've got some really good friendships now that will probably fade once they move on in life and while it sucks when that happens I guess it's almost inevitable. I've tried to keep in touch with friends that have moved but when they never respond to you then there's not too much you can do about it.

 

[AndyK47]

You will, at some point, end up holding a gun to the forehead of everyone you become close to.

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I wouldn't say everyone...but I have felt that way about a couple of people during high school... they were the ones that were always critical of people, obnoxious, and only wanted things done their way....since college started, I realized I didn't have to put up with their two-year-old sh!t anymore so I cut off contact with them.

 

[jjones]

Some can last a lifetime.

 

[brigden]

I've had the same best friend for over twenty years. We've had our ups and downs and there have been times where I haven't spoken to him in years, but we've always managed to put things behind us and remain the best of friends.