I recently met a guy I'll call Tom through a friend.
Tom has been having a lot of trouble recently. One of his two best friends committed suicide a year ago, and his uncle and other best friend were just killed in unrelated car accidents. He was in pretty bad condition, so I felt obligated to keep him going, feeling alright. He's a bit better now, but not where I would call him completely stable.
I never really liked him too much. His personality just grates on me a bit, and we're a bit "mismatched." Unfortunately, he believes that I am his best friend now. My friends and I were all around when he was going through the rough patch, and he says that "in losing his two best friends, he's gained 3 more". Well DAMN, I would feel horrible to leave now!
On top of that, I've still been spending time with him to make sure he's still O.K. A couple days ago, he found time to talk to me when we were alone. He told me that when his best friend had committed suicide, he had done it by putting a shotgun to his head. On top of that, Tom walked in right as the gun went off. Apparently, his friend had not done a very good job of killing himself, and he died in much pain in Tom's arms after asking Tom to finish the job. You can imagine what this has done to Tom emotionally.
Anyway, he told me the entire story, and then proceeded to tell me that although he has made 3 new friends, he considers me to be the closest, and the only one who can connect on an emotional level. He gave me a tolkien that belonged to his dead friend, saying "As long as we have this, we'll always be friends".
I absolutely cannot walk out on him right now. He could not handle the trauma of being left alone, and I could not handle being the one putting him in that place. I'm growing to like him more (it's hard not to like a nice person) but I'm not sure if I'll ever feel as if he's my best friend, or even anywhere near it.
I'm not sure if you guys can provide help for me with this one. Maybe I just felt that I needed to vent. But I'm having a very hard time with this, and I'm not sure what to do.
Tom has been having a lot of trouble recently. One of his two best friends committed suicide a year ago, and his uncle and other best friend were just killed in unrelated car accidents. He was in pretty bad condition, so I felt obligated to keep him going, feeling alright. He's a bit better now, but not where I would call him completely stable.
I never really liked him too much. His personality just grates on me a bit, and we're a bit "mismatched." Unfortunately, he believes that I am his best friend now. My friends and I were all around when he was going through the rough patch, and he says that "in losing his two best friends, he's gained 3 more". Well DAMN, I would feel horrible to leave now!
On top of that, I've still been spending time with him to make sure he's still O.K. A couple days ago, he found time to talk to me when we were alone. He told me that when his best friend had committed suicide, he had done it by putting a shotgun to his head. On top of that, Tom walked in right as the gun went off. Apparently, his friend had not done a very good job of killing himself, and he died in much pain in Tom's arms after asking Tom to finish the job. You can imagine what this has done to Tom emotionally.
Anyway, he told me the entire story, and then proceeded to tell me that although he has made 3 new friends, he considers me to be the closest, and the only one who can connect on an emotional level. He gave me a tolkien that belonged to his dead friend, saying "As long as we have this, we'll always be friends".
I absolutely cannot walk out on him right now. He could not handle the trauma of being left alone, and I could not handle being the one putting him in that place. I'm growing to like him more (it's hard not to like a nice person) but I'm not sure if I'll ever feel as if he's my best friend, or even anywhere near it.
I'm not sure if you guys can provide help for me with this one. Maybe I just felt that I needed to vent. But I'm having a very hard time with this, and I'm not sure what to do.
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