I live in MA and I've never known anyone to be bitten or hurt by a brown recluse spider.
I know the internet says otherwise but I believe their danger is overrated.
Yeah it absolutely is. I also personally think that the big awful bite photos you see aren't caused by the venom itself but rather by the bites getting infected and then the person not doing anything about it for extended period of time.
Recluses don't like being near people, they don't like to bite larger things, and generally only will when they don't have much option (they're in bedding/clothes, right up against the skin and can't scurry away, so its bite or get crushed in their view). And then they might not inject venom, and even if they do the chances of it turning into one of the huge sloughing awful ones is very rare. You'd much more typically get a probably itchy lesion and I think people probably get them infected and that's when they fester into something a lot worse. Even then, I think most of those instances the people also went several weeks or even months before going to a doctor about it.
I think it is similar to the Komodo Dragons. They supposedly had venomous saliva, but it turns out the opposite was true. Because they often like to eat festering dead organisms that are lousy with bacteria, when they would get checked they'd have that in their mouths (I believe they have something kinda like crocodiles where their blood actually makes them resistant to infection/diseases), and then that got extrapolated to them having bacterially poisonous saliva. The nasty recluse bites I think are actually infected with strains of flesh-eating bacteria, and its not the venom that destroys that much tissue.