Please advise what one of my family member should do.

[kyrax12]

So I am just recounting what she told me:

Apparently it was a racist encounter with a black female. It was in a gym class and she told the black female if she can move since adequate space is needed to perform some of the exercise. The black female apparently responded with: "Why don't you go back to China"?

This devastated her and if she wasn't racist before, she probably is now.
I was surprised because the gym is pretty diverse. I haven't encounter any racism when I been there for around three years now. So I want to try to consult her.
Right now I am afraid for her safety. I don't know what that black person would do. I don't want a fight to happen or something bad to happen to her.

So my plan is to tell her to remain cordial the next time they meet. Just to paint a bad light onto that black female. If bystanders see a helpless Asian female getting racist insults hurled towards her and was not fighting back in any way, maybe they would be more inclined to help. If not, then the black female will have a bad outlook from the other gym members.

 

[manimal]

tell her to toughen up and say something back next time. Something along the lines of

I am not from china. Are you from my asshole? Because you sure look like the last thing that came out of there.


Now this response has nothing to do with the race of the person. If a latin american or Antarctican said it I would say the same thing.

Now if someone from italy said it I would have called them a wop because I am a wop and can say anything I want about italians. Especially Northern italians. dont get me started.....

 

[kyrax12]

tell her to toughen up and say something back next time. Something along the lines of

I am not from china. Are you from my asshole? Because you sure look like the last thing that came out of there.

I am afraid that might escalate to a physical confrontation.

 

[mrjminer]

It's high school dude. Getting told to go back to China? I wouldn't worry about it. Just tell her to ignore the other girl. If you really fear for her safety or something, tell the school; they'll at least talk to the other student, but be prepared that if there really was a problem beyond just someone being a bitch at the time that will probably make it worse.

I think you are overreacting, though. Getting told to go back to China is a joke compared to some of the shit everyone from my high school would say about pretty much anyone for anything about them.

 

[manimal]

Was just kidding.


har har


In all seriousness I came to the states when I was seven and I experienced the very best of the midwest had to offer in terms of name calling and racism. I am italian sescent but because I was born and lived in south america kids called me everything from beautiful ray of sunshine to jesus.

Tell her the truth. While many or most of us are in fact human inside some people are made of tears inside. All they can do is give them to others.

Tell her the tears will glance off her back while she rides a unicorn into the sky



In all seriousness though people can be really mean. Doesnt change who you are.

 

[Brainonska511]

"Go back to China"? Jeez, we're not talking about someone who built the the railroads here...
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She should have called the other person out for being an idiot and then simply found another spot to do the exercise. Not much else you can really do unless you want to start a physical confrontation, and that's generally not advisable.

 

[kyrax12]

It's high school dude. Getting told to go back to China? I wouldn't worry about it. Just tell her to ignore the other girl. If you really fear for her safety or something, tell the school; they'll at least talk to the other student, but be prepared that if there really was a problem beyond just someone being a bitch at the time that will probably make it worse.

I think you are overreacting, though. Getting told to go back to China is a joke compared to some of the shit everyone from my high school would say about pretty much anyone for anything about them.

I am going to surprise you but it is actually not in High School. It was between two very grown women.

 

[mrjminer]

I am going to surprise you but it is actually not in High School. It was between two very grown women.

ROFL, that is surprising. I was thinking gym class.

Still, I wouldn't worry about it, tell her to just ignore the other lady.

 

[kyrax12]

ROFL, that is surprising. I was thinking gym class.

Still, I wouldn't worry about it, tell her to just ignore the other lady.

A Class in the gym heh.

Anyways, I am scared if she gets hurt. Physically. I don't know how racist usually will react.

 

[unokitty]

So I am just recounting what she told me:

Apparently it was a racist encounter with a black female. It was in a gym class and she told the black female if she can move since adequate space is needed to perform some of the exercise. The black female apparently responded with: "Why don't you go back to China"?

This devastated her and if she wasn't racist before, she probably is now.
I was surprised because the gym is pretty diverse. I haven't encounter any racism when I been there for around three years now. So I want to try to consult her.
Right now I am afraid for her safety. I don't know what that black person would do. I don't want a fight to happen or something bad to happen to her.

So my plan is to tell her to remain cordial the next time they meet. Just to paint a bad light onto that black female. If bystanders see a helpless Asian female getting racist insults hurled towards her and was not fighting back in any way, maybe they would be more inclined to help. If not, then the black female will have a bad outlook from the other gym members.

If you live long enough, you will meet some people that are ignorant.

After I meet someone like that, I try to remember that they will likely remain ignorant. And perhaps, that is a better alternative than me even acknowledging their ignorance... Besides isn't living well the best revenge?

Sounds like you have given your cousin good advise... Don't know that it would be prudent to over react.

Live long and prosper,
Uno

 

[HamburgerBoy]

She was probably hoping that your friend would be racist back, so that she could pull the black card and get a 15 minute segment about the horrible institutional racism that exists against black people. Also, the black woman wasn't being racist, she was being bigoted, you racist.

 

[sam_816]

Should have called the gym authorities and then police. That bitch wanted 10 minutes of fame, your family member should have given that. Unlike other members of the forum, I would not like to advise to ignore her. Its a win for such ppl. That means next time they will have more confidence and the next racist verbal assault will be much worse.

 

[It's Not Lupus]

Next encounter, have your family member subdue this black female's attitude with kung-fu.

Or say, Why don't you go back to Africa?

 

[Ruptga]

Or say, Why don't you go back to * ?

Just do that, unless they're an American Indian. The idiot could then choose to escalate, and they probably would since they already did once, but your options are basically limited to either that or being a doormat. If you're lucky an employee of the gym will be handy and you can take a third option, but if you were lucky you wouldn't be in this situation would you? If it's not worth fighting over, just cancel and try to find someplace that doesn't let in shitheads.

 

[dank69]

She could always set fire to the building.

 

[Brainonska511]

She could always set fire to the building.

Only if they take her stapler.