Pet Peeve -- the passive agressive putdown

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OverVolt

Lifer
Aug 31, 2002
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Not a good example. I agree with you, but the example sucks.

Good example:

A parent is waiting in line at the store, ready to check out. Their children are being loud and obnoxious. Customer behind parent says, loud enough for parent to hear but to no one in particular, "God! I wish terrible parents who can't control their own children would stay home."

It is a put down, and it is passive aggressive because it is indirect. People do this type of stuff a lot and always look like little beaten dogs when confronted directly. It is a personality trait that is NEVER a good thing.

Hehe and just be like "I know your talking about my children and I really don't appreciate it."
 

Apple Of Sodom

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Hehe and just be like "I know your talking about my children and I really don't appreciate it."

Exactly. In those instances you look them in the eye and say "If you have a problem with me or what I'm doing then you can say it to my face." They stammer, they retract their statement or make excuses in most cases. Why? Because of the same personality trait that would make them be passive aggressive. Passive aggressives are to confrontation as hippies are to bathing.
 

blackdogdeek

Lifer
Mar 14, 2003
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Exactly. In those instances you look them in the eye and say "If you have a problem with me or what I'm doing then you can say it to my face." They stammer, they retract their statement or make excuses in most cases. Why? Because of the same personality trait that would make them be passive aggressive. Passive aggressives are to confrontation as hippies are to bathing.

better yet, just ask the person if he or she is referring to your kids. it forces the person to either be confrontational by saying "yes" or remove you of any responsibility by saying "no".
 

GasX

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Feb 8, 2001
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I like reverse passive aggressive.

<loud voice> Hey kids, remember that time Daddy beat the shit out of that asshole who didn't mind his own business?
 

Exterous

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Hehe and just be like "I know your talking about my children and I really don't appreciate it."

Hey - not all people who make passive aggressive comments are afraid to back them up. I made passive aggressive and aggressive comments all the time and am not afraid to switch if need be
 

Cookie

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I hate those too (irl only, online who cares?). I'm usually too stunned at the time to say anything in response.

I'm still irritated 2 days later about one incident. Was walking my dog on the pathway along the river and 2 topless gay guys are walking the opposite way with 2 dogs. They cross the pathway to block my way and one guy tells one of his dogs to go say hi to mine, he didn't say anything to me. I had to stop because they blocked the entire pathway. The dogs growled at each other a bit, and mine, being a playful puppy nipped the other's ear. I grab my pup closer and force my way past them, and the boyfriend says to the other "That thing needs a muzzle". No asshole, he needs you to stop cornering him and get the fuck on your own side of the path.

Why does it still make me angry?