Originally posted by: yayo
So what happens when you met someone. And you are attracted to them. A lot! Everything about this person makes you drawn to them. You think to yourself. "This might be the one!" Then you find out they smoke.
You lose interest, just like that? IMO if your feeling went that deep, couldn't you try to work on it? There is always the possibility they would be willing to quit.
I'd state, "well, I don't date smokers." If she offers to quit right then and there and actually follows through on it, sure. But, otherwise, no way. I hate it. My ex smoked and despite years of pleading by friends and family (her family has a history of cancer and heart disease) she never did. She couldn't smoke in the house so she'd be on the backsteps or the front porch puffing away and 1/2 the time would toss her cig butts into the yard. That really got on my nerves...made me feel like I was living in a trailer park and this subdivision was far from that.
I've vowed to never date a smoker.
They may be fine, upstanding individuals but they won't be a major part of my life.