I cannot appropriately express how deluded this kind of thinking is. I (and most of my peers) did all kinds of stuff that if caught would have landed us in a world of trouble. Didn't stop us from doing it though.
Also, the "when they're ready" approach usually has the effect of closing the barn door several to many years after the horses got out. Puberty waits for no one.
I have no idea what this means to be honest, but it doesn't really matter because it's not delusional to put up boundaries for kids. Given the opportunity to do whatever they want, they'll do whatever they want. I was given too much freedom as a kid and I ended up suffering for it every once in a while. I will let my kids make mistakes and incur penalties for overstepping my boundaries as that's part of life, but there's a huge difference between certain boundaries. A 10 year old shouldn't be looking at hardcore porn. I don't know where the line is, but I know it's after 10.
ahh.. it's parents u like that girls turn into porn stars at age 18.
repressed sexuality. at 18, she knows there's no more restrictions forced upon her
No, not really. It sounds good for an argument on a forum, though, so have at it. I had sex as a teenager and I fully expect my kids will as well, but that doesn't mean they should be looking at hardcore porn.
Why do you think you have a better idea of when someone is ready to look at porn? What metric are you using? Age? What's that magical age? When/where/why did you come up with that age? People mature at different rates. My guess is, it's not when the kids are ready, it's when YOU'RE ready because this 'problem' is all about yourself and your selfish ideas of when children should mature not when they're actually maturing.
You're trying to abstract one concept into an entire parenting methodology and it's just not that simple. I don't know when a person should look at porn because personally I think the answer is never, but I know for certain 10 is too young. We can debate whichever part of this you want to debate, but there's two issues at play here. Pick one and keep it specific instead of trying to tell me I want to control puberty. The last few sentences of your post are fucking retarded and not relevant or correct.
My parent's were neither ignorant, nor oblivious. In fact, they were pretty involved in both the lives of my sister and I. I actually have a great respect for how we were raised. My parents are two of my best friends, and yet never blurred the line when were children; they were clearly in charge. They actually leaned on the strict side, especially relative to my contemporaries. Severe consequences over porn? Sounds like it's simply that you prefer the head in the sand approach to sex at that age. How exactly do you gauge when "ready" is? I have no ill effects. Hell, there are 20 year olds who still aren't "mature" enough to "appropriately" handle porn or sex.
No head in the sand here, but you guys sure are using all of the great catch phrases today. I'll answer any questions he has, which he has many, but there's simply no good reason that I know of to allow him to watch hardcore porn. Please give me three good reasons that he should, at such a young age, be watching porn. If it's so easy to understand and not harmful, you should be able to cite several credible sources showing real data that it has positive benefits. I'll change my policy if you can provide that information.
As for severe consequences, you can parent however you want and I'll parent however I want. I said no and made it clear that it wasn't a rule he has any leeway to break, so if he goes against that then he has to deal with it. That's not specific to internet usage. I make it clear which rules are actual rules and which ones are meant to be taken with a grain of salt, which he figures out anyway. This isn't rocket science nor is it uncommon. I knew which things I could get away with doing as a kid and which rules I absolutely would pay dearly if I disobeyed. I grew up learning to respect authority while also understanding I had the right to question that same authority - a concept I will instill in him because it has real merit. He can and does question most rules just like any other kid, and we afford him quite a bit of flexibility to fall down and pick himself up. There are things that kids don't need to see, though, until they're older and porn is one of them. It's absolutely ludicrous how many of you are advocating for young children to watch porn.
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