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"pampered child syndrome" - have you seen or experienced this..?

Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
most of my friends suffer this. they all moved back home after college and most are doing nothing with their lives.
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With any luck they'll fail to reproduce.
 
I see over-protecting kids from all of life's harsh realities is actually a subtle form of child abuse. what happens when those kids get into "the world" and experience failure or hardship for the first time? they won't have developed any skills to cope with failure, disappointment, etc.
 
Thats part of our burgeoning social problems in the west. Parents need to let their kids learn they are ulitmately responsible for their choices, and the ensuing consequences. Parenting otherwise will indubitably increase the sociopathic mentalities as article alluded to...
Most important parenting duty is to raise children capable of making appropriate choices, NOT to insulate them from any negative consequences etc. You CANNOT prevent every injustice, pain, or failure, and shouldnt ry to. ONLY if the act against the child was immoral, unethical, illegal or patently unfair...then again, life is not fair either...

for exhibit #1 I would like to introduce my brother-in-law...
 
Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
most of my friends suffer this. they all moved back home after college and most are doing nothing with their lives.
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I can guarantee you one thing, and I have told my wife this, I will NOT allow my kids to stay in my home after college. Hell, I'm actually leaning to after High School. It will NOT happen.
 
Originally posted by: upsciLLion
Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
most of my friends suffer this. they all moved back home after college and most are doing nothing with their lives.
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With any luck they'll fail to reproduce.
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its just unfortunate... they are all very smart and capable, they have just never been pushed
 
""Kids will come in wanting to be a staff writer at Esquire right out of college," said Eliot Kaplan, editorial talent director for Hearst magazines. "I had this girl come in from this failed dot-com one day -- that was her only experience. I interviewed her and asked her how much money she wanted, and she said $300,000. I couldn't help it -- I laughed in her face." Kaplan added: "We're happy to bring them back to earth.""

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Originally posted by: CPA
Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
most of my friends suffer this. they all moved back home after college and most are doing nothing with their lives.
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I can guarantee you one thing, and I have told my wife this, I will NOT allow my kids to stay in my home after college. Hell, I'm actually leaning to after High School. It will NOT happen.
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Good for you!
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But this article does seem to have too much common sense in it. What a wonderful discovery. I hear about it from my SO - parents coming in and demanding a grade be changed. Needless to say they don't change the grade and explain "your daughter is failing and you've not responded to all the letters we sent to you via certified mail"
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: CPA
Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
most of my friends suffer this. they all moved back home after college and most are doing nothing with their lives.
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I can guarantee you one thing, and I have told my wife this, I will NOT allow my kids to stay in my home after college. Hell, I'm actually leaning to after High School. It will NOT happen.
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Good for you!
:thumbsup:

But this article does seem to have too much common sense in it. What a wonderful discovery. I hear about it from my SO - parents coming in and demanding a grade be changed. Needless to say they don't change the grade and explain "your daughter is failing and you've not responded to all the letters we sent to you via certified mail"
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I would never demand a grade change.

In fact, my son's grades dropped dramatically recently. I took the powercord out of the computer and he sits from 6-8pm studying each night now. It was his and my fault that his grades dropped. It got corrected quickly.
 
When i worked at the grocery store during the summer i saw this happen a lot. The parents seemed to take a lot of the screaming their kids did for candy and other random stuff. One dad i saw would give the kid whatever he pointed at right away but the kid would continue to scream.

I know when i was younger i would get the **** smacked out of me. If i made anything lower then a B the same thing would happen.
 
Originally posted by: aidanjm
I see over-protecting kids from all of life's harsh realities is actually a subtle form of child abuse. what happens when those kids get into "the world" and experience failure or hardship for the first time? they won't have developed any skills to cope with failure, disappointment, etc.
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Thats exactly how I see it. You do your children no favors by letting them stay weak.

 
I think the best approach is to let your children fail and feel real world heartaches, but make sure they know you are always there for them.🙂
 
I'm at that age.....I graduate college next year, my parents are going to allow me one year back at their house then I have to leave. Hopefully I've make enough money for a down payment on a small house/condo in that time. And they've always shown me the jaded side of life and let me experience failure on purpose. I was pissed at them at first for doing it but now at 20 I definitely thank them for it. Not to mention I work at a pretty hard edged job that I managed to find on my own. (Inner city trauma hospital in Detroit). They pick up my college tab(again their rule if i get enough scholarships for over half the cost each year they'd pick up the rest) However I pay for everything else, car, cell phone, food, etc. And I cant complain at all. With my wages(roughly $16/hr as a student nurse) I have enough money for all my expenses along with a little to save and a little for personal spending.

Overall I think my parents did a great job and how they raised me is how I intend to raise my children as well.
 
Originally posted by: aidanjm
""Kids will come in wanting to be a staff writer at Esquire right out of college," said Eliot Kaplan, editorial talent director for Hearst magazines. "I had this girl come in from this failed dot-com one day -- that was her only experience. I interviewed her and asked her how much money she wanted, and she said $300,000. I couldn't help it -- I laughed in her face." Kaplan added: "We're happy to bring them back to earth.""

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It's been a long, long time since I laughed that hard. Oh, brother. $300,000!
 
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