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Depending on the laws in your state, you don't really have to make them sign anything. A verbal agreement is also a legally binding contract. Above all, make sure you lay out the rules in the beginning and leave nothing to question, such as smoking, comments on your lifestyle, how long they are staying, etc. I would also accept the rent payment. Your mom's b/f obviously knew that you planned to rent out the room for some more income, so he wants to pay rent to compensate. It sounds like a fair deal to me.

If I were in your position, I would gladly help them out, but you always have to look out for #1 first. I've heard too many horror stories about mixing family with business and it ending badly for all parties involved. Be absolutely sure to cover your ass.
 
If you can guarantee it'll be temporary, sure. Maybe give them a break on the rent if he's willing to finish the facilities down there.
 
C'mon man..do you have to ask?

I'd do it in a heartbeat -- I :heart: my mother. 🙂

Originally posted by: z0mb13
For god sakes man its your MOM! let them stay in your basement for free!
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Q. F. T.
 
dude this is ur mom. if u had no place to go, ur parents would (should) welcome u in with open arms.
 
i think i'd come up with a set date that you are going to rent the room to other tenants, so that they know they have to move out again. then, i'd tell them to skip the rent and have the b/f install a kitchen for you (you pay for materials, he works for free). that will help them get on their feet, and help you rent the room afterwards. good for everybody.
 
Originally posted by: SampSon
Sure, help em out, unless they are the type of people who overstay their welcome.

Make sure they know that you own the house and make the rules. If they don't like it, move out.
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i think you made a great decision...

just think how uncomfortable it was for your mother's bf to ask you to let them move into your place while they look for a place of their own.

:thumbsup:
 
Originally posted by: zixxer
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Personally, I'd help her out. It's only temporary.

Just let her know that you aren't interested in her opinion of your lifestyle. I'd certainly lay down some ground rules. Such as, she is allowed to comment on things once (lifestyle or drinking for instance) but don't keep bringing things up over and over again. If she doesn't like it she can move out.
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My real main worry is that it 'turns' permanent. These types of things tend to inherently last a long long time
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Yeah, that's a big risk right there...Good luck!
 
The only thing that concerns me is that you said the boyfriend doesn't want to sign a one year lease for an apartment somewhere. It's going to be pretty difficult to find a decent place that doesn't require at least a one year lease, at least it is around here.

If things aren't going real well, you may want to get started on that kitchen area and have a set date for when you're going to list the place for rent. If things do go well, who knows you might like having them there, then you can always delay listing it.
 
Originally posted by: montanafan
The only thing that concerns me is that you said the boyfriend doesn't want to sign a one year lease for an apartment somewhere. It's going to be pretty difficult to find a decent place that doesn't require at least a one year lease, at least it is around here.

If things aren't going real well, you may want to get started on that kitchen area and have a set date for when you're going to list the place for rent. If things do go well, who knows you might like having them there, then you can always delay listing it.
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They want to buy a house. He has some issues with his credit that will take about a month before they drop off - and he doesn't want to sign a 1 year lease on an apartment when they are going to buy the house in a month.
 
Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
What if you hear him nailing your mom?
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Every tenant has their good qualities and the bad....

Earplugs FTW!

(Unless this is <insert southern state here>, in which case he could join in. hey..if she stays until halloween, they can celbrate together. You know, the rednecks favorite part of Halloween/Thanksgiving is PUMP KIN. (space added for clarity)

 
Do you honestly think that your Mom would listen to you if gave her a list of rules to follow? I know that mine wouldn't... she's my MOM for pete's sake. In her mind, I'm biologically obligated to follow her orders until the day she dies.

Sure, I love my parents, but I'd never let them move in with me. I know that they would try to run my life, and it would drive me nuts.
 
Originally posted by: ultimatebob
Do you honestly think that your Mom would listen to you if gave her a list of rules to follow? I know that mine wouldn't... she's my MOM for pete's sake. In her mind, I'm biologically obligated to follow her orders until the day she dies.

Sure, I love my parents, but I'd never let them move in with me. I know that they would try to run my life, and it would drive me nuts.
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Hell no she won't listen. Oh well. Whether I like it or not I really couldn't/can't say no. They're moving in in the next couple of days. Woo... hoo... I'm gonna try to make the best of it
 
Originally posted by: zixxer
Originally posted by: ultimatebob
Do you honestly think that your Mom would listen to you if gave her a list of rules to follow? I know that mine wouldn't... she's my MOM for pete's sake. In her mind, I'm biologically obligated to follow her orders until the day she dies.

Sure, I love my parents, but I'd never let them move in with me. I know that they would try to run my life, and it would drive me nuts.
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Hell no she won't listen. Oh well. Whether I like it or not I really couldn't/can't say no. They're moving in in the next couple of days. Woo... hoo... I'm gonna try to make the best of it
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:thumbsup:

 
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