Ooooo! Tough call. I get to play a bastard!

[MaxDepth]

This past weekend I sent out two sets of invitations to a female friend's birthday party. I was appointed this role by her. There was one invite that included dinner and party afterwards. The other invite was just for the party. The ones who got the former knew that they were a small group of close friends. OK.

Now, I get an email from one of the second group who technically could be part of the first group. She is the former housemate to the b-day girl. Not only does she say that she is going to the dinner but that she wants to bring her new best friend, one that many of the close friends either don't care for or outright despise her. Together these two are drama divas who feel they must draw everyone's attention to themselves. This is not cool for someone else's birthday. I don't know how or where she got the dinner location - prolly from grilling one of the close friends, or was sly and asked one of the close friends what they are wearing for dinner or they couldn't remember how to get to the dinner. She is that devious, I believe.

Well, our birthday girl is a sweet adorable and ultimately too nice of a person to say no. However, since I'm the grandmaster of this party, I get to email her back and say no. The only worry is that both will take affront of that and put our b-day girl on their sh!t list. While I could care less what they think about me (actually, I wouldn't mind them hating me), I don't want them saying hateful things about her.

Yup, even people in their late 20's and early 30's behave like little children. Except now, their spite and vindictivenss is more far reaching and more nasty than any child's.


Da Anand Short Notes
I invited a small group of friends to person's b-day dinner.
Wicked Witches want to join in the dinner and I say no.
Will they try to crash? Will they try to take out there spite on her instead of me (where they know it won't work)?

 

[Rufio]

change the location and don't tell them!

 

[djheater]

Never underestimate the persuasive power of honesty and sincerity. Take your time and explain it simply.

 

[pyonir]

why would your friend be friends with people like that in the first place?

 

[MazerRackham]

Say the reservation for dinner is already in, and that the restaurant can't accommodate any larger of a party...

 

[tkdkid]

"Sorry, we made reservations for X number of people only." If that works anyway...

hehe....1/2 of a second too late...

 

[Jzero]

This whole "A" list dinner and "B" list party is flat out asking for this kind of crap. She should have just called her close friends for dinner together some other night. The whole thing sounds childish to begin with, if you ask me.

 

[Nitemare]

If she does crash, put everybody's name in the hat, rig it so that hers is drawn, and the winner gets to pay for the food and beverage consumptions. Make sure you order very expensive things

 

[TranceNation]

Just invite the ex-housemate and only her.
Tell her that the dinner is for close friends only and that other people don't get along with her friend that she is bringing.
Leave it at that.

 

[RadBrad]

Originally posted by: Nitemare
If she does crash, put everybody's name in the hat, rig it so that hers is drawn, and the winner gets to pay for the food and beverage consumptions. Make sure you order very expensive things

Best idea yet!

 

[MaxDepth]

This person asked if she could have dinner with just her closest friends. But she wanted everyone she knew to enjoy a party, which is being catered fully by me. I don't see the problem of having two separate events. And people should respect that; you cannot expect to be everyone's closest friend. And sometimes popularity doesn't always include you.

Well, except for you Jzero. We all love you!

 

[Amorphus]

After seeing the thread title and the first sentence, I thought you were going to be play the part of a bastrad at a "girls' party" :Q

 

[kermalou]

Originally posted by: MaxDepth
This past weekend I sent out two sets of invitations to a female friend's birthday party. I was appointed this role by her. There was one invite that included dinner and party afterwards. The other invite was just for the party. The ones who got the former knew that they were a small group of close friends. OK.

Now, I get an email from one of the second group who technically could be part of the first group. She is the former housemate to the b-day girl. Not only does she say that she is going to the dinner but that she wants to bring her new best friend, one that many of the close friends either don't care for or outright despise her. Together these two are drama divas who feel they must draw everyone's attention to themselves. This is not cool for someone else's birthday. I don't know how or where she got the dinner location - prolly from grilling one of the close friends, or was sly and asked one of the close friends what they are wearing for dinner or they couldn't remember how to get to the dinner. She is that devious, I believe.

Well, our birthday girl is a sweet adorable and ultimately too nice of a person to say no. However, since I'm the grandmaster of this party, I get to email her back and say no. The only worry is that both will take affront of that and put our b-day girl on their sh!t list. While I could care less what they think about me (actually, I wouldn't mind them hating me), I don't want them saying hateful things about her.

Yup, even people in their late 20's and early 30's behave like little children. Except now, their spite and vindictivenss is more far reaching and more nasty than any child's.


Da Anand Short Notes
I invited a small group of friends to person's b-day dinner.
Wicked Witches want to join in the dinner and I say no.
Will they try to crash? Will they try to take out there spite on her instead of me (where they know it won't work)?

are you gay?

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: MaxDepth
This person asked if she could have dinner with just her closest friends. But she wanted everyone she knew to enjoy a party, which is being catered fully by me. I don't see the problem of having two separate events. And people should respect that; you cannot expect to be everyone's closest friend. And sometimes popularity doesn't always include you.

Well, except for you Jzero. We all love you!

I advocate two SEPARATE events, but by formalizing the dinner into an "invite-only" affair, you set yourself up for this. Around we just send an e-mail to our little "clique" saying "So-and-so's birthday. Let's celebrate at X location at X time. Who is in?" This event is never adjacent to the actual party, and no actual invitations are sent to anyone, so no one can just "catch wind" of it and try to horn in.

 

[MaxDepth]

Yup, you're right, Jzero. I should have done these things are two separate nights. Live and learn, hopefully.

And as to kermalou's question: Nope, I'm not. I used to be her boyfriend. But we fought a lot and now we seem to be better suited as "friends with benefits."

 

[Rufio]

Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Yup, you're right, Jzero. I should have done these things are two separate nights. Live and learn, hopefully.

And as to kermalou's question: Nope, I'm not. I used to be her boyfriend. But we fought a lot and now we seem to be better suited as "friends with benefits."

you're her biatch!

 

[TitanDiddly]

Tell them that you're very sorry, but the reservations have already been made and the restaurant won't let you change them.