OnLine gaming and falling in "love" ... Psychology please ...

[Noid]

Hello all,

I've been running a game server for a few years now...

And ... I noticed that some game genre's can lead to "what is percieved as" relationships between players.

Most noticable are the players who use the word "Love".

I think most are teenagers ...

But ,,, anyway ,,, I have some perceptions on "why they fall in love" with another player (gamer)....

I think this could be a good topic ... anyone want to relate thier "experiences" or "perceptions" ?

 

[Zim Hosein]

I love you

 

[Koing]

Horny guy teenage likes to play games and also likes girls.

He sees girl plays game he falls in love with her. Because he likes games and girls. She likes to game as shes online playing whatever game and she is a girl.

 

[Noid]

thanks for that wonderfull 12,000th post Zim

....

well ,,, maybe that kid is falling in "Love" with a mom with kids ... husband .. etc ...

I find it all ... interesting to see...

 

[Isla]

Originally posted by: Noid
Hello all,

I've been running a game server for a few years now...

And ... I noticed that some game genre's can lead to "what is percieved as" relationships between players.

Most noticable are the players who use the word "Love".

I think most are teenagers ...

But ,,, anyway ,,, I have some perceptions on "why they fall in love" with another player (gamer)....

I think this could be a good topic ... anyone want to relate thier "experiences" or "perceptions" ?

Fantasy and projection... they project what qualities they want onto the other player, making him or her seem perfect. And since it is on-line, there isn't much to burst the little bubble of fantasy!

In real life, the little bubble usually gets burst right after the honeymoon.

Just my .02!

 

[Kadarin]

From the Captain Obvious department: Because these kids don't interact enough with each other in real life, their online interactions take on added importance.

 

[Whisper]

Same reasons that when internet chatting got big, lots of middle-aged housewives began falling in love with online chat partners. It's a mix of a bunch of different things, and is different for every person. But yeah, there isn't as much in an online arena to "burst your bubble" as there is in real-life. You just have to take everything with a grain of salt.

 

[Noid]

... sometimes ... on one of my other server games... (COOP)

... I'd find 2 players ... (one from Texas and the other from Indiana (older mature players)) (not to mention others from around the world) .. chatting for hours (very latenite) ...
... goofing around verbally .. and using the character models ... on a empty server ...


... so .. its not all kids play ...

 

[yoda291]

Originally posted by: Isla

Originally posted by: Noid
Hello all,

I've been running a game server for a few years now...

And ... I noticed that some game genre's can lead to "what is percieved as" relationships between players.

Most noticable are the players who use the word "Love".

I think most are teenagers ...

But ,,, anyway ,,, I have some perceptions on "why they fall in love" with another player (gamer)....

I think this could be a good topic ... anyone want to relate thier "experiences" or "perceptions" ?

Fantasy and projection... they project what qualities they want onto the other player, making him or her seem perfect. And since it is on-line, there isn't much to burst the little bubble of fantasy!

In real life, the little bubble usually gets burst right after the honeymoon.

Just my .02!

so wait a minute...are you saying you don't love me isla?

 

[ElFenix]

what kinda game server do you have set up?

 

[Angrymarshmello]

It's their weird f-ed up perception. Love? They've never met the person.

 

[Noid]

I'm running NOLF2 right now ...
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Yesterday ... a player popped in .. just to say ... "Tell (player) I love her ,, and I miss her"

I cant tell ya how many times I've seen that ...

 

[Yossarian]

I regularly fall in love with forum members. They never give me the time of day though.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

They can't see how ugly the chicks are.

 

[Noid]

Ok, this is my take so far ...


I think its a combination of things.

1.) Written text and responses validate communication not recieved in real world.
2.) There 'safety', In that theres no real attachment physically.
3.) A mutual connection to time spent role playing.

I'm sure I have more ... but I cant think at the moment...

Anyone else ...?

 

[Looney]

What kind of game server are you running that people are falling in love? I see it happening in MMORPGs, but i haven't heard of it happening on personal game servers.

 

[ThaGrandCow]

Originally posted by: Noid
... sometimes ... on one of my other server games... (COOP)

... I'd find 2 players ... (one from Texas and the other from Indiana (older mature players)) (not to mention others from around the world) .. chatting for hours (very latenite) ...
... goofing around verbally .. and using the character models ... on a empty server ...


... so .. its not all kids play ...

Wow... that makes no sense. I had to read through that a few times before I even could decipher what he was writing.

 

[Walleye]

i fell in love with someone related to diablo 2 (she doesnt play it... her friend did, it's a community that i belong to that her friend belongs to, we had a big convo once, and her friend invited her. we've been talking ever since

 

[Noid]

Well ,,, the Unreal1 COOP server I run occationally,, drew a few late nite visits.

I'd drop in to see what was going on ,, just to have them move to another empty server ....
(to continue a private conversation)

It had a more international mix, since alot of players are in Europe.

The NOLF2 server I've been running has been getting popular. Due to the bandwidth,, it has more player interaction
due to that it holds more players than other servers. And theres not to many of them.