Online Dating

[49erinnc]

So, I met this girl online. Exchanged emails for a week. Chatted on the phone most of the following week. Couldn't have hit it off any better. Have tons in common, can talk for hours without a moment of silence and if you believe you can fall for someone before meeting them, I think that can apply as well. She has a great personality, is smart, good career, great head on her shoulders, very down to earth, etc.

We met in person for the first time last night but I'm not really physically attracted to her. I know that comes across as being incredibly superficial but I believe that physical attraction has to be present. We had a great time and I would love to see her again. However, I'm just not sure I will ever be physically attracted to her.

What the hell do you do when you meet a person who is perfect is so many ways but yet they just don't do it for you on the surface? I'd love nothing more than to be able to not put any emphasis on looks but with that said, I want to be with someone I'm attracted to.

Am I a shallow pri1ck or do you feel that physical attraction is necessary to be truly happy with someone?

 

[daveymark]

pics?

 

[VirginiaDonkey]

yes, you are indeed a shallow prick.

and, as asked once already, where are the PICS?

 

[bsobel]

Am I a shallow pri1ck or do you feel that physical attraction is necessary to be truly happy with someone?

No you are not. It's biology, nothing more. Men fall in love with the woman they are attracted to. Woman become attracted to the men they are in love with.

If you are not attracted to her, move on now and don't string her along.

Bill

 

[Xylitol]

:camera:s?

Dump her ASAP (after the holidays) as you dont want to go deeper int he relationship and not like her

 

[Aztech]

Put a bag over her head! Joking.

I think there has to be a physical attraction. No pictures were sent back and forth? That's kind of a waste of time then. Well, she may have hot friends, so it may not be a total loss...otherwise, there's always phone sex.

 

[RedBeard]

hmm..
well at least she *is* a she right?

 

[xSauronx]

find a reason other than "i kinda think youre not pretty" to tell her off, thatd be a good start

then tell us what you *actually* say that gets you kicked in the groin.

 

[salt9876]

you are gayyyy

 

[MazerRackham]

What's wrong with her physically?

 

[bsobel]

Originally posted by: salt9876
you are gayyyy

Looking for a vacation?

 

[bsobel]

Originally posted by: Xylitol
:camera:s?

Dump her ASAP (after the holidays) as you dont want to go deeper int he relationship and not like her

No, not after the holidays, now before the holidays...

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Happens to me all the time. And also for people who meet me obviously. Thats a chance you take when you meet someone online.
Did you ever see pictures of her?
I don't know what else to tell you other than let her know. Casually. It's only been 2 weeks.
Just let her know that it probably won't work out that way.

Have you seriously dated anyone else within the past 6 months?

 

[doze]

physical attraction is definitely necessary

 

[5150Joker]

Originally posted by: 49erinnc
So, I met this girl online. Exchanged emails for a week. Chatted on the phone most of the following week. Couldn't have hit it off any better. Have tons in common, can talk for hours without a moment of silence and if you believe you can fall for someone before meeting them, I think that can apply as well. She has a great personality, is smart, good career, great head on her shoulders, very down to earth, etc.

We met in person for the first time last night but I'm not really physically attracted to her. I know that comes across as being incredibly superficial but I believe that physical attraction has to be present. We had a great time and I would love to see her again. However, I'm just not sure I will ever be physically attracted to her.

What the hell do you do when you meet a person who is perfect is so many ways but yet they just don't do it for you on the surface? I'd love nothing more than to be able to not put any emphasis on looks but with that said, I want to be with someone I'm attracted to.

Am I a shallow pri1ck or do you feel that physical attraction is necessary to be truly happy with someone?

Depends, does she have a horse face or something? If she's average looking then just keep in mind that even a good looking chicks looks will fade and if she has a crap personality then you're bound to get a divorce if you marry a shallow woman that's like you.

 

[Caesar]

1) I am too drunk to read it
2) Pics???????

 

[Babbles]

I wouldn't think it is shallow. However if I were you I would take the chance of meeting her on a date yet again just to make further judgements on her appearance; is it something that can be changed which would make her more attractive or is it a more physical thing.

Sure, in an ideal world perhaps physical attraction wouldn't be important, but simply put I don't think we work that way. Yeah, it may suck but that is just how things are. I have dated some wonderful people in the past and if I wasn't physically attracted to them, then in all honesty I would have never dated them.

I do believe it is just an innate biology thing; it's in our nature.