IMO depression is probably genetic too. Ever notice how completely insane/neurotic women always have neurotic daughters? Either that or there's very specific parenting method that creates exact neurotic replicas of the parents
Haha you took the words right out of my mouth. I haven't seen solid evidence for a genetic basis of depression other than it runs in families which the whole parenting confound immediately comes into mind.
And you hit my family right on. My mom has this total selfless people serving condition, and she's all about supressing your own desires to be secure.
She teaches this to us and I can tell that my sister totally eats it all up and she's going through all the same depression crap my mom is going through.
Seriously, it's not a mystery that if you put all your focus on pleasing others that you're going to feel drained out and others aren't going to give you the appreciation you deserve because you're so imposing on your help.
And supressing what you truly love to do for security is the best way to drain yourself of dopamine.
I hope one day they can figure it out. :'(