Originally posted by: X-Man
Originally posted by: Moonbeam
Originally posted by: X-Man
The obvious implication, one that equally obviously, goes completely unrecognized, is that you, the very you you call you, also knows nothing. In a political forum such as this one, where people are totally convinced of the rectitude of their own point of view, it strikes me as of some potential utility to point this out.
So are you saying that you are immune to that, then? Your stepping up to the podium on this particular issue would seemingly state that you feel you are above the rest of the proles.
I don't know. What do you think?
I think you're an intelligent person but you have a bad habit of "posting" down to other people.
One or both of us could be suffering from the following. I may have a need to feel superior out of my feelings of inferiority and or, you may may feel I'm acting superior because you have feelings of inferiority:
Handling Inferiority Complex
-Amanpreet Nayar
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"You are brilliant, beautiful, intelligent, I am not. You draw attention, awe, admiration and I do not. I am inferior, stupid, ugly. I am nobody."
Have you met a person who says this? Are you the person who says and feels like this? Stop! You are just killing yourself. You need help as you may be suffering from an inferiority complex.
What is inferiority complex?
The term inferiority means that not only do you wish others to think well of you but you also want to think well of yourself. However, you also sense that you are not worthy of being admired. You might even be under-rating yourself. You constantly feel that others have something that you lack and you are perhaps not as good as others. Apart from your own thinking an inferiority complex may also arise if your superiors are always telling you that you are no good, you have failed and you don't do things the right way.
As a result of these mind distortions, you become aggressive, sensitive to criticism and many such maladjustments take over. In order to hide these deficiencies from others, you wear a cloak -- a sort of a smoke screen. As a result, it becomes difficult to judge people properly unless you have been with them for a long time. For example, a person having a scorn for rich people may be hiding his inability to make more money.
Reasons for inferiority complex
An inferiority complex usually takes birth out of frustration. When one is unwilling to accept the reality, when the gap between dreams and reality widens, many people try to cover it up by superficial behaviour. Such a person may look poised and may exude an air of self-assurance, but somewhere deep inside, as noted psychologist Alfred Adler once said: "He is not so much of a human being as a civil war."
Only we know who we are what we have intended to do and actually done, what we have thought and felt, and what we have hoped for. Our "self" is a lifelong accumulation of impressions. How we see and evaluate our "selves" and others' selves has a tremendous impact on self-acceptance, self-control, and acceptance of others.
How to get over your inferiority complex:
Know your limitations: Nobody is perfect. As human beings we all have faults and limitations but those who succeed accept and realize that they have limitations. These shortcomings may be due to hereditary factors, environmental reasons or there may be a third set of limitations that various experiences have imposed on you. It is in your hands to change these and grow out of them.
Share your feelings: By bottling your feelings, you are only harming yourself. Learn to share your thoughts. As mentioned above, nobody is perfect You are not a lesser being just because you did not give a great presentation. You do have your set of limitations and that is okay. All you have to is share it with a friend, allow people to get to know you and you will soon find that your friends will accept and respect you.
Accept yourself: Love yourself before you love somebody else. Similarly accept yourself before you expect others to do the same. Remember when you accept your obvious limitations, you break the chain of self pity, discouragement, and frustration.
Set clear goals: If you are confused about what it is that you want in life you are bound to feel low and depressed because you do not know where you are heading. Set clear achievable targets and strive for them. Be realistic about what you want. This means that you need to set both long term and short-term goals for yourself. Set your target and strive for the short-term goals. Every time you are able to achieve your goal, reward yourself. You will feel good and will have that enthusiasm to go ahead for the next. Generally what happens is that you set such high unrealistic goals for yourselves and when you are unable to achieve those you feel incompetent and depressed. Remember that immediate gratification is important for your self-esteem and ego.
Compare with only yourself: This is a mistake that we make very often. We want to compare ourselves to big personalities and high achievers that we often get disappointed. You need to be realistic. If you want to build an empire like Ratan Tata, or be the next Ambani in the making, it is good but make these your long-term targets. Don't expect to be a Tata or a Birla overnight. You are your best judge and critic. Compare yourself with only yourself, set your own targets. Just because your next-door neighbor has bought a new car does not make you any less intelligent. Believe in today, strive for excellence but take small and steady steps towards it.
Although feeling negative about yourself is an unpleasant situation, it isn't always entirely bad. Fears and feeling inferior may sometimes compel you to work hard to succeed. To get over your negativity, recognize your limitations and strengths, rather than getting discouraged or humiliated by them. Convert your limitations into strengths and overcome them. Accept and love yourself. It is important to feel comfortable and happy in your own company. The day you can do that you will overcome all your complexes and be confident and happy.
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