Is it possible to find a quality woman on the web or is only the bottom of the barrel, women with issues to be found ?
Info on specific sites appreciated.
Info on specific sites appreciated.
On line dating sites, anybody ever use them ?
- Thread starter Doomer
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I think dating web sites are fine. I used them. I met my wife outside of the Internet, but I met plenty of decent women through Match.com.
Just don't use Web Dating only, though. You'll be cutting yourself off from other sources. You can meet women anywhere. Churchs, bars, clubs, movies theaters, sports arenas, work, etc.
Just don't use Web Dating only, though. You'll be cutting yourself off from other sources. You can meet women anywhere. Churchs, bars, clubs, movies theaters, sports arenas, work, etc.
MikeyIs4Dcats
Lifer
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I've had TONS of success with AdultFriendFinder ;o)
j/k
I met my fiance online, but not really through a dating site
j/k
I met my fiance online, but not really through a dating site
purbeast0
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if you rely on the internet to MEET people, then yes you will only find ones that are at the bottom of the barrel like yourself whom can't socialize with people in person. but if you use it as well as have no problems meeting people IRL, then you can probably find some nice women.
but that doesn't mean you will have a 2nd date w/em
but that doesn't mean you will have a 2nd date w/em
I do not visit the online dating sites, but I suspect that it's the latter. However, like any other interests in life, I am sure you could find someone who meets your criteria without so much load. Besides, an increasing number of people are turning to this avenue to meet their mates, so (with such increase in pool) you have a better chance of finding someone decent. I always hear that Eharmony.com ad on radio and see it on TV, and then there's the match.com (or is it matchmaker.com; or both) site. Good luck to you!
I think internet dating sites are great. Met a lot of "quality" women on matchmaker.com.
Great place to meet people besides (not in lieu of) other social venues.
Great place to meet people besides (not in lieu of) other social venues.
my older brother met someone from match.com, and I think he is gonna ask her to marry him, and he gave my older sister a membership to match.com for xmas! I think its how (or lack there of) our parents brought up us really screwed us up in the relationship/trust dept. luckily, I was too young, so it didnt really affect me that much. oh well, dont we all have issues?
well it can be difficult to meet quality people. online services are just another avenue to meet people.
you'll mostly find the introverted types on there. i ended up going out with one for 2 months. she had no personality.
slightlyhuman
Lifer
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search for the past two threads i've posted about a girl. i got an email from her through a site where you upload you're picture and get rated by people, not really a dating site. imo, there is nothing wrong with them. it kind of gives you an advantage to find as much as possible about them before actually meeting them.
it's going great so far btw.
it's going great so far btw.
Well I have used them, unlike (seemingly) some of the initial above posters. I used them after being recommended to do so by friends in bigger cities. I can say for sure that the number and quality of people on the site varies a lot. I would think that larger cities (e.g. atlanta, new york) would make these sites pretty good. I wouldn't say that it's the bottom of the barrel necessarily.
The problem with the sites is not the psycho stalker paranoia that many people would think it is. The problem is that they are incredibly frustrating since guys outnumber girls, and many people simply don't ever reply. Seems like maybe 1 in 20 will reply, and then after that maybe 1 in 5 of the remaining people will ever result in a phone conversation. And then 1 in 5 of those will result in meeting face to face.
Also, for me at least, I have a natural aversion to profiles that seem to be written by a 5 year old. Even though the women might be beautiful and maybe in person they are great. Yet when I've dated someone I didn't meet through the internet and then later found that their writing/typing/computer skills are truly terrible, it didn't bother me.
Anyway, really the thing you should expect is to have a very low success rate. You also have to watch out for people who are really just advertising for their web site. You can spot them because their emails make no mention of anything in your profile or (in the event that it's a reply) your email to them.
The problem with the sites is not the psycho stalker paranoia that many people would think it is. The problem is that they are incredibly frustrating since guys outnumber girls, and many people simply don't ever reply. Seems like maybe 1 in 20 will reply, and then after that maybe 1 in 5 of the remaining people will ever result in a phone conversation. And then 1 in 5 of those will result in meeting face to face.
Also, for me at least, I have a natural aversion to profiles that seem to be written by a 5 year old. Even though the women might be beautiful and maybe in person they are great. Yet when I've dated someone I didn't meet through the internet and then later found that their writing/typing/computer skills are truly terrible, it didn't bother me.
Anyway, really the thing you should expect is to have a very low success rate. You also have to watch out for people who are really just advertising for their web site. You can spot them because their emails make no mention of anything in your profile or (in the event that it's a reply) your email to them.
Thanks guys.
I find it difficult to approach a strange girl in public as I find that most of them have a mental wall set up in that they will reject any and all advances no matter how sincere they may be. I guess it's a defense mechanism of sorts. I know that the best way to meet your SO is thru a mutual friend, family member or business acquaintance. Problem is, there are no candidates in this particular pool for me.
I have met 2 women on the web that led to a real life meeting but neither thru a dating site.
1. She told me she was having serious financial problems and to make matters worst, she was having to sleep with her boss to keep her job. Talk about issues, jeeez.
2. Way too much into herself. After listening to her toot her horn all night, I decided she wasn't the one. She had absolutely no interest in me. She didn't ask the first question. she just went on and on about how smart she was, how much better than average she was, what she had accomplish, etc., etc., etc.
I'm looking for a down to earth, middle of the road kinda girl. Don't want a bible thumping religious fanatic and don't want a bar hoping slut with a rep. I'd like to find someone in the middle but I'm beginning to think that what I'm looking for is a rarity.
I find it difficult to approach a strange girl in public as I find that most of them have a mental wall set up in that they will reject any and all advances no matter how sincere they may be. I guess it's a defense mechanism of sorts. I know that the best way to meet your SO is thru a mutual friend, family member or business acquaintance. Problem is, there are no candidates in this particular pool for me.
I have met 2 women on the web that led to a real life meeting but neither thru a dating site.
1. She told me she was having serious financial problems and to make matters worst, she was having to sleep with her boss to keep her job. Talk about issues, jeeez.
2. Way too much into herself. After listening to her toot her horn all night, I decided she wasn't the one. She had absolutely no interest in me. She didn't ask the first question. she just went on and on about how smart she was, how much better than average she was, what she had accomplish, etc., etc., etc.
I'm looking for a down to earth, middle of the road kinda girl. Don't want a bible thumping religious fanatic and don't want a bar hoping slut with a rep. I'd like to find someone in the middle but I'm beginning to think that what I'm looking for is a rarity.
slightlyhuman
Lifer
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most people will give you beef and pick at you here about it but don't worry about them. they talk through their ass because their mouth knows better most of the time.
there are quality women on dating sites but i doubt it's the easiest thing to find them. don't give up until you find one.
gl bro
there are quality women on dating sites but i doubt it's the easiest thing to find them. don't give up until you find one.
gl bro
Erm... well I want the opposite, and have found only people who seem too "down to earth". I am more interested in the extremely passionate, eccentric (preferably artsy) type. Good luck finding someone like that on the internet [dating sites].
Seems like you are very anti-bar to the point of discriminating. I don't like the bar scene, but I don't judge people who do. However, even not wanting to go to most bars has led to trouble in most relationships for me.
Seems like you are very anti-bar to the point of discriminating. I don't like the bar scene, but I don't judge people who do. However, even not wanting to go to most bars has led to trouble in most relationships for me.
Yes it is possible. Due to my work and school schedule, I didn't have time to get involved in activities that would lead to meeting women. I decided to post an ad on Match.com to see what happened.
I first found out that women don't usually make the first move. I sent e-mails to five women. The first three didn't respond. The fourth I met for coffee and never spoke to again. The fifth happened to be my perfect match; she is who I am meant to be with.
After a week had gone by our first meeting, we both told our friends that we'd get married someday. All I can say is she's a quality woman and I can't believe that I met her on a personals site. I knew her before, though... it turns out I worked with her, but I don't remember her, one of her best friends was hired by my dad, and one of my other friends worked for her at some point. It's all good.
I first found out that women don't usually make the first move. I sent e-mails to five women. The first three didn't respond. The fourth I met for coffee and never spoke to again. The fifth happened to be my perfect match; she is who I am meant to be with.
After a week had gone by our first meeting, we both told our friends that we'd get married someday. All I can say is she's a quality woman and I can't believe that I met her on a personals site. I knew her before, though... it turns out I worked with her, but I don't remember her, one of her best friends was hired by my dad, and one of my other friends worked for her at some point. It's all good.
Yeah it did used to be like that back when it was free. It's a pay site now, though, and is noticeably better than it was before.
IHateMyJob2004
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IHateMyJob2004
Lifer
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To the contrary, women (people) using dating service in my experience are typcially looking for something and "the nightlife" is failing miserably. I wanted a professional woman with a good job and brain on her shoulders, not inb her a$$.
I've seen alot of nurses and lawyers using match.com when I was looking. I rmember one lawyer from NYC that was smoking hot. She just didn't have time to go out dating. They are smart and educated, but they don't have hte time to go out looking for Mr/Mrs right.
IHateMyJob2004
Lifer
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Wow, 2 months and you stereotype people suing these services. Does that make you "one of those people" and therefore an introvert?
IHateMyJob2004
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Originally posted by: Doomer
Thanks guys.
I find it difficult to approach a strange girl in public as I find that most of them have a mental wall set up in that they will reject any and all advances no matter how sincere they may be. I guess it's a defense mechanism of sorts. I know that the best way to meet your SO is thru a mutual friend, family member or business acquaintance. Problem is, there are no candidates in this particular pool for me.
I have met 2 women on the web that led to a real life meeting but neither thru a dating site.
1. She told me she was having serious financial problems and to make matters worst, she was having to sleep with her boss to keep her job. Talk about issues, jeeez.
2. Way too much into herself. After listening to her toot her horn all night, I decided she wasn't the one. She had absolutely no interest in me. She didn't ask the first question. she just went on and on about how smart she was, how much better than average she was, what she had accomplish, etc., etc., etc.
I'm looking for a down to earth, middle of the road kinda girl. Don't want a bible thumping religious fanatic and don't want a bar hoping slut with a rep. I'd like to find someone in the middle but I'm beginning to think that what I'm looking for is a rarity.
1) HAHAHAHAHAah. That's funny.
2) Sounds like my brother's wife. She's going to school to be a nurse! has been for 10 years now!
Wow, sounds incouraging.
I used to work with a girl that met her husband in an AOL chatroom. All I could say was whata lucky guy. She was a close to a perfect 10 and as far from what you'd expect to find on line as she could be. Maybe I'll get luck.
I've noticed that match.com and yahoo personals seem to have about the same number of interesting possibilities. Any reason to pick one over the other ?
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