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skywalker66

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Well folks, finally I am about to create a thread that is not about girls! :)

So heres the scoop,

This is my 2nd year attending college. Last year I stayed inside the dorms the whole year, even though in the beginning of the year I was feeling apprehensive about doing so (since I live pretty nearby so living at home would save a lot of cost (rent and meal plan)) and also because I am not a very socially active person it seems.

I tried a little bit last year in the dorms to find people to relate with. I didnt really try outside of the dorms, because I'm kind of lazy when it comes to joining school clubs and activities and such. I really dont like to do that. And the ones that they currently offer at my school really suck. (they offer like maybe 15 organizations total, and half of them are service related)

Anyways a lot of the people in the dorms that I met were arrogant dicks or i really didnt have anything in common with them, so I didnt really form that many close bonds with anyone.


This year sophmores live in townhouses. I moved into mine a few days ago. There are 7 of us, in 3 bedrooms and a living room. So yeah, they are kind of like apartments.

In any case, I really dont know if I am going to get that socially involved though. My roomates seem somwhat cool and all, and I want to get socially involved, but the problem is I'm not sure if it will actually happen. Last year it didnt happen, and I'm kinda worried that the same thing might happen this year.

You guys think I should just move out now, and save the cash (I can still get a full refund) or should I give it a semester, and then move out in the middle of the semester if I dont like it?

 
Drakkon

Drakkon

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find a girl...live with her ;) give more fodder for the people here
 
Kyteland

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In any case, I really dont know if I am going to get that socially involved though. My roomates seem somwhat cool and all, and I want to get socially involved, but the problem is I'm not sure if it will actually happen. Last year it didnt happen, and I'm kinda worried that the same thing might happen this year.
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It didn't happen because you didn't make it happen. Social involvement isn't going to just happen to you. It is a two way street and you have to do your part to make it work.

Stick it out for a semester and at least try to make friends with your roomies. Who knows, they make take pity on you. ;)
 
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Skywalker: instead of starting all these threads about this situation or that situation, why don't you tell us the true source of your social ineptness?
 
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isekii

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its pretty obvious you're not gonna get a GF.
it's also pretty obvious your social skills are lacking at best.

i'm not sure if peoples suggestions here are gonna do you any good.
 
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Staying at home isn't going to improve your social skills. If you are ok with the idea of being alone for the rest of your life but w/ a bit more cash, then stay home. Otherwise, live in the apartment.
 
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Dude just stay in the house with the other people. GO OUT WHEN THEY GO OUT. Go get FVCKING REALLY DRUNK. I gurantee you WILL have good times when drunk with them.

TALK to the other house mates. Chit chat. You will be alright IF you make THE EFFORT.

Maybe your just so shy and they don't give a sh!t? Just make the effort and talk and make some friends man.

Living home WILL NOT CHANGE THIS AT ALL.

Koing
 
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notfred

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Originally posted by: Koing
Dude just stay in the house with the other people. GO OUT WHEN THEY GO OUT. Go get FVCKING REALLY DRUNK. I gurantee you WILL have good times when drunk with them.

TALK to the other house mates. Chit chat. You will be alright IF you make THE EFFORT.

Maybe your just so shy and they don't give a sh!t? Just make the effort and talk and make some friends man.

Living home WILL NOT CHANGE THIS AT ALL.

Koing
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Koing = 10000x smarter than Skywalker in social situations.
 
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petejk

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dude...for you own sake....

change your look...talk with people....live life...man......


quit acting like freakin napolean dynamite.......and do something
with you plain ass life.


please...smoke a little weed and drink....geez!!!
joing a club...make lame remarks to hot girls...and look stupid

quit wasting away .....
 
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kami333

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If it was anyone else I would have been wtf???

Unless you are one of those "charismatic" friendly people friends don't just pop up, you have to make an effort. Who knows, maybe the guy you have nothing in common with has a great sense of humor or a huge stash of weed.
 
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skywalker66

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Originally posted by: Kyteland
In any case, I really dont know if I am going to get that socially involved though. My roomates seem somwhat cool and all, and I want to get socially involved, but the problem is I'm not sure if it will actually happen. Last year it didnt happen, and I'm kinda worried that the same thing might happen this year.
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It didn't happen because you didn't make it happen. Social involvement isn't going to just happen to you. It is a two way street and you have to do your part to make it work.

Stick it out for a semester and at least try to make friends with your roomies. Who knows, they make take pity on you. ;)
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i stuck it out a year last year. I wonder maybe if immersing myself in the social atmosphere maybe just isnt the way to put myself into it. maybe it would be better if I lived off campus, because I could come and go as I chose to. Then I would be more motivated to immerse myself into it when I wanted to.

I dunno. sometimes I just wonder if oncampus housing is for everyone. I mean there have to be other ways of getting a social life at your college without living on campus.
 
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skywalker66

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Originally posted by: aswedc
What are your interests?

Where do you go to school?
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i go to a christian private college, known as Bethel University in St. Paul, MN
My interests include: playing video games, watching movies, talking to people, and thats about it. :/

 
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skywalker66

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Originally posted by: Koing
Dude just stay in the house with the other people. GO OUT WHEN THEY GO OUT. Go get FVCKING REALLY DRUNK. I gurantee you WILL have good times when drunk with them.

TALK to the other house mates. Chit chat. You will be alright IF you make THE EFFORT.

Maybe your just so shy and they don't give a sh!t? Just make the effort and talk and make some friends man.

Living home WILL NOT CHANGE THIS AT ALL.

Koing
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there aint alcoholic parties that go on much around here, since they ban that $hit and look down upon it pretty seriously. plus i wouldnt want to be hanging out with people who get trashed. I already have friends like that, and I can hang out with those friends whenever I want to. (those are my highschool friends) I want to find some new friends who dont drink.
 
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usually the first week of the semester aren't the clubs swarming like crazy?

join a service club - you get to do a little good and meet lots of people. it doesn't matter if that's not your interest, make it a point to go to club meetings and to go to the events. or else take up an IM sport...

or heck, you go to a private christian school, join bible study...
 
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play RISK everyone likes the game and you can measure someones intellegence and relative dickheadedness from the way they play. Thats what I did. I live in a college apt w/ 4 others for the internet mainly. =)
 
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My advice...DO SOCIAL THINGS. Expecting a social life to just spring out of the wall when you don't do social activities is just stupid. It seems kind of basic, I know, but here's the real scoop on making friends and having a social life. You might want to get out a pencil and right this one down.

If you don't put yourself into social situations, you won't have a social life or very many friends. And when you ARE in that social situation, don't sit there and lean against the loser wall...you have to put yourself out there, even if it's uncomfortable. Think of it this way, what have you got to lose? Do you really think people will remember the really stupid thing you said, or your sad attempt at dancing? And even if they do...so what? I've ran into a girl here at school while eating lunch the day after a party, and she came up to me and asked if I was "that guy from last night dancing like you had nerve damage" (her words exactly). You know what, it's an ice breaker. I laughed, she laughed, I got her phone number :D

The point is this, put yourself out there. Even if YOU feel uncomfortable, I guarentee that no one else really cares. And once you realize that people will be ok with you as long as you aren't a giant ass or anything, you'll loosen up and be able to actually have fun. The problem with people like you, and I mean this in the nicest way possible, is that you WANT a social life, but you have trained yourself not to enjoy social activities. You got to break our of that loop, even if it's uncomfortable. And I know you might think you have no opportunities for social stuff...but your wrong. I bet you turn down a lot of opportunities because you are uncomfortable.

I know, I used to be the same way. It's not a great way to live...the alternative is much better :)
 
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