On cable - just me, no more Ex!

[SaigonK]

The Ex-wife to be decided to get off of cable and go to DSL so she can have her own interent connection and not have to worry about being dependant on me for something.
She setup her Verizon DSL (256/64) tonight, what a joke that was!

I stood around and ate some chips while she tried to take out the Cisco Wireless PCI adapter and pcmcia card and put in a new 10/100 PCI card she bought at Best Buy. That was worth it alone!
She gets her email through my server so I changed her password and setup an email forward to her new account as a coutesy, she has 7 days to tell her lackey friends that it is chaning, becuase after that it goes bye bye.
Of course she isnt smart enough to go change all of her online billing stuff, but thats her damn problem, not mine!


So now I am on the cable modem by myself...good ol 3000/384 woohoo!

 

[Actaeon]

Your ex-wife set all that up by herself? Wow, thats not too bad for a non-geekish(i assume) chick. Must have been pretty funny watching her set it all up though. I would imagine her getting fustrated if she didn't know what she was doing.

No offense, but its kinda of a silly fued to get back at each other(though, I'm not necessarly pointing at you). Big deal if you're sharing internet connections, does she get a kick out of spending more money just to get her own slower connection, and being more independant? I'm sure you wouldn't have mined sharing the bill at a lower cost.

Oh well... nice connection there .

 

[MrDudeMan]

so is she your ex-wife or are you going through a divorce? or what? i cant really understand based on your post haha

 

[bmacd]

Are you two seperated and living in the same house ?

-=bmacd=-

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: Actaeon
Your ex-wife set all that up by herself? Wow, thats not too bad for a non-geekish(i assume) chick. Must have been pretty funny watching her set it all up though. I would imagine her getting fustrated if she didn't know what she was doing. No offense, but its kinda of a silly fued to get back at each other(though, I'm not necessarly pointing at you). Big deal if you're sharing internet connections, does she get a kick out of spending more money just to get her own slower connection, and being more independant? I'm sure you wouldn't have mined sharing the bill at a lower cost. Oh well... nice connection there .

It was funny as hell watching her, but she still had to ask for my help...
She stated to me that she wanted to changeover to DSL to save money since the cable modem is more expensive.

So lets do the math:

Cable TV= $45
Cable Modem = $45
Total of $90

I currently pay 1/2 of the cable bill since we are still livving in the same house until the divorce is final.
So she pays $45 for tv and internet.

She went out and got DSL from Verizon and plans on downgrading the cable TV side to the basic cable.

Verizon DSL $29.99
Basic Cable $20

I will still pay half of the cable bill, so she will save a total of $6 per month, that is until the DSL goes up from $29 a month to $35 after her 6 month price break...
She had to buy a new NIC card, because she was suing wireless before and I told her she couldnt use it or keep it. So basically with that cost it works out that she will pay the exact same amount for the next
3 to 4 months if she would have kept things the way they are.....

The good part for me now is that work is going to pay for my cable modem access...I am going to keep the cable internet and let them pay for it under my name.
So my cost goes down by $45 amonth.

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: bmacd
Are you two seperated and living in the same house ? -=bmacd=-

To anser your qeustion and the previous one - Yes.

See my thread here for details:

 

[MrDudeMan]

if you dont mind me asking...

[serious mode]

did you want to stay with her? if yes, why didnt you MAKE it work? i have always wanted to ask the people that post about their divorce. if you truly wanted to stay with her, why didnt you make the changes she wanted to make it work?

[/serious mode]

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
if you dont mind me asking... [serious mode] did you want to stay with her? if yes, why didnt you MAKE it work? i have always wanted to ask the people that post about their divorce. if you truly wanted to stay with her, why didnt you make the changes she wanted to make it work? [/serious mode]

I wanted to stay, I went to counseling, I asked her to please not go, i did all the things she wanted me to, but whatever faults I had and she had it just wasnt for her anymore.
She told me that i was not the person she married and that she wasnt in love with me any more.

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: bmacd
Are you two seperated and living in the same house ? -=bmacd=-

To anser your qeustion and the previous one - Yes.

See my thread <a class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1199634&FTVAR_MSGDBTABLE=" target=blank><STRONG>here</STRONG></A> for details:

Doh!! You must be one cool cucumber....$hit on my last D,when she told me to hit the road I left immeadiately. Good thing too,because I found out she was screwing her fellow coworker. This all lead to a 3 year restraining order for me It was hard to take seeing that guy pull into the driveway 5 minutes after my son left for school and then leave 5 minutes before my son got home from school. So like a dumbass, I went over to visit during there little fvckfest. Her little boyfriend was a spineless little prick Fvcking slut...I hope she rots in hell bitch!

Oh Well, Life goes on

Sysadmin

 

[rh71]

Wow I guess it's going to take a while for your divorce to actually become final ?

 

[SaigonK]

It is going to take quite a long time, longer than either of us wants I am sure.
Of course if she does have another person in the wings, it will probably help speed things up a bit. I couldnt imagine someone would be comfortable with her living with me for the next year or so.

 

[blakeatwork]

spshaw...

my wife can build a PC from scratch, AND mod her own case...

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
if you dont mind me asking... [serious mode] did you want to stay with her? if yes, why didnt you MAKE it work? i have always wanted to ask the people that post about their divorce. if you truly wanted to stay with her, why didnt you make the changes she wanted to make it work? [/serious mode]

I wanted to stay, I went to counseling, I asked her to please not go, i did all the things she wanted me to, but whatever faults I had and she had it just wasnt for her anymore.
She told me that i was not the person she married and that she wasnt in love with me any more.

ouch...that sucks really bad. im sorry

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: blakeatwork
spshaw... my wife can build a PC from scratch, AND mod her own case...

Consider yourself lucky, my ex still trys to get free info from me. Of course I dont answer her, just tell her that if she wants me to fix it, she needs to ask me. We all know that isnt going to happen.

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan if you dont mind me asking... [serious mode] did you want to stay with her? if yes, why didnt you MAKE it work? i have always wanted to ask the people that post about their divorce. if you truly wanted to stay with her, why didnt you make the changes she wanted to make it work? [/serious mode]

I wanted to stay, I went to counseling, I asked her to please not go, i did all the things she wanted me to, but whatever faults I had and she had it just wasnt for her anymore. She told me that i was not the person she married and that she wasnt in love with me any more.

ouch...that sucks really bad. im sorry

Thanks for the sorry, but dont worry about it. I am not that sad anymore, the idea that she might have been on a date annoyed me a little, but she needs to move on as well.
Plus with any luck she wont stay in the house as much as she does and it will give me yet more time to be with my daughters.

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
if you dont mind me asking...

[serious mode]

did you want to stay with her? if yes, why didnt you MAKE it work? i have always wanted to ask the people that post about their divorce. if you truly wanted to stay with her, why didnt you make the changes she wanted to make it work?

[/serious mode]

That has to be the stupidest thing I've ever read. "Make" it work? This is a relationship. It either works or it doesn't. You can't "make" people love each other. If you try to "make" it do anything all you'll end up with is at least two miserable people and maybe more if there are kids involved. If it's not working you should get out as soon and as cleanly as possible, IMO.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
if you dont mind me asking... [serious mode] did you want to stay with her? if yes, why didnt you MAKE it work? i have always wanted to ask the people that post about their divorce. if you truly wanted to stay with her, why didnt you make the changes she wanted to make it work? [/serious mode]

I wanted to stay, I went to counseling, I asked her to please not go, i did all the things she wanted me to, but whatever faults I had and she had it just wasnt for her anymore.
She told me that i was not the person she married and that she wasnt in love with me any more.

ouch...that sucks really bad. im sorry

Happens all the time unfortunately.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
if you dont mind me asking...

[serious mode]

did you want to stay with her? if yes, why didnt you MAKE it work? i have always wanted to ask the people that post about their divorce. if you truly wanted to stay with her, why didnt you make the changes she wanted to make it work?

[/serious mode]

That has to be the stupidest thing I've ever read. "Make" it work? This is a relationship. It either works or it doesn't. You can't "make" people love each other. If you try to "make" it do anything all you'll end up with is at least two miserable people and maybe more if there are kids involved. If it's not working you should get out as soon and as cleanly as possible, IMO.

maybe you should not be such an ass pirate. i know you cant make people love each other. you can, however, quit doing things that piss people off if that is what was causing the problems. i agree that if it cant work, then play nice and leave on good terms, but that isnt what i was referring to. if two people are both stubborn and always have to be right, maybe they could chill out and not be such ignorant pricks to each other. in that instance, making it work fits just fine. im not saying that is what saigon was going through, it was just an example.

i love my girlfriend and she loves me, but sometimes we do things that piss each other off. if it got so bad that we wanted to break up, maybe we could stop being so proud and admit one of us made a mistake. in that instance, making it work fits again. its not making people love each other, its making people act like responsible adults. you, my friend, are such a prick sometimes.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan if you dont mind me asking... [serious mode] did you want to stay with her? if yes, why didnt you MAKE it work? i have always wanted to ask the people that post about their divorce. if you truly wanted to stay with her, why didnt you make the changes she wanted to make it work? [/serious mode]

I wanted to stay, I went to counseling, I asked her to please not go, i did all the things she wanted me to, but whatever faults I had and she had it just wasnt for her anymore. She told me that i was not the person she married and that she wasnt in love with me any more.

ouch...that sucks really bad. im sorry

Thanks for the sorry, but dont worry about it. I am not that sad anymore, the idea that she might have been on a date annoyed me a little, but she needs to move on as well.
Plus with any luck she wont stay in the house as much as she does and it will give me yet more time to be with my daughters.

well all i meant was i am sorry you had to go through that. i have no idea why electric got all up in my face, but i didnt mean anything by it. man sometimes people confuse the hell out of me on these forums.

 

[AFB]

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: Actaeon
Your ex-wife set all that up by herself? Wow, thats not too bad for a non-geekish(i assume) chick. Must have been pretty funny watching her set it all up though. I would imagine her getting fustrated if she didn't know what she was doing. No offense, but its kinda of a silly fued to get back at each other(though, I'm not necessarly pointing at you). Big deal if you're sharing internet connections, does she get a kick out of spending more money just to get her own slower connection, and being more independant? I'm sure you wouldn't have mined sharing the bill at a lower cost. Oh well... nice connection there .

It was funny as hell watching her, but she still had to ask for my help...
She stated to me that she wanted to changeover to DSL to save money since the cable modem is more expensive.

So lets do the math:

Cable TV= $45
Cable Modem = $45
Total of $90

I currently pay 1/2 of the cable bill since we are still livving in the same house until the divorce is final.
So she pays $45 for tv and internet.

She went out and got DSL from Verizon and plans on downgrading the cable TV side to the basic cable.

Verizon DSL $29.99
Basic Cable $20

I will still pay half of the cable bill, so she will save a total of $6 per month, that is until the DSL goes up from $29 a month to $35 after her 6 month price break...
She had to buy a new NIC card, because she was suing wireless before and I told her she couldnt use it or keep it. So basically with that cost it works out that she will pay the exact same amount for the next
3 to 4 months if she would have kept things the way they are.....

The good part for me now is that work is going to pay for my cable modem access...I am going to keep the cable internet and let them pay for it under my name.
So my cost goes down by $45 amonth.

:beer:

 

[Electric Amish]

i love my girlfriend and she loves me, but sometimes we do things that piss each other off. if it got so bad that we wanted to break up, maybe we could stop being so proud and admit one of us made a mistake. in that instance, making it work fits again. its not making people love each other, its making people act like responsible adults. you, my friend, are such a prick sometimes.

If you truly love each other then there is nothing that either of you could do that would piss the other off. Love is about accepting a person for who they are not changing yourself so that someone "loves" you or hoping someone else changes so that you can "love" them.

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: SaigonK

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan if you dont mind me asking... [serious mode] did you want to stay with her? if yes, why didnt you MAKE it work? i have always wanted to ask the people that post about their divorce. if you truly wanted to stay with her, why didnt you make the changes she wanted to make it work? [/serious mode]

I wanted to stay, I went to counseling, I asked her to please not go, i did all the things she wanted me to, but whatever faults I had and she had it just wasnt for her anymore. She told me that i was not the person she married and that she wasnt in love with me any more.

ouch...that sucks really bad. im sorry

Thanks for the sorry, but dont worry about it. I am not that sad anymore, the idea that she might have been on a date annoyed me a little, but she needs to move on as well. Plus with any luck she wont stay in the house as much as she does and it will give me yet more time to be with my daughters.

well all i meant was i am sorry you had to go through that. i have no idea why electric got all up in my face, but i didnt mean anything by it. man sometimes people confuse the hell out of me on these forums.

Dont worry about it, I get all kinds of advice and I have to say i take it all in and take parts from it that matter.
No one has a wrong opinion..it is just that....an opinion. Right?

 

[UNCjigga]

I know this is NOT how it went down, but I can just picture a geek telling his 'soon-to-be-ex-wife' "you go get YOUR OWN GAWDDAMNED BANDWIDTH, BITCH!!!!" and I find that funny!

 

[SaigonK]

Originally posted by: Jigga
I know this is NOT how it went down, but I can just picture a geek telling his 'soon-to-be-ex-wife' "you go get YOUR OWN GAWDDAMNED BANDWIDTH, BITCH!!!!" and I find that funny!

Umm...right thats not how it went down.......ok...sure....move along nothing to see here.....

 

[dartworth]

hmm...how many threads must be started about this seperation? it amazes me how people like to put their personal life on the net...

maybe this stuff should be over at yagt.org