OMG.....I'm falling in love.

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bigvince

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im in chicago and i love it so don t be afraid hazle....and where in chicago is you guy ill say whats up for you...


64bitloopy


you are an idiot and deserve to be banned

MODS come get this LOZER:)
 

64bitloopy

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>>im in chicago and i love it so don t be afraid hazle....and where in chicago is you guy ill say whats up for you...


64bitloopy


you are an idiot and deserve to be banned


What is your point? Do you usually attack other members for no reason saying things like this?
It is people like you that take away from the experience of anandtech. People like you make the junior members not want to post, because you've created this I'm self important image. It's really too bad that the moderators allow people like you to continue to post here, because it is people like you that bring the content of this site down.
 

andylawcc

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did anyone click in this thread expecting to see their names on the first post? :)

anyhow, I don't believe in e-lovers (I flame my buddy who has a g/f thru ICQ), but once again, I maybe wrong and bias due to my current situation. (you guess it)
 

kassy

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It depends on what you mean by the term 'e lover'. Anyone who races off to be someone that they have spoken to for six months, having never spent real quality face to face time with needs their head read, but why is it impossible for something to develope AFTER the real deal face to face meeting ?
 

hzl eyed grl

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<< did anyone click in this thread expecting to see their names on the first post? >>



LOL Did I disappoint you? :p Heehee
 

Viper GTS

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Hzl...

In spite of the stigma that's usually given to long-distance relationships, especially those initiated over the internet, I really don't think they're half as bad as some people might make them out to be. They do, however, have their own set of problems.

One of the biggest issues, of course, is distance. With today's technology, it's possible for two people to meet from literally anywhere in the world. In today's society, however, mobility is higher than it has ever been. You can fly across the country for next to nothing, &amp; moving can be accomplished with relative ease. But... The interim sucks. You'll want nothing more than to be with the person, to be a part of their day to day life. But you can't be. That's probably the roughest part right there: You'll miss them like crazy.

The other thing that people seem to worry about is the danger... What if they're not really what they say they are? Be careful. A visit or two should confirm who they are, though. Any glaring differences between their online perona &amp; their &quot;real life&quot; counterpart should raise some warning flags.

As long as you're aware of the shortcomings, though, long-distance relationships do have advantages.

First, the relationship is just that - A relationship. It's impossible to go out &amp; spend non-personal time (movies, concerts, etc) together. Everything is based on communication, there's no avoiding it. That's all you have. Which is really nice sometimes. You'll get to know someone very quickly, &amp; if the communication ever breaks down the relationship does too. You'll never be stuck in a relationship with no communication.

Another advantage is the lack of physical temptation. Obviously that doesn't apply to everyone, but it's very hard to mess up physically if you're thousands of miles away. So if you're trying to save yourself for marriage, the distance can be a big help. Be careful, though, when you ARE with them, 'cause you won't be used to having the temptation AND the ability to act on it.

Anyway, those are my thoughts. As you probably know, I'm in a long-distance relationship too. At times it sucks, since I want nothing more than to be able to hold her when she's crying, take her out for dinner when she needs encouragement, &amp; stay up all night watching movies on the couch. But she's still my best friend, &amp; I wouldn't trade it for the world.

Good luck.

Viper GTS
 

Ranger X

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Just a friendly advice from me. Watch out because there are a lot of crazy people out there in cyberspace.
 

Yo Ma Ma

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I met my husband off a university bulletin board (pre-Internet) so yes I do know it has potential to work out! (We both lived in the same area of the world, though). The only thing that sets off a bit of a warning/radar for me is him saying he was married/divorced and a little hesitant to get into another relationship. Be compltely certain he really is divorced before you invest your feelings further, that would be my advice. And good luck :)
 

montanafan

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My only advice would be, don't go out there to see him, have him come to see you. Meet in a very public place and maybe have some friends nearby.
 

ArMs

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I've been in love only once (actually I still am). And all I can tell you is that it's the most amazing feeling in the world, everything seems like magic, but if it ends, everything is suck. Good luck to the both of you.