omg, I just drop down and cried. (help needed)

andylawcc

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i just called my parents at home and found out my grandma is dying.

I never imagine myself crying in situation like this, coz I am didn't spend a whole lot of time with my grandma and I didn't cry in my other grandma's funeral. But all it took was two lines from my mum,
"Andy, your grandma is in the hospital..."
"she may not last long."
after that, I kneeled down on floor and start crying.
i felt better afterwards though coz I haven't let my emotion out in such a way for a long time, but boy I don't know am I ready for the coming funeral.


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NutBucket

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Woah. That sucks. Personally, all my relatives, so far, have passed on when I was too young to really know what was really going on.

You should just try to spend time with her in the hospital, if that's possible. You'll feel a bit better being there for her at this time.
 

Dacalo

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i know how you feel.

i lost my father few years back and it was really difficult for me.
 

RU482

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Although my grandma is in relatively good health, my mom says she's slipping a little every day. It's kinda scary for me, I remember when she was so active, I bet she coulda outworked me with one arm tied behind her back. Now she just kinda hobbles around. Very sweet lady, still got her mind, for now.
 

MaxDSP

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sorry to hear that bud :(


my grandma's in the hospital right now but I dont really know what the reasons are. When my parents went to visit her a couple of days ago, she told my dad "make this pain go away and just let me go peacefully" and started crying. :(
 

Evadman

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Loseing a family memebr is the worst feeling in the world. This makes 2 members that are going thorough this. You with your grandmother and Engineer with his brother.

If there is a God I hope he is looking down on your Grandmother and Engineer's brother.
 

dethman

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sorry. my aunt died of liver cancer and another aunt is dying of the same thign this year. sucks.
 

Nocturnal

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I was exactly like that at my grandmother's funeral. I've never cried before at any funeral. I cried hard and long for my grandma. It was so sad. I know what you're going through man, you'll be ok, and your grandma will be ok. She'll be in good hands.
 

SherEPunjab

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this stuff sucks but hey at least you knew her.

my father's mother died when he was 7 and his father died when he was 10. :(

that must have been very tough. obviously, i never saw them. my mothers father passed away in 89, and i was only 11 at the time and hardly new him (in India). My grandma recently passed there as well.

it makes you a bit tougher, a bit colder imho, but that's life.
 

PeeluckyDuckee

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Sorry to hear about your grandma andylawcc, hope things turn out ok for her. Wish her and your family the best.

My grandpa's death came very sudden as well. I didn't know what to feel, but stunned to say the least as I was very close to him. Cried a lot during the funeral. That was 3yrs ago, still miss him to this day. If only I knew of the seriousness of his illness I would've definitely defintely visited him more often. I regret not having done so and hate myself for that to this day.
 

Bignate603

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I've had some instances in the past month where I've just broken down and cried. It does help some. I've found letting it out, and especially talking with people makes life bearable. I wouldn't have been able to make it without my friends.
 

Chaotic42

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Sorry man, but you've just got to let it out. My mom died when I was 16. I came down from college, and we basically just waited for it. She was in the hospital, and we all knew it. Man, that was a long week.

Anyway, I went back to school and a week later, my grandma died. I was all emotioned out by that point. I kind of went into shut-down mode.

Don't bottle up your emotions.
 

dc

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your grandma and your family will be in my prayers.
take care andy.
 

dabuddha

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sorry about your grandmother. I still remember when my grandmother on my dad's side died. Sept 10, 2000
It didn't really hit me till the funeral and me, my dad, and one of my uncles were putting her in the crematory. then it hit me that she was gone and i broke down