OMFG Sometimes I hate my wife

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Nitemare

Lifer
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Originally posted by: DurocShark
Originally posted by: Ryuson99
Tell her when she starts paying bills she can argue with you.

I wish I could. But that would be seriously ungrateful.

She supported me when I was floundering around from job-to-job 10 years ago. It really wasn't until 5 years ago that I started not only working steadily, but making decent money.

I think that's a big part of why I'm still around. Guilt. And I'm not even Catholic! :Q

What has she done for you lately? :music:
 

Mookow

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Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: DurocShark
I wish I could. But that would be seriously ungrateful.

She supported me when I was floundering around from job-to-job 10 years ago. It really wasn't until 5 years ago that I started not only working steadily, but making decent money.

I think that's a big part of why I'm still around. Guilt. And I'm not even Catholic! :Q

What has she done for you lately? :music:

Well, the answer probably isnt "gone down", if that is happening only once a year. :p
 

dderidex

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Originally posted by: Mookow
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: DurocShark
I wish I could. But that would be seriously ungrateful.

She supported me when I was floundering around from job-to-job 10 years ago. It really wasn't until 5 years ago that I started not only working steadily, but making decent money.

I think that's a big part of why I'm still around. Guilt. And I'm not even Catholic! :Q

What has she done for you lately? :music:

Well, the answer probably isnt "gone down", if that is happening only once a year. :p

Hey, that's still...{counts years married}...seven times better than I get!

Granted, he wins the 'wacko wife' award - mine's close from time to time, but...uhh...yeah, he wins.
 

Mookow

Lifer
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Originally posted by: dderidex
Originally posted by: Mookow
Well, the answer probably isnt "gone down", if that is happening only once a year. :p

Hey, that's still...{counts years married}...seven times better than I get!

Granted, he wins the 'wacko wife' award - mine's close from time to time, but...uhh...yeah, he wins.

"You have chosen... poorly". Dont blame the rest of us for it :p
 

Darilus

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Originally posted by: Mookow
Originally posted by: dderidex
Originally posted by: Mookow
Well, the answer probably isnt "gone down", if that is happening only once a year. :p

Hey, that's still...{counts years married}...seven times better than I get!

Granted, he wins the 'wacko wife' award - mine's close from time to time, but...uhh...yeah, he wins.

"You have chosen... poorly". Dont blame the rest of us for it :p

At least in Indiana Jones the guy gets to die after he chooses poorly; Duroc isn't so lucky.
 

if your wife does drugs, make her stop

if she doesn't do drugs.......make her start
 

Mookow

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Originally posted by: Darilus
Originally posted by: Mookow
Originally posted by: dderidex
Hey, that's still...{counts years married}...seven times better than I get!

Granted, he wins the 'wacko wife' award - mine's close from time to time, but...uhh...yeah, he wins.
"You have chosen... poorly". Dont blame the rest of us for it :p
At least in Indiana Jones the guy gets to die after he chooses poorly; Duroc isn't so lucky.

I wouldnt want to live in a world without BJs.
 

Originally posted by: DurocShark
As some of you may know, I'm moving from Cali to Colorado.

Back in Feb I drove my bus to CO to spend 3 weeks in a hotel working at the new data center and look for an apartment. 3 weeks.

Damn near every night my wife would call and pick fights. While it sucked, I wrote it off to the stress of moving and me being gone. But during that time she was supposed to be doing final goodbyes to friends and family, and start the packing process.

I flew back into town last Friday night. I walk into my apartment and find virtually NOTHING had been done. WTF?!?!?! All she did was unload our storage units into the apartment. Nothing was packed. The kids were all confused and scared about all the changes.

I spend the weekend saying my goodbyes, including one last trip to Huntington Beach. She gives me sh!t about wanting to visit some last people, having one last night out, etc. Keeps picking fights. Then gets mad if I want to go to bed at 10. We're supposed to start loading the truck today and I wanted an early start.

So at 8am this morning I'm up and packing, and she has the nerve to come out and yell at me for making noise. WTF? I'm doing what you should have been doing for the past 3 weeks!!!

This is not fun.

:|

UPDATE 3/15

Well... We made it. Finally.

The fighting was done for a while... Until we were loading the trailer.

Let's just say it's shifted into another plane of existence.

We used a company called "UPack". Basically they drop off a 28 foot trailer at your house, you load up, measure how much of the trailer you used, and away it goes. To go from Cali to Colo it was $95 a linear foot of trailer, minimum charge $1200. I spent the 3 weeks I was in Colorado telling her to get rid of sh!t so we could keep it under 12 feet. I had $1500 budgeted for the truck. That's all I could pull off. So we needed to think small.

One of our fights when I got back was about the amount of crap she wanted. It ended up being that only MY crap got left out. She was moving everything, including gardening tools for an apartment without a friggin garden! And insisted on me bringing my sponges (boogie boards). WTF? Where the hell am I going to use those. Whatever...

Her brother and her dad were "helping" us load the truck. It ended up being me doing all the grunt work. As we got close to 12 feet, and I saw we still had tons of stuff I started saying, "We need to start re-thinking what we're bringing. We're out of space." Both she and her brother were telling me to not worry about it. I figured they had worked out something together and weren't going to tell me about it.

I was wrong.

We get here in Colo after a really screwed up drive out (whole 'nuther story) and I'm about a grand short of getting the truck. I tell my wife this and her response? "Can't you get one of those payday advances or something?"

...

Oh. My. Friggin. God.

I was only half joking when I told her to let them keep the sh!t. Nothing in there is worth $2k. I wouldn't lose any sleep over having to go buy new clothes and furniture and such.

I can pull it off, but crap.

Oh, and to top it off... This morning on the way to my bus to go to work I slipped on some ice and fell flat on my back. I think I broke something and need to go to the doctor.

Go me.
If you choose to put up with your wife's behavior, then, in my opinion, you have no right to complain anymore. However, just to touch on the moving thing: It would seem to me that she's signaling that she's not excited about the move and would prefer not to leave. She didn't just object but tried to stand as barrier.... I think she's not willing to let go of things and people she's familiar with in CA. Perhaps that's why she wasn't cooperative (unless of course she always behaves that way). Hopefully now that you have moved she will accept and adjust to the changes in a reasonable time.
 

shimsham

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damn man. every time i read this thread i think more and more: "its more trouble than its worth".

hope it works out for you.
 

SagaLore

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Originally posted by: shimsham
damn man. every time i read this thread i think more and more: "its more trouble than its worth".

hope it works out for you.

Yea but unless I missed it somewhere in the middle of the thread, I don't see him explaining to us how he consulted his wife first before making this life-altering decision. It sounds as if he just came home one day and told her "we're moving", which in my opinion, makes him the bigger jerk. If I'm wrong I hope he points that out.
 

DurocShark

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Originally posted by: SagaLore
If I'm wrong I hope he points that out.

You're wrong.

We discussed it for 2 months before the move. When it was just a distant possibility I came home and said, "How would you feel about moving to Denver?"

Both she and my 13 year old son got all excited and started jabbering about snow, and camping, etc.
 

SagaLore

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Dec 18, 2001
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Originally posted by: DurocShark
Originally posted by: SagaLore
If I'm wrong I hope he points that out.

You're wrong.

We discussed it for 2 months before the move. When it was just a distant possibility I came home and said, "How would you feel about moving to Denver?"

Both she and my 13 year old son got all excited and started jabbering about snow, and camping, etc.

Okay thanks for replying. As a suggestion, I'd cut and paste this into your OP as a precursor to the rest of the post just to give everyone a feel of how this went.
 

edro

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Apr 5, 2002
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$2,000 to ship that crap!?

I don't think all my possesions (furniture, clothes, crap) is even worth $2,000!
 

dabuddha

Lifer
Apr 10, 2000
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Originally posted by: DearQT
Originally posted by: DurocShark
As some of you may know, I'm moving from Cali to Colorado.

Back in Feb I drove my bus to CO to spend 3 weeks in a hotel working at the new data center and look for an apartment. 3 weeks.

Damn near every night my wife would call and pick fights. While it sucked, I wrote it off to the stress of moving and me being gone. But during that time she was supposed to be doing final goodbyes to friends and family, and start the packing process.

I flew back into town last Friday night. I walk into my apartment and find virtually NOTHING had been done. WTF?!?!?! All she did was unload our storage units into the apartment. Nothing was packed. The kids were all confused and scared about all the changes.

I spend the weekend saying my goodbyes, including one last trip to Huntington Beach. She gives me sh!t about wanting to visit some last people, having one last night out, etc. Keeps picking fights. Then gets mad if I want to go to bed at 10. We're supposed to start loading the truck today and I wanted an early start.

So at 8am this morning I'm up and packing, and she has the nerve to come out and yell at me for making noise. WTF? I'm doing what you should have been doing for the past 3 weeks!!!

This is not fun.

:|

UPDATE 3/15

Well... We made it. Finally.

The fighting was done for a while... Until we were loading the trailer.

Let's just say it's shifted into another plane of existence.

We used a company called "UPack". Basically they drop off a 28 foot trailer at your house, you load up, measure how much of the trailer you used, and away it goes. To go from Cali to Colo it was $95 a linear foot of trailer, minimum charge $1200. I spent the 3 weeks I was in Colorado telling her to get rid of sh!t so we could keep it under 12 feet. I had $1500 budgeted for the truck. That's all I could pull off. So we needed to think small.

One of our fights when I got back was about the amount of crap she wanted. It ended up being that only MY crap got left out. She was moving everything, including gardening tools for an apartment without a friggin garden! And insisted on me bringing my sponges (boogie boards). WTF? Where the hell am I going to use those. Whatever...

Her brother and her dad were "helping" us load the truck. It ended up being me doing all the grunt work. As we got close to 12 feet, and I saw we still had tons of stuff I started saying, "We need to start re-thinking what we're bringing. We're out of space." Both she and her brother were telling me to not worry about it. I figured they had worked out something together and weren't going to tell me about it.

I was wrong.

We get here in Colo after a really screwed up drive out (whole 'nuther story) and I'm about a grand short of getting the truck. I tell my wife this and her response? "Can't you get one of those payday advances or something?"

...

Oh. My. Friggin. God.

I was only half joking when I told her to let them keep the sh!t. Nothing in there is worth $2k. I wouldn't lose any sleep over having to go buy new clothes and furniture and such.

I can pull it off, but crap.

Oh, and to top it off... This morning on the way to my bus to go to work I slipped on some ice and fell flat on my back. I think I broke something and need to go to the doctor.

Go me.
If you choose to put up with your wife's behavior, then, in my opinion, you have no right to complain anymore. However, just to touch on the moving thing: It would seem to me that she's signaling that she's not excited about the move and would prefer not to leave. She didn't just object but tried to stand as barrier.... I think she's not willing to let go of things and people she's familiar with in CA. Perhaps that's why she wasn't cooperative (unless of course she always behaves that way). Hopefully now that you have moved she will accept and adjust to the changes in a reasonable time.

Agreed.
 

StageLeft

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The fighting was done for a while... Until we were loading the trailer.

Let's just say it's shifted into another plane of existence.
Of course. There's one thing that can gauranteed get me pissed off, and that's moving. I've done it with mrsskoorb around 4-5 times and each time she can vouch that I'm an awful person to be around.
"Can't you get one of those payday advances or something?"
OK, it's time to either kill yourself (if you need one of those) or get a divorce (if she was serious)!
 

Nitemare

Lifer
Feb 8, 2001
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Originally posted by: Skoorb
The fighting was done for a while... Until we were loading the trailer.

Let's just say it's shifted into another plane of existence.
Of course. There's one thing that can gauranteed get me pissed off, and that's moving. I've done it with mrsskoorb around 4-5 times and each time she can vouch that I'm an awful person to be around.
"Can't you get one of those payday advances or something?"
OK, it's time to either kill yourself (if you need one of those) or get a divorce (if she was serious)!

or option 3 stop by the dump before you go and unload the extra that she could not decide on.
 

PanzerIV

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Duroc, I must concur your wife seems like an absolutely ungrateful beeyatch. I am sure you are sticking around mostly because of the kids and not any feelings of guilt you mentioned. Hopefully things will get better when life returns to normal in the new environment.
 

JulesMaximus

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Originally posted by: DurocShark
Oh, and to top it off... This morning on the way to my bus to go to work I slipped on some ice and fell flat on my back. I think I broke something and need to go to the doctor.

Go me.

YACICT-Yet Another Californian In Colorado Thread? :laugh:

Sorry about the slipping on the ice part. Hope it isn't anything permanent.
 

DurocShark

Lifer
Apr 18, 2001
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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: DurocShark
Oh, and to top it off... This morning on the way to my bus to go to work I slipped on some ice and fell flat on my back. I think I broke something and need to go to the doctor.

Go me.

YACICT-Yet Another Californian In Colorado Thread? :laugh:

Sorry about the slipping on the ice part. Hope it isn't anything permanent.

Well, after X-Rays it turns out that some calcium spurs had broken off and that's what I'm feeling. It'll be a few weeks before my body reabsorbs that calcium and gets back to normal. But it's nothing permanent or really broken thank goodness.

That's what I get for forgetting I'm in Colorado and trying to race the garage door. :eek:
 

PingSpike

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Feb 25, 2004
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Originally posted by: DurocShark
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: DurocShark
Oh, and to top it off... This morning on the way to my bus to go to work I slipped on some ice and fell flat on my back. I think I broke something and need to go to the doctor.

Go me.

YACICT-Yet Another Californian In Colorado Thread? :laugh:

Sorry about the slipping on the ice part. Hope it isn't anything permanent.

Well, after X-Rays it turns out that some calcium spurs had broken off and that's what I'm feeling. It'll be a few weeks before my body reabsorbs that calcium and gets back to normal. But it's nothing permanent or really broken thank goodness.

That's what I get for forgetting I'm in Colorado and trying to race the garage door. :eek:

Don't worry, it usually only takes one spill to learn that lesson. The next time you won't even see the fall coming.