okay, I am TIRED of being single!

[andylawcc]

yes, this is a YAIWAGT (Yet another 'I want a girlfriend' thread)

anyway, she works in my Housing/Dormitory Office, we both kinda knew each other already, I am just having trouble in starting a conversation and consequently ask her out to a date/dinner/lunch or just a coffee. (well, its freaking hot lately here in LA, so probably not coffee).

As some dude from some movie said, "the first conversation is already half the battle," I damn want to win.


thanks

 

[nihil]

I hate being single too. But at least it gave me time to figure out what i want and need for myself.

 

[joohang]

okay, I am TIRED of being single!

OK.

A tip:
It helps if you ASK a question if you want some responses. So what do you want out of this thread?

 

[datalink7]

Yah, being single sucks. But I guess I have ended up being resigned to it. As Jackson Browne sings in "After the Deluge":

"In the end, they [I ] traded their [my] tired wings,
For the resignation that living brings
And exchanged love's bright and fragile glow for the glitter and the rouge,
And in the moment they [I ] were [was] swept before the deluge."

 

[andylawcc]

my question:
"how to start a conversation and consequently ask her out to a date/dinner/lunch or just a coffee"

sorry that it was buried in the middle of the sentence.

 

[bonk102]

hey, me too !

 

[NeoV]

here's a tip...

talk to more people in real life instead of this place....

 

[OS]

Originally posted by: andylawcc
yes, this is a YAIWAGT (Yet another 'I want a girlfriend' thread)

anyway, she works in my Housing/Dormitory Office, we both kinda knew each other already, I am just having trouble in starting a conversation and consequently ask her out to a date/dinner/lunch or just a coffee. (well, its freaking hot lately here in LA, so probably not coffee).

As some dude from some movie said, "the first conversation is already half the battle," I damn want to win.

thanks

what's so hard about asking? Just go up to her and ask her if she's free sometime.

 

[datalink7]

Originally posted by: andylawcc
my question:
"how to start a conversation and consequently ask her out to a date/dinner/lunch or just a coffee"

sorry that it was buried in the middle of the sentence.

Don't think about what you are going to say, just go and start talking. If you think about it too much, it will be harder to muster up the courage to go and speak to her.

 

[joohang]

Never go out of your way.

Just one day when you feel like doing something, ask her if she wants to join you. And just talk about stuff.

 

[OS]

I should say that if you don't take action, you won't ever get anywhere.

Yes you might get turned down, but if don't ask at all, your chances are basically zero.

No it's not easy for the antisocial to talk to people, it's something that you have to get used to. The sooner you start, the sooner you'll see results.


Don't you go to UCLA?? You're on a campus full of beautiful girls, go out there and just talk to them. Don't wait for your college years and the hot girls to pass you by.

 

[Fritzo]

What's funny is, people hate being single. Then they meet someone, fall in love, have kids, and lose all their freedoms to become a child rearing zombie.....then they wish they were single again

Trust me...you don't know how good you have it.

 

[bandXtrb]

How are antisocial people supposed to meet? Maybe somebody shoudl make a dating service for antisocial people. Maybe I should start one and be the first member.

 

[OS]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
What's funny is, people hate being single. Then they meet someone, fall in love, have kids, and lose all their freedoms to become a child rearing zombie.....then they wish they were single again

Trust me...you don't know how good you have it.

It can be pretty good and bad on both sides of the fence.


Also, you don't have to have kids. I'd actually prefer not to. I hate telling girls that though because some of them just love kids.

 

[OS]

Originally posted by: bandXtrb
How are antisocial people supposed to meet? Maybe somebody shoudl make a dating service for antisocial people. Maybe I should start one and be the first member.

Being antisocial is something those people should try to change. It's not good for your personal life, it's not good for your career.

Like it or not, the world is built on a complex web of social interactions and if you isolate yourself, you're basically missing out on the entire world.

 

[xirtam]

how to start a conversation and consequently ask her out to a date/dinner/lunch or just a coffee"

You: "Nice shoes. You hungry?"

Her: "No."

You: "Thirsty?"

Her: "No."

You: "Well, I guess that limits our options to coffee."

...she glances your direction...

You: "Ok. And maybe a donut."

...she smiles...

You: "Well, roses at this stage of our relationship would seem a bit precocious. Besides, I only have $7.84 on me, so coffee and a donut will have to do."

 

[KennyTheGreat]

hm
i have the same sorta problemo

 

[JellyBaby]

There is material, both in print and online, to address your needs. And I'm not talking of self help guides, although these surely fall into that category IMO.

 

[Viper GTS]

Here's what you need

Viper GTS

 

[bleeb]

Yeah.. seems like you have major girl problems.

 

[andylawcc]

hehe, got ya Outersquare, it is Cal STATE LA, not UCLA [if I am in UCLA I probably won't be having this problem...
anyways, you saw me before in Riverside in Tsaico's house, I am a big fob, me no speak engrish.. me no go well with girls....

 

[OS]

Originally posted by: andylawcc
hehe, got ya Outersquare, it is Cal STATE LA, not UCLA [if I am in UCLA I probably won't be having this problem...
anyways, you saw me before in Riverside in Tsaico's house, I am a big fob, me no speak engrish.. me no go well with girls....

Haha, touche. Yeah I remember the meet, I don't see what you have to be down about.

I don't know what to say though, I don't think I'm a fob. Here at cal poly pomona though, I do see fobs with gfs. Plus I recently ran into an old fobby friend from high school and he has a gf now while I do not.

Maybe you should try to join a campus asian social club, I'm sure your school has one. Browse your school's website and try to get involved.

 

[Linux23]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Here's what you need

Viper GTS

you frequent much?

 

[Que-TiP]

There should be a whole forum for threads like this. That way normal people wouldn't have to listen to the mindless ramblings of inept people. If you're lonely, get some friends. if you want sex, ask a girl for some. if you want sex, and girl says no, get a hooker. Yes folks, life is that simple.

 

[OS]

Here, I even looked into your school for you;

Asian Student Union
Asian Unified at CSULA
Overseas Chinese Student Association
You're chinese right? Don't hold it against me if you're not, I suck at that sort of thing

whole list of student activities

Also your campus should have a student life office, ask at any campus information desk for it's location. Your school's student activities list is twice as long as the one for my campus. Go on campus tomorrow and ask around about what's going on.

I don't want to hear anymore excuses!!