ok to go out with 'best friend's ex?

[toph99]

if your best friend's ex has been flirting with you for a solid month, what do you do? she's over him, he's not quite over but is trying. what if she's also your last ex's sister? i'm confused
any opinions?

 

[Theslowone]

I put yes, but she could be going out with you for the sole purpuse of getting back at him. Depending on how hot she looks... well the option is yours.

And how long were they going out?

 

[StageLeft]

Man, that is a bad situation. First of all you can go out with a friend's ex with his blessing - since he is not over her even if he gives it to you he's lying - so you don't really have it. And she is the sister of another ex? DO NOT.

 

[toph99]

<< I put yes, but she could be going out with you for the sole purpuse of getting back at him. Depending on how hot she looks... well the choich is yours. >>


she is totally over him and they're still friends. she is the kind of girl that gets bored with a guy after a few months(8 months in his case) and then gets over them in a day. i don't mind being used as a piece of meat the thing with her sister could be weird though, but her parents like me.

oh, and her sister's the same way, but only lasted a month with me

 

[jlee75]

damn. avoid at all costs. #1 its your best friend's ex! He's not quite over her. End of story. If you want some more convincing, she's your ex's sister! If you're still friends with your ex, then this is also a no no. Thigns would get way too complicated.

 

[toph99]

<< damn. avoid at all costs. #1 its your best friend's ex! He's not quite over her. End of story. If you want some more convincing, she's your ex's sister! If you're still friends with your ex, then this is also a no no. Thigns would get way too complicated. >>



that's what i'm afraid of, and i am still friends with her ex and my friend is still friends with his. he's dating again and stuff though

 

[gotsmack]

she's off limits. it's a guy rule. When a pair split up you are only allowed to be friends with one of them. and its not going to be her because of another guy rule "bros before hos" unless you knew the girl before the guy.

besides what kind of best friend would you be if you're banging a girl he's still not over? maybe if there was a space of a few years since the break up.

if you really wanted to I guess you could reason that there no quicker way to help your friend then to get with her.

 

[gopunk]

if he's not over her, she's off limits. unless you want to be a jackass and lose all respect.

 

[MustPost]

I would say you can't go out with her.
But of course the question remains. Is she hot?

 

[toph99]

<< Is she hot? >>



yes

and i was afraid you'd all say that oh well, i'll have to go searchin for someone else

 

[Balt]

Yeah, do that and the title of your next thread will be "ok to go out with ex-best friend?"

 

[Narse]

Man that is the unwritten rule YOU NEVER DATE A FRIENDS EX!!!!!!!!!

 

[Colt45]

you could, but it might get messy..

 

[BaDNaN0TH0N]

how would you feel if the situation was reveresed.
hes your best friend, you can NEVER go out with his ex. if he was an aquaintance that be ok, but best friends exs = way off limits

 

[Harvey]

If he's really your best friend, you should be able to be up front and discuss it with him. That is really what friendship is all about. If his continuing friendship means anything to you, why would you consider doing anything else?

 

[DaLeroy]

Go for it!!! Bang that booty!

 

[toph99]

<< If he's really your best friend, you should be able to be up front and discuss it with him. That is really what friendship is all about. If his continuing friendship means anything to you, why would you consider doing anything else? >>



i'd ask him first of course, if it were to happen. i don't think i made myself too clear to begin with, he isn't my -best- friend, he is my best guy friend but just someone i hang out with. i'm thinking i'll stay away from it though, tempting as it may be, simply because of the sister factor in there too. it would be awkward

 

[Harvey]

If he's really your best friend, you should be able to be up front and discuss it with him. That is really what friendship is all about. Why would you consider doing anything else?.

If his continuing friendship means anything to you, and he says it would hurt him, then shey'd better be worth losing a friend.

 

[Elita1]

oooooooof....

Sounds like it could be a real hairy situation.
Hopefully you know both your best friend and his ex enough that you can guess how they'd react.
I think it really depends on the people involved, their emotions and personalities. A best friend might completely resent your dating the "ex" or might not care at all.

You are the best judge for this, the only advice I can give is try not to hurt people you care about.

Good luck!

 

[Pikachu]

• PICS?

 

[jehh]

<< if your best friend's ex has been flirting with you for a solid month, what do you do? she's over him, he's not quite over but is trying. what if she's also your last ex's sister? i'm confused
any opinions? >>



Sounds like you'll be on Jerry Springer in no time...

Jason

 

[LordSnailz]

it depends on how long your best friend was with this girl ... if it was a fling for them ... and both are over it then with some blessing she's game, but if they were together for more than 3months then it's a no no.

in your case, if your bud is not over her then it's better to stay away ...

-ls

 

[Robert01]

Ask him what his opinion is. If he doesn't care, go for it. If he seems a little hesistant, stay away...far...far...away.

 

[gooch]

Go for it.

I did, and I ended up marrying her. And my best friend was still the best man at my wedding. No harm done. I even dated his wife before they got married.

 

[FrysInsider]

thats a backstab if i ever heard of one...