Ok, how do you know if you are in the "friend" zone?

[dowxp]

I've known this one girl for a long time, say around 6-8 years, maybe more, and i've gotten to know her better over the last year and now i think i like her alot. anyway, what are the signs of the "friend-zone"? is there such a thing?

 

[trmiv]

If you've known her that long, and you are not boyfriend and girlfriend, you are certainly in the friend zone.

 

[notfred]

<< If you've known her that long, and you are not boyfriend and girlfriend, you are certainly in the friend zone. >>



yep.

 

[dowxp]

<< If you've known her that long, and you are not boyfriend and girlfriend, you are certainly in the friend zone. >>

is it a black hole? impossible to get back to the "i like you" zone?

 

[trmiv]

<< is it a black hole? impossible to get back to the "i like you" zone? >>



Pretty much yes, its impossible. At least in my experience.

 

[PsychoAndy]

*sigh*

pics?

 

[Zim Hosein]

I wouldn't say a "black hole," but when that much time goes by, you're better off looking for love somewhere else. To be honest, it's a gamble, you can hope and see what happens, or you can tell her and either it works, or your frienddship will suffer. I'm not sure what I would do if I was you.

 

[worth]

Ahh, yes, the Counter-Strike zone where it feels like you have negative latency, and where you magically get headshot after headshot with an AK-47, as if your eyes were directly communicating with your fingers?

This isn't about Counter-Strike? Oops, sorry... I'll go away now.

 

[dowxp]

<< Pretty much yes, its impossible. At least in my experience. >>



okay damn it.

alright. are there any asian girls that go to UT [utexas] that like to talk about computer hardware and like to play counterstrike while majoring in EE? if so..

 

[AreaCode707]

Agreed you're definitely in the friend zone, which means you know that the two of you get along and you're probably comfortable enough with her to talk lightly about the possibilty of going out. Friendship is the best base for a long-lasting dating relationship. At the very least she knows you genuinely like *her*, not just her butt and breasts. That can be really encouraging to a girl looking for a nice guy, that you value her for herself and not just her body.

 

[dowxp]

<< *sigh*pics? >>

accidenly cleared my website folder and i broke my scanner. i bought another one, but it came DOA and i forgot the bastard already who didnt give me back my $45. bastarD!

 

[Masas]

yes, once a girl and i were talking about good looking ppl at school
when the topic of my friends and myself on her "ratings"
to which she replied...
"oh, you guys are all cute, buy you guys are more like brothers to me"
to which i replied with brotherly noogies. :disgust:

 

[trmiv]

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<< Pretty much yes, its impossible. At least in my experience. >>



okay damn it.

alright. are there any asian girls that go to UT [utexas] that like to talk about computer hardware and like to play counterstrike while majoring in EE? if so.. >>



Hey I said in my experience, doesn't mean yours won't be different. You gotta weight the pros and cons of trying to take that step though.



<< yes, once a girl and i were talking about good looking ppl at school
when the topic of my friends and myself on her "ratings"
to which she replied...
"oh, you guys are all cute, buy you guys are more like brothers to me"
to which i replied with brotherly noogies. >>




LOL, the "brothers to me" thing. I've heard that one before.

 

[fastz28]

girl: We need to talk
boy: what's up?
girl: I'm not really looking for a relationship right now, I just want to meet new people. Let's just be friends. (You've been LJBF'ed)
boy (wrong response): um... ok <hopefully he can wait her out for her to change her mind>

2 wks later....

girl: I've been dating this guy, he's such an assh0le/jerk, why can't I meet more guys like you?

boy: :|

boy (right response after LJBF'ed): no thanks, I have plenty of friends.

 

[dowxp]

<< Hey I said in my experience, doesn't mean yours won't be different. You gotta weight the pros and cons of trying to take that step though. >>

yeah, but im one of those shy bastards. i really dont want to scare her away. i mean, its been a while..

 

[AreaCode707]

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<< Pretty much yes, its impossible. At least in my experience. >>



okay damn it.

alright. are there any asian girls that go to UT [utexas] that like to talk about computer hardware and like to play counterstrike while majoring in EE? if so.. >>



Hey I said in my experience, doesn't mean yours won't be different. You gotta weight the pros and cons of trying to take that step though.



<< yes, once a girl and i were talking about good looking ppl at school
when the topic of my friends and myself on her "ratings"
to which she replied...
"oh, you guys are all cute, buy you guys are more like brothers to me"
to which i replied with brotherly noogies. >>




LOL, the "brothers to me" thing. I've heard that one before. >>



Hey, don't knock it - I unadopted one of my "brothers" a year ago so we could start dating.

 

[trmiv]

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Hey, don't knock it - I unadopted one of my "brothers" a year ago so we could start dating. >>



I know it happens, but I'm not getting my hopes up. I don't even worry about it any more.

 

[dowxp]

my friend over aim is trying to convince me to go for it.

DPLxx: Agreed you're definitely in the friend zone, which means you know that the two of you get along and you're probably comfortable enough with her to talk lightly about the possibilty of going out. Friendship is the best base for a long-lasting dating relationship. At the very least she knows you genuinely like *her*, not just her butt and breasts. That can be really encouraging to a girl looking for a nice guy, that you value her for herself and not just her body.


Bangsailio: damn it
Bangsailio: i knew u were going to throw that in my face
DPLxx: sounds like a gal
Bangsailio: cuz it is
DPLxx: and girls would know this better than guys

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sigh. perhaps i will do it. taking risks is a part of life anyways.

 

[Ns1]

don't go for it unless you know what you're doing (which you obviously don't if you asked the question in teh first place)


chances are things between you will become very different (in a negative way)


however if you think she's hot and vice versa you can do what i do and become intoxicated, then ask her to be a "Friend with Benefits"

 

[dowxp]

<< however if you think she's hot and vice versa you can do what i do and become intoxicated, then ask her to be a "Friend with Benefits" >>

uh huh

 

[trmiv]

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however if you think she's hot and vice versa you can do what i do and become intoxicated, then ask her to be a "Friend with Benefits" >>




There you go. I like to call it "friends with privileges" myself, but it sounds good to me either way.

 

[dowxp]

<< There you go. I like to call it "friends with privileges" myself, but it sounds good to me either way. >>

well im not looking for that kind of stuff. i really like her, not for the physical stuff. shes cool..

 

[JC]

<< well im not looking for that kind of stuff. i really like her, not for the physical stuff. shes cool.. >>



....then maybe you're right where you should be. Nothin' wrong with that

 

[Ns1]

<< well im not looking for that kind of stuff. i really like her, not for the physical stuff. shes cool.. >>




well then you're SOL

sorry to break it to you buddy but you hereby have 2 choices, neither of which you will like

Choice 1


This
This will be your life as long as you can bear it. Learn it, live it, love it. It will thoroughly destroy you until you are no longer a man, or find a new woman to be infatuated with.

Choice 2
Tell her how you feel, chances are it's gonna be an offshoot of the link for choice 1
From there it will be either A. SCORE!!~ (1 in a million +1), B. Let's just be friends, read link from 1, C. You are still friends but nothing like you were before, D. you are so heartbroken adopt a lifestyle that is not yours in an attempt to forget about her


Don't worry, you're not alone

 

[dirtboy]

You are completely in the "friend zone"...and there's probably very little you can do to escape.