I have a similar build (see my signature) and I have it running extremely stable (no BSOD's or unexplained crashes in over 6 months).
I couldn't get it past 2.45GHz for a while, and I kept blaming my memory. I upped the VDIMM, loosened timings, added memory dividers, etc. I actually lost more performance than I gained for a while. I was pretty disappointed.
Finally, six months ago, I gave it another shot, with 2.6GHz being my goal from the start. This time I left the memory at a 1:1 divider, suggested timings (2.5-3-3-6), and 1T. I gave the memory a bit of extra voltage from the start, and started raising the FSB.
I ran into the same brick wall around 225-230 that I did previously. Just by chance, I upped the Vcore higher than I had before, and it started up without a problem. Seems that the processor was the problem the entire time, and I kept blaming the memory. Right now I have it running at 240FSB, 2.6GHz, and the suggested memory timings without any problems. I have the same motherboard, so I'll post my settings in just a second.