Non-monogomous relationships. Anyone ever had one?

Specop 007

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Just wondering, has anyone had a relationship where you were open (knowingly)? How did the relationship last? What was the cause of the breakup if you are no longer together? Did you enjoy it? Would it be something you would be ok with if you were married?
 

KarenMarie

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i am not clear on what you are asking...

do you mean having more than one person in your life at a time?

or do you mean have more than one person in the room at the same time?
 

Specop 007

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Originally posted by: KarenMarie
i am not clear on what you are asking...

do you mean having more than one person in your life at a time?

or do you mean have more than one person in the room at the same time?


I mean this.
If you n me were a thing, we'd do "our thing" with others.

As an example. Your dating/married to someone, but have sex with whoever.
 

Zim Hosein

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Originally posted by: Specop 007
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
i am not clear on what you are asking...

do you mean having more than one person in your life at a time?

or do you mean have more than one person in the room at the same time?


I mean this.
If you n me were a thing, we'd do "our thing" with others.

As an example. Your dating/married to someone, but have sex with whoever.

So your're cheating on someone or is it out in the open?

 

Specop 007

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Originally posted by: Zim Hosein
Originally posted by: Specop 007
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
i am not clear on what you are asking...

do you mean having more than one person in your life at a time?

or do you mean have more than one person in the room at the same time?


I mean this.
If you n me were a thing, we'd do "our thing" with others.

As an example. Your dating/married to someone, but have sex with whoever.

So your're cheating on someone or is it out in the open?

Assume out in the open?

This is theoretical. I am not cheating on my wife, nor am I having sex with someone else out in the open.

I'm just curious if anyone here has had an open relationship?
 

shortylickens

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There was a brief period in my life, (a summer) where a girl and I agreed we didnt really feel like dating, we just wanted to boink. And thats all we did for the whole summer. Meet up on weekends at her friends apartments or a cheap motel and get funky.

As I recall the agreement was that we COULD see other people, but neither one of us actually bothered. Somehow we managed to build a trust with each other and one-night-stands with strangers (while enjoyable) isnt very safe. So eventually we agreed to be monogamous for the purposes of having safe sex. At the end of the summer she went back to school and I moved away for a while because of work. When I came back I got word she had moved back home after getting her degree.

So to answer the OP's question in a roundabout way: No. Because I never actually screwed around with more than one girl at a time, even though I had permission. That was not the last sexual relationship I had, and the few after that always seemed to last a few months with the implied understanding of monogomy for safety.
 

AccruedExpenditure

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It lasted about a summer... it was alright... but things like that tend to be unstable... she was bi, and i wasn't emotionally committed so I kept pushing for the elusive threesome...

by the end of the summer we both called it quits...
 

aidanjm

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Originally posted by: shortylickens
There was a brief period in my life, (a summer) where a girl and I agreed we didnt really feel like dating, we just wanted to boink. And thats all we did for the whole summer. Meet up on weekends at her friends apartments or a cheap motel and get funky.

that's more of a fvck buddy scenario, than an open relationship.