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No passion for life... I think I'm depressed? Not really sure

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Polish3d

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Does anyone else ever feel this way? I mean, I'm in college, but also took a year off and worked 50 hours a week for a news agency in public relations. I'm loosely planning to go to law school or to aim to become a professor of history. I have plenty of opportunity and work hard, I get all or nearly all A's. I'm above average in looks and am a bodybuilder, (about 205 now 6' so not huge anymore), women respond very well to me yet I am alone and have been for a long time. (In terms of a serious long term relationship.)

I'm basically really depressed at the moment because -

A: I'm not sure that I believe in anything anymore. My longterm goal has been to get into politics and serve in Washington but I'm not sure if I have the passion for it.

B: Why spend the majority of the rest of your life doing something you'd rather not (ie, work), only to live a few more years and then die? Anyone ever read Daniel Quinn's "Beyond Civilization" or "Ishmael?"

C: No fate, no destiny, no God, only death. I strive to be as objective as possible in all areas and this has led me to question some of the things that I think people may simply tell themselves to cope. ie, "it was meant to be," "you'll meet the one for you," "when you die you go to a nicer place."

D: Alone - I think I'm probably lonely. It's not that I haven't had sex in awhile, I have lately, but I guess I really crave a 'love' type relationship. I haven't had one in 4 years and I'm 23 now. I guess I am just afraid that I really won't find anyone in which the love is mutual and serious.

I realize most of this is a little muddled, I guess it's just that I'm ****** lonely, don't really believe in anything anymore (ie, no passion), and suicide is not something I consider seriously (I'd never do it for what'd do to my parents for one thing), I do feel kind passionless and in despair.

Bad post I know, just want some insight






 
Originally posted by: Frackal
Does anyone else ever feel this way? I mean, I'm in college, but also took a year off and worked 50 hours a week for a news agency in public relations. I'm loosely planning to go to law school or to aim to become a professor of history. I have plenty of opportunity and work hard, I get all or nearly all A's. I'm above average in looks and am a bodybuilder, (about 205 now 6' so not huge anymore), women respond very well to me yet I am alone and have been for a long time. (In terms of a serious long term relationship.)

I'm basically really depressed at the moment because -

A: I'm not sure that I believe in anything anymore. My longterm goal has been to get into politics and serve in Washington but I'm not sure if I have the passion for it.

B: Why spend the majority of the rest of your life doing something you'd rather not (ie, work), only to live a few more years and then die? Anyone ever read Daniel Quinn's "Beyond Civilization" or "Ishmael?"

C: No fate, no destiny, no God, only death. I strive to be as objective as possible in all areas and this has led me to question some of the things that I think people may simply tell themselves to cope. ie, "it was meant to be," "you'll meet the one for you," "when you die you go to a nicer place."

D: Alone - I think I'm probably lonely. It's not that I haven't had sex in awhile, I have lately, but I guess I really crave a 'love' type relationship. I haven't had one in 4 years and I'm 23 now. I guess I am just afraid that I really won't find anyone in which the love is mutual and serious.

I realize most of this is a little muddled, I guess it's just that I'm ****** lonely, don't really believe in anything anymore (ie, no passion), and suicide is not something I consider seriously (I'd never do it for what'd do to my parents for one thing), I do feel kind passionless and in despair.

Bad post I know, just want some insight
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Drifting thru life... 🙁
 
See a psychiatrist.

I'm super serial. You're sick. Get the help you need.

You are in deep depression. Get help, fix it, do something about it.
 
To quote another forum...
You'll meet a chick, fill her up, a baby will pop up, then you'll spend the next 15 years doing overtime. Every day will be the same. Nothing will change. You will just get older. All your dreams will fade away over time.

You will get a big house, for the kids. You will work until you are 55 to pay on that stupid house. You'll much become like your dad. Something you swore when you are 15 that would you never become.

This will be a very slow process, much like a boiling frog.

By the time you'll be done, your body will have starting fading away. You'll be too tired to enjoy anything cool again. You will be more concerned about crap like that guy across the street who got a new car, or a new pool. You'll think about work-related drama in your free time. Re-doing the garden all over again will sound like a good activity. You'll pretty much become like your dad. Something you swore when you are 15 that would you never become.

It's no use resisting. This is human nature. We will lead have meaningless lives. When you are a kid or a teenager, you always think that you are somethign special, that you got a plan, that your life will be something special. You are not going to be like the others, you are going to live a meaningful life. You will outclass everbody. Life is going to be awesome. Every days, new crazy adventures.

But when you actually get there, it ****ing sucks. Don't fight it. You have figured out what life really is. The party is over.

Have a nice day.
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Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Sounds like life to me.
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ditto...we all have our ups and downs...you just need to deal and cope with it..I bet most of us have felt this emotion to
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
See a psychiatrist.

I'm super serial. You're sick. Get the help you need.

You are in deep depression. Get help, fix it, do something about it.
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Sounds more like normal life than depression to me...
 
Maybe you are looking for fulfillment in the wrong places/terms? Yake a weekend and volunteer at a soup kitchen or something similar. I think you may find your priorities will change a bit. Go visit a children's cancer ward in the hospital. Take some small gifts to give to the kids and just spend a few minutes visiting them. (ie. buy a bunch of cheap toys in bulk--the type of junk that costs 10 tickets at Chuck E. Cheese, etc - total $10 or so)

Your depression may be related to complacency in what you have vs. wht you want rather than being thankful for all of the many blessings in your life.
 
Originally posted by: aswedc
To quote another forum...
You'll meet a chick, fill her up, a baby will pop up, then you'll spend the next 15 years doing overtime. Every day will be the same. Nothing will change. You will just get older. All your dreams will fade away over time.

You will get a big house, for the kids. You will work until you are 55 to pay on that stupid house. You'll much become like your dad. Something you swore when you are 15 that would you never become.

This will be a very slow process, much like a boiling frog.

By the time you'll be done, your body will have starting fading away. You'll be too tired to enjoy anything cool again. You will be more concerned about crap like that guy across the street who got a new car, or a new pool. You'll think about work-related drama in your free time. Re-doing the garden all over again will sound like a good activity. You'll pretty much become like your dad. Something you swore when you are 15 that would you never become.

It's no use resisting. This is human nature. We will lead have meaningless lives. When you are a kid or a teenager, you always think that you are somethign special, that you got a plan, that your life will be something special. You are not going to be like the others, you are going to live a meaningful life. You will outclass everbody. Life is going to be awesome. Every days, new crazy adventures.

But when you actually get there, it ****ing sucks. Don't fight it. You have figured out what life really is. The party is over.

Have a nice day.
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This actually cheered me up a bit just because so far I've excelled in everything I've tried to do, the one exception being female relationships. I guess its fair to call me an overachiever who is massively lonely, companionship wise. (I do have good close guy friends.)
 
Originally posted by: Frackal
This actually cheered me up a bit just because so far I've excelled in everything I've tried to do, the one exception being female relationships. I guess its fair to call me an overachiever who is massively lonely, companionship wise. (I do have good close guy friends.)
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Glad I could help 😛
 
Originally posted by: altonb1
Maybe you are looking for fulfillment in the wrong places/terms? Yake a weekend and volunteer at a soup kitchen or something similar. I think you may find your priorities will change a bit. Go visit a children's cancer ward in the hospital. Take some small gifts to give to the kids and just spend a few minutes visiting them. (ie. buy a bunch of cheap toys in bulk--the type of junk that costs 10 tickets at Chuck E. Cheese, etc - total $10 or so)

Your depression may be related to complacency in what you have vs. wht you want rather than being thankful for all of the many blessings in your life.
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Perhaps so. I'm no fool about that, I actually do pray daily, although I have no idea if God exists. Each night its a pretty simple prayer, starting with saying thanks.
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: spidey07
See a psychiatrist.

I'm super serial. You're sick. Get the help you need.

You are in deep depression. Get help, fix it, do something about it.
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Sounds more like normal life than depression to me...
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No. That is not normal life. That is barely functinoing...I am not a mental health professional, but i do know the clear cut signs...

A: I'm not sure that I believe in anything anymore. My longterm goal has been to get into politics and serve in Washington but I'm not sure if I have the passion for it.
no goals, no passion, no desire to meet them

B: Why spend the majority of the rest of your life doing something you'd rather not (ie, work), only to live a few more years and then die? Anyone ever read Daniel Quinn's "Beyond Civilization" or "Ishmael?"
no light at the end of the tunnel, nothing to look forward to, no hope

C: No fate, no destiny, no God, only death. I strive to be as objective as possible in all areas and this has led me to question some of the things that I think people may simply tell themselves to cope. ie, "it was meant to be," "you'll meet the one for you," "when you die you go to a nicer place."
same tone

D: Alone - I think I'm probably lonely. It's not that I haven't had sex in awhile, I have lately, but I guess I really crave a 'love' type relationship. I haven't had one in 4 years and I'm 23 now. I guess I am just afraid that I really won't find anyone in which the love is mutual and serious.
same tone

Seriously man, seek help. Everybody goes through it at some point in their life. Get the help you need. Make this your one and only goal - "I will beat this, I will do what I need to do to beat this."

I am spidey, I dealt with it via some pretty difficult cicumstances (divorce/death of a parent) and I know/understand what it is like. Get help now.
 
Originally posted by: Frackal
Does anyone else ever feel this way? I mean, I'm in college, but also took a year off and worked 50 hours a week for a news agency in public relations. I'm loosely planning to go to law school or to aim to become a professor of history. I have plenty of opportunity and work hard, I get all or nearly all A's. I'm above average in looks and am a bodybuilder, (about 205 now 6' so not huge anymore), women respond very well to me yet I am alone and have been for a long time. (In terms of a serious long term relationship.)

I'm basically really depressed at the moment because -

A: I'm not sure that I believe in anything anymore. My longterm goal has been to get into politics and serve in Washington but I'm not sure if I have the passion for it.

B: Why spend the majority of the rest of your life doing something you'd rather not (ie, work), only to live a few more years and then die? Anyone ever read Daniel Quinn's "Beyond Civilization" or "Ishmael?"

C: No fate, no destiny, no God, only death. I strive to be as objective as possible in all areas and this has led me to question some of the things that I think people may simply tell themselves to cope. ie, "it was meant to be," "you'll meet the one for you," "when you die you go to a nicer place."

D: Alone - I think I'm probably lonely. It's not that I haven't had sex in awhile, I have lately, but I guess I really crave a 'love' type relationship. I haven't had one in 4 years and I'm 23 now. I guess I am just afraid that I really won't find anyone in which the love is mutual and serious.

I realize most of this is a little muddled, I guess it's just that I'm ****** lonely, don't really believe in anything anymore (ie, no passion), and suicide is not something I consider seriously (I'd never do it for what'd do to my parents for one thing), I do feel kind passionless and in despair.

Bad post I know, just want some insight
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Welcome to ATOT?

Ahhhh the joys of growing up

Don't be a fool, stay in school

edit: on a serious note, unless you think like this 24x7 then your pretty much just like everybody else
 
The whole not believing in anything deal is rediculous, your highschool dreams and "god and the afterlife" aren't everything. This is the life that you have. if you can't believe that there's something more then your time will be better spent making the most of it rather than lamenting the loss of an afterlife that never existed in the first place.

As for politics and washington, if you don't feel motivated by that then look elsewhere. It's as simple as that

Loneliness is something that everyone deals with from time to time. To be honest you might not meet "the one"...ever. You won't know you don't try though.
 
Funny thing...I had almost the same exact conversation with my friend the other day.

No Passion = No Joy

find what you are passionate about...(this is the hard part)...once you find it...the rest is easy

forget what society tells you what is successful and not...i'm a firm believer in that a happy person is a successful person. success in our society is measured by how much $$$ you have and how big your house is...etc. in my book, if you have $$$ and cant have a sincere smile on your face...you are poor. if you dont have a single penny but can smile sincerely...you are rich. of course everyone in between the two extremes is where we usually are. if you can find a balance of today and tomorrow, i think you will find that happy median.

as for love...sorry i cannot give you any good advice that you may want to hear. but it seems as if you don't love yourself too much at the moment...if that is the case, how can you expect a stranger to love you. learn to love yourself before you can expect someone else to love you. again find the things you are passionate about.

i hope this helps. i know it sounds alot like a bunch on cliches...but i hope you realize one thing...whatever you decide to do...you are worth it.
 
Originally posted by: aswedc
To quote another forum...
You'll meet a chick, fill her up, a baby will pop up, then you'll spend the next 15 years doing overtime. Every day will be the same. Nothing will change. You will just get older. All your dreams will fade away over time.

You will get a big house, for the kids. You will work until you are 55 to pay on that stupid house. You'll much become like your dad. Something you swore when you are 15 that would you never become.

This will be a very slow process, much like a boiling frog.

By the time you'll be done, your body will have starting fading away. You'll be too tired to enjoy anything cool again. You will be more concerned about crap like that guy across the street who got a new car, or a new pool. You'll think about work-related drama in your free time. Re-doing the garden all over again will sound like a good activity. You'll pretty much become like your dad. Something you swore when you are 15 that would you never become.

It's no use resisting. This is human nature. We will lead have meaningless lives. When you are a kid or a teenager, you always think that you are somethign special, that you got a plan, that your life will be something special. You are not going to be like the others, you are going to live a meaningful life. You will outclass everbody. Life is going to be awesome. Every days, new crazy adventures.

But when you actually get there, it ****ing sucks. Don't fight it. You have figured out what life really is. The party is over.

Have a nice day.
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While I think that post was intended to be humorous, I think it does have some truth to it. The fact is, the vast majority of people will not become millionaires, will never be famous, and will never hold any position of power (senator, governor, etc.). The majority of people get a job, get married, and have kids, just like everyone else.

The tone of the post seems too fatalistic to me, however. It makes it sound like you have no choice but to get married, and then have no choice but to have kids. It's your life, you don't have to do those things if you really don't want to. Then again, I'll bet a lot of people do it just because they are giving into to family and societal pressures.

 
Originally posted by: Frackal


C: No fate, no destiny, no God, only death. I strive to be as objective as possible in all areas and this has led me to question some of the things that I think people may simply tell themselves to cope. ie, "it was meant to be," "you'll meet the one for you," "when you die you go to a nicer place."
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Go out and find your fate and destiny. You are already on the right track since you feel that your not in a place you were meant to be.
 
i think i'm in a similar situation.

I don't feel like doing anything a lot of the time, whether its work or just hanging out.
I'm not really happy at all. The only real enjoyment I get out of anything is reading a book or maybe watching a movie and thats because its taking me away from my crappy life for awhile.

i'm 26. i don't feel like an adult. maybe because i'm working in a crappy job where i get no respect, i can't find another job, i have no gf or even a social life at all, very few friends (only 1 that i actually do anything with and thats like once a month if that) and i still live at home because i don't make enough money to move out on my own. i think the still living at home part is the main reason for this.

there's so much stuff i want to do and so many places i want to go, but unless i win the lottery, it will never happen and that really pisses me off too.
 
Originally posted by: mrrman
Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Sounds like life to me.
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ditto...we all have our ups and downs...you just need to deal and cope with it..I bet most of us have felt this emotion to
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Yeah. OP, surround yourself with good friends. Try out something new that betters you as an individual ( a club, church, temple, meditation... )

Get through school, and then make a decision on what you want to do from there. It can be totally opposite to what you have worked for, and that is okay. It may be scary, but you don't want to grow old and have many regrets.
 
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