No more. I just can't do it.

[aidanjm]

Working with Monsters - dealing with the workplace psychopath

Cunning, ruthless, terrifying are words to describe a criminal psychopath, but they might also describe a workplace psychopath, your co-worker or even your boss.
Sooner or later in your working life you're likely to run into these manipulative, intimidating creatures; people who can turn a good job into a god-awful nightmare.

John Clarke works as a consultant to corporations experiencing problems with a suspected workplace psychopath: individuals who, for whatever reason, lack any kind of human empathy, who take pleasure in destroying the lives of the co-workers and employees, just because they can.

Now he's released a book "Working with Monsters: How to identify and protect yourself from the workplace psychopath"

How do you recognise these people, and what can you do to protect yourself from them?

To begin with try this checklist;

· They are manipulative,
· They Bully co-workers,
· Scheming, shallow parasitic- They steal other people's ideas,
· Never go to meetings so they can blame others,
· Have a grandiose sense of their own worth,
· Lack remorse and guilt for their actions,
· and have no conscience.

What can you do about it? Listen to John Clarke and Richard Fidler to find out.

link for interview

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Originally posted by: SuperSix
Bitchslap him!!!

Or come be my personal "assistant"... :evil:

I'm sure you'd be a good boss. haha

You should just get a group of people to agree with you and leave the job all the same day. He'd be in for a nice little surprise when he came to work and might think about what he says next time.

That'd be funny..since his is such a dick. lol

Actually most real estate office broker/owners are complete @ssholes. One of my wife?s friends took a secretary position job at one of the real estate offices and complained about the same things: No training and too much work for one person. The trouble with brokers is that all of their sales people are "exempt" employees that they don't have to pay. Hell the son of b!tch charges the Realtors a monthly fee for answering his phone. This d!ckweed then resents it when he actually have to PAY someone an hourly wage, God forbid they train you or give you any benefits.

Most people who have bought property (ie your next employer) know that real estate brokers are tools. Just tell them the truth that he never trained you then demanded that you do tasks that you were not given any instruction for.

Good Luck!

Heh, yeah, it sucks. I was at least hourly so I got paid for ALL the time I was there. lol

aidanjm - I'll have to check that out.

 

[ranmaniac]

Originally posted by: Rike

Originally posted by: hzl eyed grl
I'm going to take the time to respond to everyone a little later, but two things first....

One, I'm not doing the sexual harassment thing. It wasn't sexual harassment and I may not like the guy, but I'm not into lying to ruin his life for making mine hell for a little while.

Two, I'm not just walking away without letting him know. How I'm going to let him know yet, I'm not certain. I know it would be better to do it by phone or in person, but I don't feel like hearing whatever smartass thing he had to say or let him have another chance to make me feel bad about myself. So, I might write up an e-mail to send it to him, but I don't know what all to say or if that's really what I should do.

Ideas/suggestions?

First I think I fixed your quote. See bold above.

Second, let me see if this evaluation fits your situation and feelings.

1. You feel you have a legitimate complainant against your boss (basically a hostile work environment) , so severe you feel your only recourse is to quit.
2. You want to tell your boss what you think of him, but you are not sure what to say.

A possible course of action:
The solution is to write a letter of resignation and to clearly state the reasons for your resignation. I would recommend writing out all your ideas, everything. Organize it and write out the letter. Then have someone you trust edit out most of the emotional content.

I know that sounds harsh, but I have my wife do this all the time for my own letters I write when I'm mad, hurt, etc. in a business setting. The hard edged emotional content makes it too easy for people reading the letter to dismiss you as, well, emotional. If you boil it down to the facts and make your feelings sound like objective observations, then it is more likely that people will take you seriously.

Your letter should be addressed to your boss and CCed to his boss and your HR director.
Printout three hard copies, each in sealed envelope. Hand deliver your letter to your boss, inform him that you have resigned and then see the HR director or whoever handles the paperwork for when people quit or are fired.

Give a the HR copy and your boss's boss's copy of your letter to the HR person who handles your exit paperwork. Some places do exit interviews. You are under no obligation to go through it; do it or don't, it's your choice. Finish up your paperwork, which should include any pay and sick leave you are owed, take any personal belongings and leave.

The next day, email a copy of your letter to the same people the letters went to as a confirmation that they all received the letter. Make sure you put some type of heading on it to show that you have sent a copy of something that had been previously sent.

The last things to do are to let it all go, remember the lessons you've learned, and find a new job.

Disclaimer: I'm not a lawyer and I don't give legal advice. When it doubt, get a lawyer.

I hope this helps.

This is good advice. I'd recommend to the OP to wear your "power suit" meaning something you'd wear to an interview, so you'll look even more serious and professional while you're handing that sealed envelope to your boss indicating you're resigning. There's something about dressing up, and looking your best for the moment when you're going to take your job and shove it up your boss's a$$.