Nicest way to tell a coworker I am engaged?

[miketheidiot]

Originally posted by: Psyber
you could just tell him you have plans with your fiance

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Tomato
A very nice IT guy came by my cube yesterday looking for my coworker, who was not in. He asked what our division does, and we chatted for a little bit. I have a mini-shrine of pictures of my fiance on my cubicle wall, but wasn't sure he saw it.

The next day, he called and asked what I was doing after work. Apparently he had "an extra ticket to see Fantastic Four" and was wondering if I would like to join him.

I told him I had to volunteer that night (which I did), and he said, "Maybe some other time."

I'm assuming he was asking me out on a date v. "I want to get to know you better as a friend," and don't want things to get awkward. What would be the most polite/non-awkward way of letting him know that I am not available?

I was thinking I could shoot him a quick e-mail asking him if he'd like to hang out with my fiance and I sometime, but if that's not the best idea I'm open to suggestions.

stop leading him on and making excuses. just tell him you are engaged.

TSK, TSK, TSK. Where's the AT attention-whoring thread in that?

Fixed.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: miketheidiot

Originally posted by: Psyber
you could just tell him you have plans with your fiance

that doesn't say no. You could then ask, what's the best time then?

You have to just state what I said above. It's clear, non-confrontational, and gets the point across.

Married/Engaged <> to off the market for many singles.

 

[brigden]

Are you people that emotionally retarded that you can't fend off people asking you out?

"Sorry, I have a fiance, but I'm flattered."

 

[aplefka]

Originally posted by: brigden
Are you people that emotionally retarded that you can't fend off people asking you out?

"Sorry, I have a fiance, but I'm flattered."

You're missing the point. See my previous post that is above your's.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: bsobel
Simply say you don't think you'd be comfortable unless your fiance was there.

that's just stupid to say...you one of those guys that think women have to be weak to have a choice?

Like other's here that do get out and mingle have said, you can leave the finance/ee out, unless that's just an excuse:

The we go out a solo a lot crowd, but with someone they come home to: I'd love to do that. However I am with someone, so I don't want to give you the wrong impression...I love going out though and it'd be fun to do that, however; I am not looking for anything outside my relationship.

You are a homebody: I am sorry, I can't I have someone already, and we spend our nights at home and don't really comingle.

You can obviously add/take away.

The ring, the person, etc really have nothing to do with the choice.

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

Show him your penis.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Hayabusa Rider
Show him your penis.

my money is on her being a real chick with real chick problems.

Not only nerdlings post online.

 

[PELarson]

Originally posted by: Tomato
A very nice IT guy came by my cube yesterday looking for my coworker, who was not in. He asked what our division does, and we chatted for a little bit. I have a mini-shrine of pictures of my fiance on my cubicle wall, but wasn't sure he saw it.

The next day, he called and asked what I was doing after work. Apparently he had "an extra ticket to see Fantastic Four" and was wondering if I would like to join him.

I told him I had to volunteer that night (which I did), and he said, "Maybe some other time."

I'm assuming he was asking me out on a date v. "I want to get to know you better as a friend," and don't want things to get awkward. What would be the most polite/non-awkward way of letting him know that I am not available?

I was thinking I could shoot him a quick e-mail asking him if he'd like to hang out with my fiance and I sometime, but if that's not the best idea I'm open to suggestions.

Wear a black arm band to work and when asked who you are mourning say yourself and your lose of freedom in XX months.