If I understand him correctly, his wife will be using it.
"new camera for her birthday" and "keeps in her purse" should be figured into this topic.
I totally doubt she wants to lug a DSLR around, even though we all agree the photos / features trump P&S's.
This is just the expression of a bias. There are women who lug around DSLRs, and entry-level DSLRs are arguably very well suited to them, because they're smaller and lighter than the others. My wife lugged around a 20D with a big lens for years, which she did for the image quality, but she also sometimes enjoyed the attention she got as results -- from people asking her if she was a pro to random guys discussing gear with her until she mentioned that the camera was a hand-me-down from her husband and she was really clueless about brands and models, etc...
Similarly, I've seen other mothers come to kids' birthday parties with DSLRs. At one time, DSLRs were the domain of pros and serious geeks, but they're more commonplace now.
That said, a high-quality P&S like the Canon S100 and similar Panasonic is likely to be enjoyable for its results, and carried more often.