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eLiTeGoodGuy

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A while back I decided to start my own web / game hosting business, my fiance has decided since we are going to be running this while we are married, she's putting money into this too and she wants to be help with the billing and support. I feel that's fine, technically it's true... but lately she's been really pissing me off. I paid someone to build a webpage for me (I have no artistic talent) and she complained that she didn't like the colors... and if they aren't changed to the colors she wants she's gonna shut everything down. So I redesigned everything; then she doesn't like the billing software and wants me to make her special software for it, or she's gonna stop it all (for everyones info. I know nothing about programming). NOW she doesn't like the prices I am charging and if I don't change it she's gonna shut it all down. Finally I just told her to back off...


To make a long story short she tried controlling everything to be her way or else, when I told her to back off I was in trouble for about a week or so (no sex for a week :( )

Moral of the story: Keep your woman out of the business affairs :)
 
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eLiTeGoodGuy

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Things have gotten better. she's still wanting to control everything but she's atleast listening to what I have to say
 
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Zim Hosein

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Your wife is right eLiTeGoodGuy1, you're letting your partner invest w/ you, which makes her say = to yours IMO.
 
iamme

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The best way (i think) would be to make clear cut boundaries in the business. You handle certain aspects and she handles others. The more ambiguity there is within business roles, the more "toes will be stepped on". And the less nookie time between you and your wife :D
 
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eLiTeGoodGuy

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yeah I agree, but when she sees it as her say is the only say...

I think it was on boat trip

"Yeah things are great she's made all the decisions for me:
where we're gonna live, What our kids names are going to be, What my future job is...

The only decision I have left to make is whether I want to be buried or creamated.... oohh wait I'm being buried next to her"
 
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rawoutput

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Should have let her keep her money, getting into business with friends/family is the worst thing you can do IMO
 
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You both need to decide who is going to be in charge of what in the business.Clearly defiined roles are important in making things run smoothly.
 
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Ylen13

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Never ever get in business with any family member especially brother or sisters. A wife could be an exception to that rule but depends on what kind of business. Otherwise at the end u will stop talking to each other for long time if not for ever.
 
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dquan97

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Originally posted by: eLiTeGoodGuy1
A while back I decided to start my own web / game hosting business, my fiance has decided since we are going to be running this while we are married, she's putting money into this too and she wants to be help with the billing and support. I feel that's fine, technically it's true... but lately she's been really pissing me off. I paid someone to build a webpage for me (I have no artistic talent) and she complained that she didn't like the colors... and if they aren't changed to the colors she wants she's gonna shut everything down. So I redesigned everything; then she doesn't like the billing software and wants me to make her special software for it, or she's gonna stop it all (for everyones info. I know nothing about programming). NOW she doesn't like the prices I am charging and if I don't change it she's gonna shut it all down. Finally I just told her to back off...


To make a long story short she tried controlling everything to be her way or else, when I told her to back off I was in trouble for about a week or so (no sex for a week :( )

Moral of the story: Keep your woman out of the business affairs :)
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Or you could turn the tables on her and don't have sex with her until you're married! ;)
 
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brxndxn

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Holy crap... She totally sounds like a bitch. It's like my friend's mom who knew nothing about the family business (worth millions of dollars) so she forced it to be liquidated when they got divorced. Since the business was about 90% intellectual property, everything went POOF. No money for either of them. Now she's upset that her former husband is going back into business. She thinks that since the business was liquidated that he cannot use his current PHD in chemistry. HAHA. Dumb bitch.

Anyway, I'd be really worried about some girl like that. She seriously sounds like she has a firm grasp on your nuts. Watch out before she rips them off.

I mean WTF is she thinking complaining about everything. You do realize that you're letting her run the business, don't you? I mean, nobody forces a company to change their colors or billing software unless they have a 51% share.

Man.. I would have broken up with her the second she gave me the first ultimatim. (Do it my way, or don't do it at all.. - The proper reply is FVCK YOU.)
 
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AlienCraft

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Originally posted by: Geekbabe
You both need to decide who is going to be in charge of what in the business.Clearly defiined roles are important in making things run smoothly.
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Exactly.
My ex and I worked together on a major studio re-build. She learned quite a lot, I learned quite a lot (mostly she was right more than I gave her credit for), and after it was all said and done, we are still friends.
We didn't break up over that ,FWIW.
 
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Wolverine27

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To make a long story short she tried controlling everything to be her way or else, when I told her to back off I was in trouble for about a week or so (no sex for a week :( )
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Face it...she owns you!?! :D
 
MustangSVT

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not only your wife/girl.. same could be said for other family members and friends.

its because you know them and they know you so it becomes less "business like" . which doesnt work.

but i hope it works out.
 
AnyMal

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I hope for your own sake you do see that HUGE rad flag waving right in your face. If you think her giving you the ultimatum over a small business was bad enough, wait til she runs your entire life, where you can not make a single decision without her, and everything has to be approved by her. My condolences on your future misery.
 
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gunblade

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Indeed, do you make most of your decision or your girl make it? Do you two have plan on how to share the decision making privilege after married and stuff like that ?

i hope it worked out fine. Try to communicate with her about your thought, if she is considerate and understanding( which i would think she is), then things can be worked out given some time.
 
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