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Nervousness, anxiety, et cetera.

TridenT

TridenT

Lifer
So, what's the deal with those? I never feel them except with people of power. Examples: Women that I like who can easily shoot me down. Employers. Other people in very powerful positions that I feel could ruin certain aspects of my life. Basically, people who can easily ruin my chances at happiness

Are you the same? If you listen the logic, it makes sense, but ATOT is not known for logic, and so I shall not be trying to show you.
 
Nope. I generally feel nervousness and anxiety when I'm in a I'm-not-worthy/I-don't-deserve-it kind of mood. Then again, I've never had to deal with such women or employers or such.

I can understand that, though.
 
TridenT said:
So, what's the deal with those? I never feel them except with people of power. Examples: Women that I like who can easily shoot me down. Employers. Other people in very powerful positions that I feel could ruin certain aspects of my life. Basically, people who can easily ruin my chances at happiness

Are you the same? If you listen the logic, it makes sense, but ATOT is not known for logic, and so I shall not be trying to show you.
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So basically you're intimidated by people you grant power over yourself... Why am I not surprised?

Once again, you're dealing with a problem of your own creation.
 
its because you are experiencing the effect there "aura" has on you...

you need to adjust the way you "experience" this, if you want to change the "experience" of there presence.

This comes from within, from your confidence.

if you project that same kind of "aura" they do. you would have this same effect on people who feel the way you do when you "experience," this type of aura.
 
Whoozyerdaddy said:
So basically you're intimidated by people you grant power over yourself... Why am I not surprised?

Once again, you're dealing with a problem of your own creation.
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The power exists just as any other non-physical/violent power does. The problem is building his own power to better improve ones negotiating leverage.
 
Whoozyerdaddy said:
No it doesnt. It's something you build up in your mind and grant to others. It's a self induced paralysis.
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Not really. Let's say your key to happiness (something that does not come by often by any stretch) is here before you. You don't wanna fuck it up, but you know the chances of fucking it up are practically 99.9% by just trying to get this situation to work. If you know the odds of winning are like that of the lottery, then you know... you have something to be worried about. The worry about having to go on without the happiness, the future pain you know that it entails... You think, "If I worry enough. Maybe I will know something in that situation that can trigger some kind of very good series of synaptic firing that being otherwise non-nonchalant about would never see." That is really, the only reason why I get nervous.
 
TridenT said:
Not really. Let's say your key to happiness (something that does not come by often by any stretch) is here before you. You don't wanna fuck it up, but you know the chances of fucking it up are practically 99.9% by just trying to get this situation to work. If you know the odds of winning are like that of the lottery, then you know... you have something to be worried about. The worry about having to go on without the happiness, the future pain you know that it entails... You think, "If I worry enough. Maybe I will know something in that situation that can trigger some kind of very good series of synaptic firing that being otherwise non-nonchalant about would never see." That is really, the only reason why I get nervous.
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you just said it.

you need to be CONFIDENT.

when your confident, the probability that you'll succeed goes substantially higher... when confidence is 0, the probability is horrible...

if you wanna compare it winning the lottery.... or say, charming a girl...

if you KNOW there's barely a chance it's possible, than that's it.. if your confident you have what it takes to woo said girl.. then your chances are way better.. this has to be really believed, because that is projected by your body language no matter what... and because body language hits us at a subconscious level.. she'll be woo'd, and not even be able to help it.. her reaction will be a reaction to your, "presence."

it's like holding the winning lottery ticket before you even know the winning numbers.
 
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yeah, i notice that sometimes when I talk to people. you can hear the crackle in their voice and the shivering in their hands
 
it's like.. the probability of joe schmoe clearing a 6 foot high jump bar... pretty bad...

probability of an Olympic high jumper clearing it.... way better..
 
TridenT said:
Not really. Let's say your key to happiness (something that does not come by often by any stretch) is here before you. You don't wanna fuck it up, but you know the chances of fucking it up are practically 99.9% by just trying to get this situation to work. If you know the odds of winning are like that of the lottery, then you know... you have something to be worried about. The worry about having to go on without the happiness, the future pain you know that it entails... You think, "If I worry enough. Maybe I will know something in that situation that can trigger some kind of very good series of synaptic firing that being otherwise non-nonchalant about would never see." That is really, the only reason why I get nervous.
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Problem #1: "worrying" about screwing up before your even start is silly. Worrying creates doubt, which in turn erodes confidence. Think of what will go "right".
 
you know how some people are just "magnetic," you just feel good in there presence... you know why that is?

it's their aura, which is projected in there body language, facial expressions, etc, we use Synesthesia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Synesthesia to turn this into the emotion we feel based on what's gathered by all of our senses that are triggered by someone else's presence.
 
TridenT said:
Not really. Let's say your key to happiness (something that does not come by often by any stretch) is here before you. You don't wanna fuck it up, but you know the chances of fucking it up are practically 99.9% by just trying to get this situation to work. If you know the odds of winning are like that of the lottery, then you know... you have something to be worried about. The worry about having to go on without the happiness, the future pain you know that it entails... You think, "If I worry enough. Maybe I will know something in that situation that can trigger some kind of very good series of synaptic firing that being otherwise non-nonchalant about would never see." That is really, the only reason why I get nervous.
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I don't worry about the percentages. I just see an opportunity and I go for it. If it doesn't work out, oh well.

It's like the NASCAR drivers say... if you worry about crashing, you'll crash. If you just drive... well... you might crash but more often than not you'll find yourself raging balls to the wall around the track with a hot chick waiting for you at the finish line (win or lose).

Quit worrying about the crash and just drive.
 
That reminds me... get of yourself tridenT now. give up your self pity and take responsibility for your shit and damned well pay attention to people who give you advice!

... I've not read the thread, I just assume the above is 100% appropriate.
 
Cafe Express said:
I happen to agree with you on this. I have never been wrong trusting my "instincts" or "vibe" I get from people. That being said, I am charismatic, and have "the gift".
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🙂

yeah it's awesome, i've been really reading alot about this kind of stuff lately, alot of eastern teachings, it's really.. there's something to it that's for sure...

i can practice this kind of thing, charisma, watching my body language to other peoples reactions, and actually see instant results. 🙂
 
zanejohnson said:
its because you are experiencing the effect there "aura" has on you...

you need to adjust the way you "experience" this, if you want to change the "experience" of there presence.

This comes from within, from your confidence.

if you project that same kind of "aura" they do. you would have this same effect on people who feel the way you do when you "experience," this type of aura.
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zanejohnson said:
you know how some people are just "magnetic," you just feel good in there presence... you know why that is?

it's their aura, which is projected in there body language, facial expressions, etc, we use Synesthesia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Synesthesia to turn this into the emotion we feel based on what's gathered by all of our senses that are triggered by someone else's presence.
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wat
 
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Cafe Express said:
Problem #1: "worrying" about screwing up before your even start is silly. Worrying creates doubt, which in turn erodes confidence. Think of what will go "right".
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Problem #1: Your idea of not worrying is foolish. If that was the case, all engineers should throw caution into a dumpster... assuming that dumpsters factory of safety for the idea is enough to hold that, but it probably isn't because those engineers who built the dumpster threw their worries away too.

Whoozyerdaddy said:
I don't worry about the percentages. I just see an opportunity and I go for it. If it doesn't work out, oh well.

It's like the NASCAR drivers say... if you worry about crashing, you'll crash. If you just drive... well... you might crash but more often than not you'll find yourself raging balls to the wall around the track with a hot chick waiting for you at the finish line (win or lose).

Quit worrying about the crash and just drive.
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Run for presidency, let me know how it goes after you've wasted all your money and time. Don't worry about losing, just keep trying. Be sure to give up your day job and all funds because it will surely work. There is no reason to think about failing because that is totally irrelevant.

Btw, guys, have you read The Secret? I think you will like it very much.
 
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