neighborhood bully. :( messing with my 6 yr old. urrrr.

[Tot]

Its nice to hear that you are the kind person you are. And even sweeter to hear that you are trying to do things for a kid you didnt know off.... or is it because you are so damn pissed by a unruly kid in the block?

Anyhow, if you can make the better of the situation it will be extremely good for your "karma" hehe. Maybe you can offer the Mom to take care of the kid while she is not around, For a fee that is. But you are leaving the neighbourhood...that is sad.

Other then that I guess the best would be to understand this boy's family situation and decide on what to do then. Being kind and advise the family would be good but if the parents are unreasonable, then theres really no doors to open here.

I hope all the best to you.

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: Tot
Its nice to hear that you are the kind person you are. And even sweeter to hear that you are trying to do things for a kid you didnt know off.... or is it because you are so damn pissed by a unruly kid in the block?

Anyhow, if you can make the better of the situation it will be extremely good for your "karma" hehe. Maybe you can offer the Mom to take care of the kid while she is not around, For a fee that is. But you are leaving the neighbourhood...that is sad.

Other then that I guess the best would be to understand this boy's family situation and decide on what to do then. Being kind and advise the family would be good but if the parents are unreasonable, then theres really no doors to open here.

I hope all the best to you.

when the kid kept coming over to our house and staying all day long, i didn't mind the kid being there, but what i asked the mother was that an adult would call me to let me know he was coming. i wanted to know that the parents would take SOME responsibility for the kid. after that, he goes around telling neighbors that i dont' like him and he never comes over.

that's on the mother.

me, i just want my kids to grow up in a good enviroment and that means i have to be responsible for his friends too, so be it. but i won't tolerate bad behavior towards my kids, nor will i tolerate my son bullying other people.

 

[SpiderX]

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When I was a kid, I spent 12 hour days at the swim club. There's got to be more to the story than that...all my friends were there all day long, too. It was just an added bonus that at kept me out of my parents' hair all day and most of the evening....

But even in NJ they might send a social worker out to ask some questions, but they aren't going to institutionalize any kids unless there are obvious signs of physical abuse or they have strong evidence of neglect.[/quote]


It's mostly just the way it is in this city. You can go down some of the less off neighbourhoods and see 3 or 4 year olds wandering the streets at night. We have kids that show up to the park 5 years old and baby sitting their 2 year old sibling. It's stuff like that.

 

[dirtboy]

I think you should go beat up the kids dad and become the neighborhood adult bully.

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: dirtboy
I think you should go beat up the kids dad and become the neighborhood adult bully.

OH i get it, you mean lead by example.

 

[skateallday]

take him out when no one else is looking.

 

[StageLeft]

You should call services anyway - a kid of that age shouldn't be wandering around and peeing on the street.

 

[StageLeft]

After giving my little schpeel, I proceeded to walk over to the bully and threw him off his bike. I asked where he gets off giving these kids crap when all they were doing was playing in their yard. I started yelling at him and he went home crying. Then his mom came out and started yelling at me for making her kid cry. I then started yelling at her, I told her what her kid did, then started telling her "no wonder your kid is an obnoxious little sh1t, you're enabling the little bastards behavior! blah, blah, blah." She apparently had never been talked to like that by a 15 year old and stormed back inside. I heard her yell at the kid, asking if what I told her was true.

haha awesome. As bullet tooth tony said "There's always a bigger bully."

 

[Kemosabe1447]

I would have a little party for your 6 yr old...bring over a few friends and pay them to beat this kid like a read-headed step child. Sometimes people just need a beating to bring them around in life

 

[narzy]

shotgun + blanks = fun! fun! fun!

 

[TallBill]

Originally posted by: narzy
shotgun + blanks = fun! fun! fun!

= jail jail jail

 

[Garet Jax]

Originally posted by: Tabb
Kick his @ss, or get your son/daughter some kung foo or weight lifting.

I hope you are joking. Teaching your children to solve a problem through violence is the wrong lesson.

 

[AthlonXP]

teach your kid how to fight.

 

[Booster]

Originally posted by: roncarter
hes just a kid.... if the parents wont do anything about it.. scare the living crap out of him.. that will solve everything

It would solve nothing. You know, bully boys don't give a crap about someone's parents and don't you think they are afraid of you. They're not. It's a personal business between two people - your kid and that bastard. Parents can't help in such cases unless you got a personal bodyguard.

 

[DorkBoy]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Splash silver nitrate all over his face and the problem will be solved....

hehe

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: Booster

Originally posted by: roncarter
hes just a kid.... if the parents wont do anything about it.. scare the living crap out of him.. that will solve everything

It would solve nothing. You know, bully boys don't give a crap about someone's parents and don't you think they are afraid of you. They're not. It's a personal business between two people - your kid and that bastard. Parents can't help in such cases unless you got a personal bodyguard.

i agree, and from all accounts of other adults (teachers, Neighbors, School bus driver) my son always acquits himself well. he's not afraid to fight but it isn't his first choice. he stands up for himself but he often deflects attacks by changing focus.

my son seems to deal with social situations pretty well. the bully hasn't hurt my son yet. he tried to take some stuff (yu gi ho) cards from my son. we managed to deal with that situation tho.

my son is not afraid of him, he just chooses not to deal with him.

 

[LeeTJ]

i think my son deals with these things better than me.

 

[Rufio]

i think u should talk to child services. they won't take the kid away unless there is a danger posed to the child.

i've worked w/child services for a few years, and they want to make sure the kid is ok.

if the kid is wandering the streets unsupervised, that is very dangerous for him. someone coiuld snatch him up. he oculd get hurt. his parents may not care, but it's evident that you do, so do the best thing you can think of for the kid.

maybe approach his parents nad let them know that you are concerned for the kid. tell them that for his safety, youll go to child services. give them fair warning.

but it's for the safety of hte kid.

on another note.....i couldn't help this. but he's greek. spray him with some windex.

 

[gotsmack]

That is odd, because us east asians take care of business. If the bully is picking on asians in the area he should have already gotten a beating from someone's older brother.

 

My son is pretty reserved, but will stand up for others and himself. The class bully (bear in mind this is Kindergarten I'm talking about) is a bit larger than my son. Well the other day my son asked me what to do about this kid. I told him "Never start a fight, but always finish it.". Not long after the bully hit my son and this other 5 year old girl hard, so my son cleaned his clock and d@mn near broke his nose. Needless to say, the bully has learned to excercise restraint now.

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: gotsmack
That is odd, because us east asians take care of business. If the bully is picking on asians in the area he should have already gotten a beating from someone's older brother.

the oldest east asian kid on the block hangs out with this kid. it's weird too because this kid is 6.5 and the older indian kid is like 12.

he also is known as a bully. i guess birds of a feather flock together. the older kids in the neighborhood are all non asian. (only about 3 kids)

 

[Cat13]

I don't condone violence, especially with children, but my 6 yr old has some balls. We have an older kid, 13 or 14 that as you can imagine is alot bigger than the younger kids. He tuants them and just really gets them going. Well one day my son got really sick of it, ran up behind him, jumped up and wacked him as hard as he could. As the older kid stumbled forward, my son ran his little butt off back to our backyard, closed the fence and began tauting him back. Everyone was laughing at him as he walked away. I watched through the window ready to run out to save his butt.

A little later my son ventured out and I went in the yard to make sure nothing would happen and it didn't. The kid hasn't messed with them since. Thought it was pretty funny. I told him though he needs to be careful because one day he might mess with the wrong kid, but at 6, he feels all big and bad. I never would have expected that from him, he is normally reserved and never gets in trouble at school, he is more a teachers pet. Probaly just playing us.

 

[Nocturnal]

Man if I had a son and he was getting picked on I would tell him to stand up for himself. Don't pussy out and go out there and hand his ass to him and let him know that you can't just bully people around.

 

[chiwawa626]

Spray them with a hose every time they come around...

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: Nocturnal
Man if I had a son and he was getting picked on I would tell him to stand up for himself. Don't pussy out and go out there and hand his ass to him and let him know that you can't just bully people around.

BTW, that didn't make any sense. "let him know that you can't just bully people around"??? wtf are you trying to say.

My kid handles himself VERY well. that doesn't mean that i have to like what's happening.