Need some mojo and good vibes

[John Connor]

So this past Spring my mom had bronchitis for the second time and went to the doctor. She told him that she was a smoker and the doctor asked if she ever had a chest xray. They did the xray and found a mass on my mom's thyroid. So my mom had an ultra sound, etc and was going to have it removed. Actually, the whole thyroid needs to be removed from what the doctor says now. It doesn't look cancerous yet, but they will check it out once it's removed. Prior to the surgery my mom told the doctor she was having heart palpitations. So last week my family and I were at the hospital where she undergone a heart catheterization (angiogram). Turns out now in addition to my mom needing her thyroid removed she now needs a triple or possible quadruple bypass surgery. The heart surgeon said that they may take out the thyroid at the same time as the heart bypass.

My mom has now been smoke free for the last three months and I pray that when all goes well she can diet and exercise like she did some 15 years ago and get back on track to a better life. She now has COPD I guess. This has all be very nerve raking for myself and my family and I need some good vibes here. I just lost my cousin to stage IV cancer in September and I'm not in any way shape or form prepared to loss my mom. That is a pain I just can't take right now. I just turned 36 on the 5th and I don't want to lose my mom just yet.

 

[MrSquished]

i feel you. my dad is halfway gone and it's alzheimer's plus frailty and that is not curable. my mom is in good shape minus back problems but she is showing early signs of memory loss and dementia. I was never close with pops but it would still be a blow. very close with moms and her shit is not curable. that would be total devastation. i'm very nervous about the neear future. I'm 41, very not prepared for my mom to get sick fast. good luck dude. hopefully the quitting smoking can buy you a bunch of good years to go for mom. never get old if you can help it.

 

[John Connor]

i feel you. my dad is halfway gone and it's alzheimer's plus frailty and that is not curable. my mom is in good shape minus back problems but she is showing early signs of memory loss and dementia. I was never close with pops but it would still be a blow. very close with moms and her shit is not curable. that would be total devastation. i'm very nervous about the neear future. I'm 41, very not prepared for my mom to get sick fast. good luck dude. hopefully the quitting smoking can buy you a bunch of good years to go for mom. never get old if you can help it.

Yeah. I never even been to college and was hoping to take classes in the near future, but I have to take refresher courses. I would love to have my mom see me at least get a A.A.S degree.

 

[disappoint]

This has all be very nerve raking for myself and my family and I need some good vibes here. I just lost my cousin to stage IV cancer in September and I'm not in any way shape or form prepared to loss my mom. That is a pain I just can't take right now. I just turned 36 on the 5th and I don't want to lose my mom just yet.

Relax and realize that you can take far more than you immediately realized when you typed that. You are emotionally stronger than you know. The empirical evidence showing this is clear: You made it through the loss of your cousin in September and while it may have been unpleasant to say the least, you are still you and whole. You are fine. You will be fine again after any expected or unexpected challenges you will face, as we all do.

You will worry less about what you will go through and find that what your mom is going through is a greater challenge than your own emotional one. So you will be there to make life as easy as you can by helping out. In the process of helping make her life easier and continuing on with your life's duties including educating yourself, you won't have time to worry about your future emotional state. in short, get busy helping your mom and get busy helping yourself as well.

That's the best I can do for good vibes at the moment. Take care. I wish you and your family well.

 

[olds]

Sorry about your mom.

Do you smoke?

 

[zinfamous]

Good luck to your mom and to you. Losing family to cancer is no joke. i'm thinking it is likely she will be on Oxygen after this? It could actually help with lucidity if that has been a noticeable issue.

Oh and fuck cancer.

 

[John Connor]

Do you smoke?

Yes. I need to quit.

 

[SaltyNuts]

Here you go mate, have some mojo and good vibes!

 

[OverVolt]

I watch Eureka to chillax. Pretty embarrassing but I love that damn show. Got all the seasons on DVD. Its just such a happy show.

 

[John Connor]

I watch Eureka to chillax. Pretty embarrassing but I love that damn show. Got all the seasons on DVD. Its just such a happy show.

Wrong thread?

 

[Muse]

Yes. I need to quite.

OK, I know it's easy to say, but quit. I quit and it was about the easiest thing I ever did. That's because I was in a relationship. You may not have that, but realize it's all in yourself. And that goes for your dealing with your mom's illness. It's imperative to control your emotions!

 

[lxskllr]

Best wishes for your mom and family jc.

I don't like being preachy, but the sooner you quit smoking, the better off you'll be. You're still young, so you don't feel it so much, but the guy I work with is always coughing/wheezing at 50 years old. It also makes your teeth loose.

 

[Linux23]

you'll be okay man.

*internet man hug

 

[disappoint]

How are you doing JC? I wonder how you are at times and how you're dealing with things, and how the cig quitting is going.

 

[highland145]

Yes. I need to quit.

My Dad died from complications caused by emphysema 3 years ago. That was ugly. Not to mention the stress on my Mom. Being at the hospital while they morphined him to death...loads of fun....

 

[John Connor]

How are you doing JC? I wonder how you are at times and how you're dealing with things, and how the cig quitting is going.

My mom had her surgery on the 25th. Was quadruple bypass. She's now in a chair and eating. Today they gave her lasix which they gave before and her heart rate started to go up and the monitor said AFIB. Not sure what that was about. I hope her heart will function correctly after she comes home in another 3 days or so.

There's more, but I don't want to talk about it. Just know this surgery and being in the ICU isn't something you want your mom to go through.

 

[John Connor]

I'm going to quit smoking after this carton. I sometimes feel pain in my chest as well and my PCP said I apparently don't have any heart conditions. Apparently you don't get a heart attack at rest. Yeah, bull shit! When I see my mom's surgeon again I'm going to mention it. I have had ulcers and I have a gastroenterologist appointment next month. Smoking doesn't help of course. I've been to the ER 3 times now.