Need some ideas for places to go on a date - 2 pics - she's not 43! UPDATE

[DaShen]

Meh, I guess since she is cool with it... it may be okay. But I am betting you she is a little freaked about meeting the folks, too. You might want to talk it out with her, just so that she knows it is okay if she is a little freaked. You are already in the situation though, breaking it off is also a bad idea now. Best to just stick it out.

 

[z42]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: Fraggable

I am not doing this because my parents want to meet her. I'm doing it so we can get to know each other better. I'm not whipped, just listening to what she wants. She thinks it's a great idea, everyone wants to meet everyone else, there are no apparent drawbacks.

My parents don't control my relationships but I do respect their advice because they've never steered me wrong and always have my interests at heart.

I think everyone's looking at this the wrong way. It's not like i'm proposing tomorrow. Does anyone disagree that meeting one's family and friends gives you a better understanding of the person?

Definitely. But if you take things too fast and not guard your emotions, you could be jumping into a commitment neither of you are ready for which can end badly with the relationship.

Usually meeting your folks will cause this because having the parents meet and you meeting her parents means in their heads that this relationship is going to the next level. Meaning that they will more than likely meddle and view her as your possible future wife.

Take things too fast and chances are your relationship will go too fast for one or both of you. Guard your heart, dude. Relationships take time.

I have to agree with DaShen here. My wife and I shared some similar ideas as you when we were dating (no drinking, no sex b4 marraige) and I would never think of having our parents meet on a "date". If either my family or her family were having an event (holidays or picnic type thing) then I MIGHT feel comfortable inviting her. Maybe your family and hers are much different than most peoples. The norm is that you only start introducing SOs to the family if they have long-term potential. Especially introducing family to family like you are doing.

No need to panic though; damage control is easy. Don't pick a fancy dinner place. Pick a relaxed restaurant. If you don't make the dinner seem like a big deal, the 'rents should pick up on that and not get any expectations up. Be prepared that what one of the previous posters said is true; you are going to get her folks scrutiny and she will get your folks. Make sure you and her have the same expectations of the dinner, communication is your friend. If you're both casual and the parents know what's going on then it could be a great way to get to know each other a bit better.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: z42

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: Fraggable

I am not doing this because my parents want to meet her. I'm doing it so we can get to know each other better. I'm not whipped, just listening to what she wants. She thinks it's a great idea, everyone wants to meet everyone else, there are no apparent drawbacks.

My parents don't control my relationships but I do respect their advice because they've never steered me wrong and always have my interests at heart.

I think everyone's looking at this the wrong way. It's not like i'm proposing tomorrow. Does anyone disagree that meeting one's family and friends gives you a better understanding of the person?

Definitely. But if you take things too fast and not guard your emotions, you could be jumping into a commitment neither of you are ready for which can end badly with the relationship.

Usually meeting your folks will cause this because having the parents meet and you meeting her parents means in their heads that this relationship is going to the next level. Meaning that they will more than likely meddle and view her as your possible future wife.

Take things too fast and chances are your relationship will go too fast for one or both of you. Guard your heart, dude. Relationships take time.

I have to agree with DaShen here. My wife and I shared some similar ideas as you when we were dating (no drinking, no sex b4 marraige) and I would never think of having our parents meet on a "date". If either my family or her family were having an event (holidays or picnic type thing) then I MIGHT feel comfortable inviting her. Maybe your family and hers are much different than most peoples. The norm is that you only start introducing SOs to the family if they have long-term potential. Especially introducing family to family like you are doing.

No need to panic though; damage control is easy. Don't pick a fancy dinner place. Pick a relaxed restaurant. If you don't make the dinner seem like a big deal, the 'rents should pick up on that and not get any expectations up. Be prepared that what one of the previous posters said is true; you are going to get her folks scrutiny and she will get your folks. Make sure you and her have the same expectations of the dinner, communication is your friend. If you're both casual and the parents know what's going on then it could be a great way to get to know each other a bit better.

TOTALLY AGREE.... you could even try to set it up for lunch at a casual place. Seriously, you have to go through with it because stopping this would be worse, but damage control is key.

 

[Fraggable]

It's going to be at Dewey's Pizza in Newport... in 2 hours. It's a relaxed atmosphere I think.

If it's the last thing I do, I will make this as light-hearted and casual an occasion as is within my power.

Again, she would have let me know if she didn't like the idea. We communicate very easily and I can already tell when something's bothering her or she's faking an answer. She's no more nervous about it than I am.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Fraggable
It's going to be at Dewey's Pizza in Newport... in 2 hours. It's a relaxed atmosphere I think.

If it's the last thing I do, I will make this as light-hearted and casual an occasion as is within my power.

Again, she would have let me know if she didn't like the idea. We communicate very easily and I can already tell when something's bothering her or she's faking an answer. She's no more nervous about it than I am.

Tell us how it goes.

Sounds like it will be fine.

 

[misle]

Should we start a pool on how long the relationship will last after this date?

I say 2 weeks (cause her parents are probably really old because she's actually 43 )

 

[Fraggable]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: Fraggable
It's going to be at Dewey's Pizza in Newport... in 2 hours. It's a relaxed atmosphere I think.

If it's the last thing I do, I will make this as light-hearted and casual an occasion as is within my power.

Again, she would have let me know if she didn't like the idea. We communicate very easily and I can already tell when something's bothering her or she's faking an answer. She's no more nervous about it than I am.

Tell us how it goes.

Sounds like it will be fine.

It went great, I couldn't have possibly asked for better. We ate, then walked across the purple people bridge, then got ice cream and sat on the river. Her parents are exactly like mine and we all get along very well. My parents are inviting them over for dinner next week since they like mexican and my dad loves to cook it.

Oh and as for how long this will last, we're planning to go out Monday night.

 

[RKS]

Originally posted by: Fraggable

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: Fraggable
It's going to be at Dewey's Pizza in Newport... in 2 hours. It's a relaxed atmosphere I think.

If it's the last thing I do, I will make this as light-hearted and casual an occasion as is within my power.

Again, she would have let me know if she didn't like the idea. We communicate very easily and I can already tell when something's bothering her or she's faking an answer. She's no more nervous about it than I am.

Tell us how it goes.

Sounds like it will be fine.

It went great, I couldn't have possibly asked for better. We ate, then walked across the purple people bridge, then got ice cream and sat on the river. Her parents are exactly like mine and we all get along very well. My parents are inviting them over for dinner next week since they like mexican and my dad loves to cook it.

Oh and as for how long this will last, we're planning to go out Monday night.

hey you coudda climbed the bridge. to me that gimmick is doomed to failure. good luck on Monday.

 

[Fraggable]

Originally posted by: RKS

Originally posted by: Fraggable

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: Fraggable
It's going to be at Dewey's Pizza in Newport... in 2 hours. It's a relaxed atmosphere I think.

If it's the last thing I do, I will make this as light-hearted and casual an occasion as is within my power.

Again, she would have let me know if she didn't like the idea. We communicate very easily and I can already tell when something's bothering her or she's faking an answer. She's no more nervous about it than I am.

Tell us how it goes.

Sounds like it will be fine.

It went great, I couldn't have possibly asked for better. We ate, then walked across the purple people bridge, then got ice cream and sat on the river. Her parents are exactly like mine and we all get along very well. My parents are inviting them over for dinner next week since they like mexican and my dad loves to cook it.

Oh and as for how long this will last, we're planning to go out Monday night.

hey you coudda climbed the bridge. to me that gimmick is doomed to failure. good luck on Monday.

ah.... no. I have better uses for $40-60.

 

[Bulk Beef]

Play your cards right, and you can be back from the honeymoon in time for the season kickoff.

 

[Fraggable]

Originally posted by: sward666
Play your cards right, and you can be back from the honeymoon in time for the season kickoff.

Yeha. maybe in a couple years.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Fraggable

Originally posted by: sward666
Play your cards right, and you can be back from the honeymoon in time for the season kickoff.

Yeha. maybe in a couple years.

Man, you move fast from 1st date to 4th date to marriage... :Q

Hope all of that works out for you. I have just noticed from other people that relationships can't and shouldn't be rushed. (unless it is arranged, but that is a different entity entirely)

But maybe you and her are the exception. Tell us when your first kid arrives. We can name him "Speedy" or something like that. Or you could really work your way with the mods and name your first born "Anand"

 

[imthebadguy]

wine bar.....kinda classy, plus u can get fvcked up

 

[trmiv]

Originally posted by: Fraggable

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: Fraggable
It's going to be at Dewey's Pizza in Newport... in 2 hours. It's a relaxed atmosphere I think.

If it's the last thing I do, I will make this as light-hearted and casual an occasion as is within my power.

Again, she would have let me know if she didn't like the idea. We communicate very easily and I can already tell when something's bothering her or she's faking an answer. She's no more nervous about it than I am.

Tell us how it goes.

Sounds like it will be fine.

It went great, I couldn't have possibly asked for better. We ate, then walked across the purple people bridge, then got ice cream and sat on the river. Her parents are exactly like mine and we all get along very well. My parents are inviting them over for dinner next week since they like mexican and my dad loves to cook it.

Oh and as for how long this will last, we're planning to go out Monday night.

Wait, now your parents are dating her parents?

 

[Gooberlx2]

4th date? Shoot, it's about time you either go to your place or hers.

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: trmiv

Originally posted by: Fraggable

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: Fraggable
It's going to be at Dewey's Pizza in Newport... in 2 hours. It's a relaxed atmosphere I think.

If it's the last thing I do, I will make this as light-hearted and casual an occasion as is within my power.

Again, she would have let me know if she didn't like the idea. We communicate very easily and I can already tell when something's bothering her or she's faking an answer. She's no more nervous about it than I am.

Tell us how it goes.

Sounds like it will be fine.

It went great, I couldn't have possibly asked for better. We ate, then walked across the purple people bridge, then got ice cream and sat on the river. Her parents are exactly like mine and we all get along very well. My parents are inviting them over for dinner next week since they like mexican and my dad loves to cook it.

Oh and as for how long this will last, we're planning to go out Monday night.

Wait, now your parents are dating her parents?

LOL! Wow, you've already met each others' parents? That's quick. When's the wedding?

 

[Fraggable]

Originally posted by: Gooberlx2

Originally posted by: trmiv

Originally posted by: Fraggable

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: Fraggable
It's going to be at Dewey's Pizza in Newport... in 2 hours. It's a relaxed atmosphere I think.

If it's the last thing I do, I will make this as light-hearted and casual an occasion as is within my power.

Again, she would have let me know if she didn't like the idea. We communicate very easily and I can already tell when something's bothering her or she's faking an answer. She's no more nervous about it than I am.

Tell us how it goes.

Sounds like it will be fine.

It went great, I couldn't have possibly asked for better. We ate, then walked across the purple people bridge, then got ice cream and sat on the river. Her parents are exactly like mine and we all get along very well. My parents are inviting them over for dinner next week since they like mexican and my dad loves to cook it.

Oh and as for how long this will last, we're planning to go out Monday night.

Wait, now your parents are dating her parents?

LOL! Wow, you've already met each others' parents? That's quick. When's the wedding?

You guys just don't get it do you? Here's how it happened:

1) She says she wants to get to know me better before 'officially' being my g/f
2) I figure out that one of the best ways to get to know someone is to get acquainted with their family and friends
3) I ASK HER if she'd like to go to dinner with all the parents and she thinks it's a great idea
4) We go to dinner and all have a great time, there is no tension, awkwardness, or discomfort - and we didn't even need alcohol to do it!
5) My parents like hers, they have a lot in common.
6) My parents invite hers to our house for dinner sometime. This does NOT mean her and I will be there. Who cares what the parents do, I didn't bring them into this for their approval.

If you don't get that, well you're just narrow minded or something.

 

[Sc4freak]

So... she's 43, right?

 

[Fraggable]

Originally posted by: Sc4freak
So... she's 43, right?

Yeah. Her parents showed up in their Hoverrounds.

 

[Fraggable]

You guys were right. It's over. She responded to my message from monday afternoon and said she didn't think our personalities were compatible, which I know in reality means she has no interest in me for a reason that she isn't going to tell me.

I still don't think it's from the dinner with the parents thing but who knows.

 

[Sukhoi]

Oh well, live and learn. Don't meet the parents so quickly.