Need some advice....

[eyecandy]

I live in a college dorm with two roommates and one of them goes home a lot for weekends. The problem is, every single time she goes home, this girl from down the hall comes and sleeps in our room and in her bed!

How do I nicely tell my other roommate to stop letting her come sleep in our room?

 

[greenfirs]

Why wouldn't you want her sleeping over?

Are you a mean person?

 

[jlee75]

well, what's wrong with this person?

Ok roommate 1 leaves. and roommate 2s friend sleeps in roommates 1's bed? If that's the case, if roommate 1 is not cool with it then it shouldn't be allowed. If it doesn't impose on you then its fine. But if you feel uncomfortable about it or feels that it imposes on your personal space, then just tell your roommate that. Or just tell your roommate exactly what bothers you.

 

[agentK]

fill the bed with sugar after your roommate leaves and b4 her friend gets in.

 

[KevinMU1]

This is indeed a tricky situation... I'm a Senior at Miami U. in Ohio and I've seen/heard my share of such things.

The best roommate advice I can give is to be sure that you speak openly with your roommate about your feelings. I know that unspoken thoughts will just fester inside and can create other tensions when otherwise there would be no problem.

One thing to do would be to say that you had a specific reason that you didn't like *anybody* sleeping over, rather than just targeting one person in particular. That could really backfire though if later you had a friend you wanted to have sleep over. Alternatively, you could say that you prefer guests not stay on a regular basis because it makes you uncomfortable, or reserve overnight guests for out of town guests. Perhaps that would be your best bet. The girl from down the hall really has no reason to stay in your room if she has her own bed. Although, maybe there is a reason that girl leaves... does she have a roommate with a boyfriend, for example?

I guess I'm rambling now, just trying to imagine different situations, that's all. I hope that helps at least some.

 

[HamSupLo]

you can keep taking pics of that girl and posting them here. that'll freak her out.