- Jan 3, 2001
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We just had a great Thanksgiving dinner with the whole family, but a terrible situation was brought to my attention, and I feel like I need to do something, but I'm not sure what.
My brother-in-law got into a sticky situation 16 years ago when he left his wife for 3 months, managed to knock up a woman, and then got back together with his wife. The other woman has serious drug issues, and my BIL has had full custody of their son, with the mom getting visitation rights for a couple of days per week.
This other woman has a now 17 yo daugther, and the court has taken her away due to drug use and no suitible place to live. She has been bouncing from foster home to foster home, and had to leave her last home because they were trying to get her into stripping.
My BIL's son was talking to his sister a couple of days ago, and asked her what she's doing for Thanksgiving. She said they're not having Thanksgiving, so he invited her to my house. I guess she began crying because she's never had a Thanksgiving dinner.
Anyway, she came over with my inlaws, and she was a beautiful, smart, articulate, and helpful young woman. She was in a stangers house and did things like took out the garbage when it was full, washed dishes when she saw things in the sink, and constantly asked if I needed any help serving the guests.
My wife and I have a large house, a huge spare bedroom, and are very good and loving parents. I would love to help this girl out by having her stay with us, but I'm not sure we'd be able to due to laws, and plus we would have some concerns:
1. She's a foster child---would we have to become certified foster parents to take custody of her? Would we even get the choice to take her if we did?
2. She is 17----and had a crappy life to boot. We don't know if she has behavior problems (if she does, she hid them well).
3. Again, she is 17, but she is also very pretty. I'm afraid we'd have boy problems like no tomorrow.
We would like to give her a stable home, help her get into college, and have time to get closer to her brother...I'm just not sure how to do this or if we even can
Cliffs:
17 yo girl step sister to my nephew is bouncing around foster homes, we want to help her, but not sure how to go about it.
My brother-in-law got into a sticky situation 16 years ago when he left his wife for 3 months, managed to knock up a woman, and then got back together with his wife. The other woman has serious drug issues, and my BIL has had full custody of their son, with the mom getting visitation rights for a couple of days per week.
This other woman has a now 17 yo daugther, and the court has taken her away due to drug use and no suitible place to live. She has been bouncing from foster home to foster home, and had to leave her last home because they were trying to get her into stripping.
My BIL's son was talking to his sister a couple of days ago, and asked her what she's doing for Thanksgiving. She said they're not having Thanksgiving, so he invited her to my house. I guess she began crying because she's never had a Thanksgiving dinner.
Anyway, she came over with my inlaws, and she was a beautiful, smart, articulate, and helpful young woman. She was in a stangers house and did things like took out the garbage when it was full, washed dishes when she saw things in the sink, and constantly asked if I needed any help serving the guests.
My wife and I have a large house, a huge spare bedroom, and are very good and loving parents. I would love to help this girl out by having her stay with us, but I'm not sure we'd be able to due to laws, and plus we would have some concerns:
1. She's a foster child---would we have to become certified foster parents to take custody of her? Would we even get the choice to take her if we did?
2. She is 17----and had a crappy life to boot. We don't know if she has behavior problems (if she does, she hid them well).
3. Again, she is 17, but she is also very pretty. I'm afraid we'd have boy problems like no tomorrow.
We would like to give her a stable home, help her get into college, and have time to get closer to her brother...I'm just not sure how to do this or if we even can
Cliffs:
17 yo girl step sister to my nephew is bouncing around foster homes, we want to help her, but not sure how to go about it.