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Need funeral advice .... 1st timer

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WHSLacrossekid

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This is my first funeral. My grandmother passed away.

I'm a paubearer and I was wondering if I should wear a suit.

I don't own a suit and that's the delimma.

Anyone?
 
Damn dood I'm sorry to hear that 🙁 🙁 🙁

You probably should buy a suit b/c you'll probably have use for it later on in your life.

Sorry again 🙁
 
Sorry for your loss. Funerals are tough.

Yes, traditionally you should wear a suit. It doesn't need to be black; navy or charcoal will do. If you can't afford a suit, see if you can get a dark sportcoat or blazer. How old are you, btw (out of curiosity)?
 
gotta have a suit ... if funds are a problem buy one for the funeral, keep it squeaky clean, and return it afterwards.
 
Originally posted by: WHSLacrossekid
I'm 17.....

Now it seems like I have to buy a suit........ this should be good.
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I was in an all-too-similar situation when I was 17. I was fortunate enough that I had a wedding comming up that the bride wanted me to wear a suit for, so I bought one in a dark color. I just went to JC Penny, told them what was happened, and the guy there was really helpful. He told me that as long as it's not bright, it would be alright for a funeral and to be a paulbearer.


The way I see it, you should buy a suit now because in the years ahead of you more situations will arise where having a suit will be a good thing, especially if you are going to college. Job Interviews, Scholorship interviews, High-profile presentations at college.

If money is the issue, then you could try being up front with a store and seeing if they rent suits. Most places know you're trying to shaft then and charge you like, 30% if you have a suit for a week then bring it back.
 
All you need is a coat and you can pick one up at a thrift store.

I have been a pallbearer at a dozen funerals at least and have never worn a suit. Cowboy boots, Levis, a clean shirt and a coat. Anyone who expects you to run out and buy a suit for a funeral should buy it for you. Screw them, it's a funeral.
 
Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
All you need is a coat and you can pick one up at a thrift store.

I have been a pallbearer at a dozen funerals at least and have never worn a suit. Cowboy boots, Levis, a clean shirt and a coat. Anyone who expects you to run out and buy a suit for a funeral should buy it for you. Screw them, it's a funeral.
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I don't think most people are going to criticize you. It's pretty shallow to be nitpicking over what people wear to a family member's funeral.

I can tell you that as a fairly fashion-savvy guy I'd feel pretty weird not wearing a jacket and tie.

As for running out and buying a suit, every man should own at least one nice suit. At 17, you are going to hit prime time for job interviews and events that you need to dress up for. You will probably still grow out of a suit, so don't get one that's balls-out expensive, but you should have one either way. You're going to need it eventually.
 
Sorry to hear about your grandma. I would wear a FUBU jersey and some bling bling. OF COURSE YOU WEAR A SUIT.
 
My deepest sympathies for your loss.

As far as a suit goes I don't think it is necessary. Your grandmother loved you and never saw you in a suit. You are there to honor her life. While a suit will look nice for everyone attending I don't find it necessary. Who cares if someone says "look at that paubearer, he's not wearing a suit".

It's up to you but I don't think your performance or your contribution will be diminished if you don't wear a suit.
 
You should wear a suit. If you can at all afford it. Goodwill would be a good place to start. All you really need is a jacket and maybe a tie. You probably have some dockers that will do for pants, and a shirt with a collar.
 
Originally posted by: WHSLacrossekid
I'm 17.....

Now it seems like I have to buy a suit........ this should be good.
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Just go down to Men's Warehouse or Today's Man (Today's Man is much bigger). You can get a relatively inexpensive suit there that'll come in handy when you're in college. I had to wear a suit 5 times in one week for presentations in college once.

Edit: Sorry to hear about your grandmother by the way.
 
Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
All you need is a coat and you can pick one up at a thrift store.

I have been a pallbearer at a dozen funerals at least and have never worn a suit. Cowboy boots, Levis, a clean shirt and a coat. Anyone who expects you to run out and buy a suit for a funeral should buy it for you. Screw them, it's a funeral.
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Yeee haww, hick/redneck funerals do not count. That's a pretty tasteless display of respect for the deceased and their family if you ask me.

 
Originally posted by: BillGates
Originally posted by: HappyPuppy
All you need is a coat and you can pick one up at a thrift store.

I have been a pallbearer at a dozen funerals at least and have never worn a suit. Cowboy boots, Levis, a clean shirt and a coat. Anyone who expects you to run out and buy a suit for a funeral should buy it for you. Screw them, it's a funeral.
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Yeee haww, hick/redneck funerals do not count. That's a pretty tasteless display of respect for the deceased and their family if you ask me.
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I agree. Cowboy boots and jeans, wtf. That's ok if it's the cemetary behind the trailer park I guess.
 
Originally posted by: guyver01
guys.. it's pallbearer..

and yes.. you need a suit.
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thank you!

I was going to have to mention that if I made it through all the posts without someone else speaking up.

Yes, you can get a suit jacket at Salvation army. Usually only a few bucks and im assuming you already have dress pants and shirt/tie
 
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