Need female advice!

[amnesiac]

Advice *from* a female preferred but anyone who thinks they have a good grasp on this whole relationship thing is welcome to help out.

My girlfriend dumped me about 2 months ago pretty much because I was a stupidhead. Let's just say I did something wrong and I kept inadvertently hurting her. We had been going out for 3.5 years and up until the last 6 months it was great.

Well she saw me for the first time in a while about a week ago, and she called me later saying that she was interested in giving me another chance. Naturally, I jumped at it because I've dated about half a dozen girls since and they pretty much all are, for lack of a better word, "bleh". I tell her to give me a couple days to think about it (to make sure I really want to do this). So she calls me again yesterday and says she's getting "cold feet" about getting back together and wants until *Christmas* to decide.

What's up with that? I basically crushed this girl I was dating (I told her the truth) only to find out that my ex "isn't sure" anymore??

My question is, what's the best course of action to take to convince my ex to take me back? I want this more than anything in the world. I'll give six bucks and my left nut for just one more day with her. Really. I figure anyone who's done the whole get-back-together thing would have some good input. Yes, I know that in many cases it doesn't work out but the circumstances surrounding our breakup were much different than most and I have changed a LOT since. Help please?

 

[Czar]

Basicly say this before its to late



<< I want this more than anything in the world. I'll give six bucks and my left nut for just one more day with her. Really. I figure anyone who's done the whole get-back-together thing would have some good input. Yes, I know that in many cases it doesn't work out but the circumstances surrounding our breakup were much different than most and I have changed a LOT since. Help please? >>

 

[amnesiac]

Yeah I already did that; that's what convinced her to think about taking me back in the first place. I just need to somehow eliminate all doubt in her mind that I'm what she wants.

 

[xyyz]

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[xyyz]

it's NOT a pornographic site btw...

it's Tom Leykis's website... if you don't know who he is... you should.

 

[Isla]

If you get your second chance, spend the day doing what SHE wants to do and listening to what she has to say. Pay attention and take notes... the more you understand her, the better your chances will be for a lasting relationship.

You will need to be more aware of your motivations for unconsciously hurting your ex or ANY girl you have a relationship with. You could have misplaced anger problems or you could just be a jerk, but either way you need to catch yourself before you do it again!

Anyway, I wish you luck.... just wanting to change and improve is a good sign. Tell her I told you so.

 

[Namuna]

Unless a girl can disprove me, what you need to do is PROVE to this girl that you're SERIOUS about getting back with her.

Your first strike is whatever it is you did originally. Your SECOND strike was NOT jumping at her when she offered to take you back! OF COURSE she's going to get 'cold feet'. What would you think of someone wanting you back and then when you decide to give them the chance they say &quot;Let me think about it&quot;??!!

Pull up your sleeves, put your work gloves on, and make it so this girl CAN'T THINK OF ANYTHING BUT YOU! Call her everyday, send her notes, tell her how stupid you were originally and how stupid you were to NOT have jumped at her when she offered to take you back.

 

[Isla]

<< Your SECOND strike was NOT jumping at her when she offered to take you back! OF COURSE she's going to get 'cold feet'. What would you think of someone wanting you back and then when you decide to give them the chance they say &quot;Let me think about it&quot;??!! >>



Namuna is right about this. If it was me, I would have to make you suffer for a few days. Prepare to suck it up for this one...

 

[Yeeny]

Namuna is absolutely right. The fact that when she said lets get back together, the only response you gave her is I have to think it over? Not a good idea, the term you snooze you lose comes to mind. Now your going to have to bend over backwards to show her how much you care. Just tell her honestly whats in your heart and mind, that is the only thing you can do. Good luck.