Need advice concerning a nice girl I know.

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: Zaitsevs
you need to just walk away.

if you have the attitude that you can walk away from any relationship, you will feel beter about it. you also need to tell her that you don't deserve to be disrespected like that.

She wasn't disrespecting him. He is seriously delusional about the whole situation.

If you look at his posts in just the past 24 hours you'll see that he's been vacillating between thinking that the text message (1 sentence, 12 words) is either the start of some nefarious plot to make him miserable or a prelude to her confessing that she has really loved him all along and was wrong for rejecting him.

In any case, you're right. He does need to walk away. Because he's crazy, and if he keeps interacting with this poor girl he stands a good chance of forcing her into another showdown in which she'll inevitably have to reject him again. And if that happens everyone loses.

He loses because he'll have his ego crushed even more than it already is.

She loses because she'll have to put up with his psychosis when she was just trying to be nice.

ATOT loses because we will have to hear every excrutiating detail of the exchange.

Hey I realize that in this thread I may sound like a pshyco but it's because I have the liberty of typing whatever comes to my mind and go back and forth in between ideas, this is a way for me to release some steam out there and stay relaxed at the end of the day, but really the best description I can give you of myself is that all of this is equivelant to me submitting a project paper to my professor, the scratch papers + napkins are horrifying as hell and as unorganized as they can be, however when my professor looks at my final draft all he observes is an objective realized and an organized piece of work.

Same thing when it comes to this girl at no point I have acted like a pshyco infront of her or went back and forth in between ideas, all I did was give her honest answers and suggestions.

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: ggnl

Originally posted by: Zaitsevs
you need to just walk away.

if you have the attitude that you can walk away from any relationship, you will feel beter about it. you also need to tell her that you don't deserve to be disrespected like that.

She wasn't disrespecting him. He is seriously delusional about the whole situation.

If you look at his posts in just the past 24 hours you'll see that he's been vacillating between thinking that the text message (1 sentence, 12 words) is either the start of some nefarious plot to make him miserable or a prelude to her confessing that she has really loved him all along and was wrong for rejecting him.

In any case, you're right. He does need to walk away. Because he's crazy, and if he keeps interacting with this poor girl he stands a good chance of forcing her into another showdown in which she'll inevitably have to reject him again. And if that happens everyone loses.

He loses because he'll have his ego crushed even more than it already is.

She loses because she'll have to put up with his psychosis when she was just trying to be nice.

ATOT loses because we will have to hear every excrutiating detail of the exchange.

Hey I realize that in this thread I may sound like a pshyco but it's because I have the liberty of typing whatever comes to my mind and go back and forth in between ideas, this is a way for me to release some steam out there and stay relaxed at the end of the day, but really the best description I can give you of myself is that all of this is equivelant to me submitting a project paper to my professor, the scratch papers + napkins are horrifying as hell and as unorganized as they can be, however when my professor looks at my final draft all he observes is an objective realized and an organized piece of work.

Same thing when it comes to this girl at no point I have acted like a pshyco infront of her or went back and forth in between ideas, all I did was give her honest answers and suggestions.

He is dead on. You are unflailingly deluded. And regardless of what your naive fantastical mind may do to dissipate your cognitive dissonance, you did indeed act like a psycho in front of her, and thats why she rejected you.

 

[Hacp]

Suck your toe

 

[merlocka]

I'm gonng go out on a limb and predict a restraining order in the near future.

 

[flawlssdistortn]

Cut him some slack guys. What? You all have never liked someone to the point of being unable to think straight?

 

[merlocka]

Originally posted by: flawlssdistortn
Cut him some slack guys. What? You all have never liked someone to the point of being unable to think straight?

He's posting psychodrama on ATOT. It comes with baggage.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: merlocka

Originally posted by: flawlssdistortn
Cut him some slack guys. What? You all have never liked someone to the point of being unable to think straight?

He's posting psychodrama on ATOT. It comes with baggage.

You are right about the drama part, but BD how do you think that she thinks I am a pshyco and you are saying at the same time :

"If she didnt want to hear from you, *SHE WOULDNT HAVE TEXTED YOU TODAY*. "
"she WANTS TO TALK TO YOU. "

I am just confused about her, and my feelings have been hurt deeply, trying to forget her, but at the same time questioning my decesion.

What kind of pshyco am I ? And I haven't made contact with her ever since she said no (+ 2 months) I deleted her cell# form my phone, and by not having it saved anywhere else I have eliminated even the possibility of me contacting her again.

I only remembered it from her text message to me on V-day, I was solidly determined to take her of my mind and as you can see from my last pre V-day post on 01/10/2006 I really was over her pretty much, and it took a lot of determination from me to do so, but alas all lost with her SMS on V-day 🙁

God I even had the chance to take pics of me and her together when we went out with our office crew to this bar, but I didn't because I didn't want to have anything that will make me feel attached to her if things didn't work out at the end.

So am I a psyhco really ? Or just a guy that thinks 2 , 3 or even a million times (if that will make you guys happy) before making the next move ? I will leave that up to you guys to contemplate.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Dude...

Dude...

Dude...

You must not get a whole lot of attention from the opposite sex. Sadly, you clung on like a two-year with a ******-stained diaper.

WOMEN like men to play "hard-to-get". We can all tell that you lost it by going into such detail about every ****** conversation you two had. That's RIDICULOUS.

You don't tell some girl that you love her freaking smile...not that way anyway...you became her bitch, she played you, and that's that...MOVE THE ****** ON!

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet
Dude...

Dude...

Dude...

You must not get a whole lot of attention from the opposite sex. Sadly, you clung on like a two-year with a ******-stained diaper.

WOMEN like men to play "hard-to-get". We can all tell that you lost it by going into such detail about every ****** conversation you two had. That's RIDICULOUS.

You don't tell some girl that you love her freaking smile...not that way anyway...you became her bitch, she played you, and that's that...MOVE THE ****** ON!

Sorry to burst your bubble, I do get a good deal of attention from the opposite sex, but I wanted none untill I met this girl, is that too hard to grasp ?

She was different and I liked it about her, but that's history.

 

[ntdz]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet
Dude...

Dude...

Dude...

You must not get a whole lot of attention from the opposite sex. Sadly, you clung on like a two-year with a ******-stained diaper.

WOMEN like men to play "hard-to-get". We can all tell that you lost it by going into such detail about every ****** conversation you two had. That's RIDICULOUS.

You don't tell some girl that you love her freaking smile...not that way anyway...you became her bitch, she played you, and that's that...MOVE THE ****** ON!

Sorry to burst your bubble, I do get a good deal of attention from the opposite sex, but I wanted none untill I met this girl, is that too hard to grasp ?

She was different and I liked it about her, but that's history.

If any you any real attention from women you would've known how to handle the situation and wouldn't be relying on people on a computer forum for advice with what to do with her.

 

[flawlssdistortn]

Linuxator, overthinking/overanalyzing ANTHING is not healthy. Have you ever seen those photos of some galaxy, and people are convinced it's the face of God? Or the potato chip that looks like the virgin mary? It's nothing!! Just a bunch of bullsh1t!

Your VDay text message is just a few words. The only thing you can read into it is stuff about yourself, not her. Look buddy, I know it's hard to get over something like this, but you know you need to stop wasting your thoughts on her and put your energy into YOU. Make some more music, mess around with Linux. You ever tried Gentoo? It would be a good thing to start talking to some other girls too, as friends.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: ntdz

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet
Dude...

Dude...

Dude...

You must not get a whole lot of attention from the opposite sex. Sadly, you clung on like a two-year with a ******-stained diaper.

WOMEN like men to play "hard-to-get". We can all tell that you lost it by going into such detail about every ****** conversation you two had. That's RIDICULOUS.

You don't tell some girl that you love her freaking smile...not that way anyway...you became her bitch, she played you, and that's that...MOVE THE ****** ON!

Sorry to burst your bubble, I do get a good deal of attention from the opposite sex, but I wanted none untill I met this girl, is that too hard to grasp ?

She was different and I liked it about her, but that's history.

If any you any real attention from women you would've known how to handle the situation and wouldn't be relying on people on a computer forum for advice with what to do with her.

People get advice about all aspects of life here on AT now all the sudden I have hit a taboo or something ?

How can I have experience in this area if I really never wanted anything to do with another girl for a long time, girls aren't going to fall in my lap if I didn't show any effort from my side to get their attention and that's how it was.

And this is how my life was for the most part I couldn't find that someone and didn't find any motive inside me to go and find a girl, ad now I this girl out of no where caught my attention, and I did my best to make something out of this, but I guess my inexperience added to her mind-games skills resulted into a terrible failure.

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: flawlssdistortn
Linuxator, overthinking/overanalyzing ANTHING is not healthy. Have you ever seen those photos of some galaxy, and people are convinced it's the face of God? Or the potato chip that looks like the virgin mary? It's nothing!! Just a bunch of bullsh1t!

Your VDay text message is just a few words. The only thing you can read into it is stuff about yourself, not her. Look buddy, I know it's hard to get over something like this, but you know you need to stop wasting your thoughts on her and put your energy into YOU. Make some more music, mess around with Linux. You ever tried Gentoo? It would be a good thing to start talking to some other girls too, as friends.

Ironically I was making alot of progress with my very own mixes and was going to start a Linux From Scratch (LFS) project prior to her message, and now I am just pissed at most and lost focus on my own sht, damn this emotional BS.

I think me not attempting to get any girl before is mainly due to the simple fact that % 90 of the times
Effort in != Result out
And I do have alot of female friends and I even discussed the story with a couple of them that I am really close to, and they all agreed that there is no dispute that I gave her more than she deserved.

 

[Mo0o]

If the girl saw this thread and the ridiculous amounts of detail you've invested, she would freak out like none other

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: Mo0o
If the girl saw this thread and the ridiculous amounts of detail you've invested, she would freak out like none other

Why look at the cup half empty ?

Why not think that if she was ever to see this thread she would see hwo much effort and time went into it, and maybe she would have realized how much she meant to me ?

 

[maziwanka]

ummm. i get the impression that you overanalyze a lot. thinking the girl is missing work just to avoid you? wow...

you guys are friends. she told you how she felt. just move on and dont read too much into the damn text messages...

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: maziwanka
ummm. i get the impression that you overanalyze a lot. thinking the girl is missing work just to avoid you? wow...

you guys are friends. she told you how she felt. just move on and dont read too much into the damn text messages...

I think that's the end of it, but I am not sure that's what she thinks.

 

[The Linuxator]

Guys this thread is getting too intense, here break the ice a bit 😉

 

[merlocka]

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Mo0o
If the girl saw this thread and the ridiculous amounts of detail you've invested, she would freak out like none other

Why look at the cup half empty ?

Why not think that if she was ever to see this thread she would see hwo much effort and time went into it, and maybe she would have realized how much she meant to me ?

IT PUTS THE LOTION IN TEH BASKET

 

[The Linuxator]

Originally posted by: merlocka

Originally posted by: The Linuxator

Originally posted by: Mo0o
If the girl saw this thread and the ridiculous amounts of detail you've invested, she would freak out like none other

Why look at the cup half empty ?

Why not think that if she was ever to see this thread she would see hwo much effort and time went into it, and maybe she would have realized how much she meant to me ?

IT PUTS THE LOTION IN TEH BASKET

:laugh: