update :
February 15th :
Well message sent , whatever she is cooking up it's time to find out.
Message content : "Hi there, I am doing very well, hope you had a great Valentines day."
February 14th ( AKA FCKN VALENTINES DAY!! ) :
OK so I am hanging out here at this coffee place sipping a cop of joe and chatting with a good friend of mine, and out of no where I get this text message, but from who ?
Well you got it ,it's HER!! The message says :
"Hey XXXXXXX Happy Valentines day, sorry I haven't called how are u"
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WTFMINDGAMES !!!!
Note that we had Zero contact with each other since the last time we saw each other (The day before the beginning of the fall semester)
I really don't feel like messaging her back, and I most probably won't, but just in case I do, it will be along the following lines :
"Hey XXXXXXX Happy Valentines day, I am doing good."
WTF does she thinks I am ? A disposable plastic cup or something ?
OK I get it, she realizes that she is lonely on Valentines day (she wouldn't have been like that if she wasn't a MIND-GAMES QUEEN) and decided that she will honor me with her crappy company for a day or two ?
Well screw her!
Though I am still undecided about sending her that above message or even replying at all, so I guess I'll wait to listen to some valid logical arguments from our logical members here.
January 06
OK guys here is what happened today at work and I am going to make it as short as possible :
- I go to work.
- She is there we greet each other and we start working.
- Close to the end of the shift I go to her and I tell her :
Me : I was just thinking .
She : mhh?
Me : Since we don't have work Friday evening I was wondernig if you would like to go out with me and maybe we can do something together either have dinner or maybe go to the movies ?
She : Look, I know how much you care for me and how much you would like this to workout, but I really don't think it's going to, and I rather us just stay the way we where before.
Me : Hmmm, well I would have loved to see things work out but I really got a different impression from you. But It's ok, I am glad that you were able to be honest about it.
She : I am really sorry XXXXX.
Me : Shakes head.
- I took off work, and most probably I will not see her again in my life, and I hope I never will, it was just too much of a trauma like experience for me during the last two weeks, and I hope I never fall into any similar experience again not even dating / attempting to date again is a valid option for me, what I am happy about is that I was able to finish all of this up before my semester starts.
Do I think I will meet another girl like her, and as cute like her ? I doubt it, and even if I do this experience got me feeling so bad about everything, I think she is right, it wouldn't have worked out, I am too honest, she likes going around in circles, it wouldn't be proper.
To all members that have helped me out I can't thank you enough I wish you all the very best but hey things don't always go as we like them to. I started sensing the failure out of this after her not calling back for 2 days, sick my ass!! So I kind of saw that one coming but rathered be more patient and hear it from the horse's mouth I guess.
I don't know how on earth this thread got so big, but this is my first and most probably the final GF / dating thread, that's it for me I retire, I am just too exhausted and sick of all of this, too much effort too much time and no results.
January 05
OK the schematics of today's plan at work is that I inform her somehow that I would love if she would come out on a date with me on Friday night since both of us don't have to work that night, ATM I have some time before I take off for work and the door for suggestions is still open so hurry in with your ideas
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January 05
Hey guys guess what I have behind back ?
That's right, it's popcorn!! So kick back and relax because captain Linuxator is about to take you for a ride :
The reason why I didn't update yesterday is because she wasn't there, and it got me concerned that she is trying to avoid me, I said to myself "WOW!!! You must be one hell of a psychopath for her to miss about 15 hours of work to avoid you!"
Today I went to work and I didn't see her at the routine pre shift start staff meeting. I was like WTF she is willing to skip 3 days in a row and not talk to me, I really need to see a Doc ASAP. Well 5 minutes after the staff meeting, I see her dragging her ass up the stairs and she looks kind of OK. I pretend I didn't see her and just sat at my desk (with my back facing the stairs, she goes to her desk, puts her stuff in the locker, and then she comes behind me, and she had this sad look on her face :
She : Hi XXXX, how are you ?
Me: Hey XXXX, I am doing good (slight grin), how about you ?
She: I really want to apologize to you about Monday, but I don't know if you know, but I had to call in sick Saturday and Monday and miss a good deal of hours, I tried to call you but I couldn't.
Me: (Thinking that her excuse is slightly sincere but I gave her the benefit of doubt), well that wasn't a big deal, I hope you feel better now, and that's ok we will go out some other time maybe.
She: OK, thanks for understanding.
Me: That 's not a problem. (slight grin)
Now she goes to her desk and starts working, we had a sht load of work to do after new year and what not, we where very understaffed on Monday and we had lots of paperwork to handle for today. So me and her didn't have the slightest amount of time to chat up or anything.
So I did what I always do , I used my HT capabilities and made my body split the threads in half, one part of my brain assisted by my hands were doing the sht load of paperwork at the desk, and the other part of my brain is just sitting there and analyzing or over analyzing things if you will. I start adding things up and see if I got the right sums .
Well, she did miss a lot of work, she did call in sick twice, if she wanted to avoid me she could have easily requested an emergency week and not show up for a week( yes at work we are that flexible), but for her to show up with that cute nose of her really really red and her voice being weak, I knew she was really sick, but the only check that she didn't pass was that , well she could have at least just made a simple call to let me know that hey it wasn't going to work out for Monday maybe another day or something.
But since she did the right thing and came up to me and told me about her mistake and that she apologizes for not calling back, and she didn't just ignore me and the date, I thought that maybe I should forgive her a bit and see how I can use that for my own sake.
At the break of dawn, I got this idea, yes I want to put an end to all of this, so I reach in to my drawer and I find these gloves :evil:, OK I am kidding but it was worth the excitement right ?
Anyway at the break of dawn I said to myself, If I really want to put an end to all of this, it's time to put her in the corner and start extracting data from her, I am sick of the she likes me she likes me not game and I am getting done with all of this today.
I walk to her desk full of confidence, and I , "(Put on a Gregory Peck like face)listen XXXX, I would like to speak to you after your done here, is that OK with you ?" She is like "OK sure"
So I wait like 30 minutes she finishes up and I finish up and we head to the parking lot and she is trembling thinking I am going to take my Samurai sword any second and do a fatality on her or something, I even saw her holding on to her phone just in case I go BANANAS or something (oops). So :
She : So what is it you wanted to talk about ?
Me : Uh... I don't think this is an appropriate place for us to talk. How about I buy you a cup of hot chocolate at that last place we where at.
She : OK but I don't have much time on my hand.
Me : I understand you might have things to do, but this will only take 10 minutes.
She : OK I'll see you there.
So I drive over there and meet her . I go in and I open the door for her. We stop at the register.
Me : So XXXX what would you like me to get you ?
She : Well nothing really, (Ya right I believe you)
Me : Come on, you like hot chocolate, so I'll get you one.
She : ok maybe a small one.
Me ; You know what we will get 2 Medium Hot chocolates please (talking to the employee)
Then we go and sit at our favorite spot. and we start looking at each other (God she has beautiful eyes)
Me : So, rough day huh ?
She : Oh it was horrible did you see how much work I had to do ?
Me : I know, I was there silly!! Remember me? That guy going around the office in circles not having the slightest clue what the hell he is doing
She : Starts laughing for a minute (And my my I saw pearls in her mouth)
Me : While you are at it, I will tell you why we are here now, it's that (points at her mouth)
She : Starts slowing her smiles down.
Me : It's that beautiful smile of yours
She : Starts smiling again and looks at me in the eyes.
Me : Every time I see you I just have this almost uncontrollable urge to start LMAO, but somehow some way I just control my self and maybe that's why I feel confused of what to do when I am around you.
She : Why ?
Me : I just feel happy around you, and I don't know what to say but you really cheer up the office back there .
She : Thank you I don't what to say.
She : I was just telling my friend XXX how much you crack me up.
Me : I think you got it the other way around.
Me : You know , there is something that I wanted to tell you for a long time, but now I guess I can say it.
She : What is that ?
Me : A month ago, I decided that I will not have enough time to come to work and that I will need to be fully focused this spring semester and I have a coop coming in and whatnot, so again that's why I have decided to leave.
Me : I was thinking there isn't anything that I will be missing , but really there is one thing I am going to be missing, i'll be missing such a nice & fine girl like you .
She : Thanks, I really don't know what to say you are a great guy yourself.
Me : I just wanted you to know that after working with you that I have had so much respect for you, that I didn't want to make you feel in any way that I find you attracting or hint at anything , I didn't want to make you feel that you are being forced to talk to me because I see you everyday, and you will end up in a very harmful environment in there, where you are being hit on by this guy but you can't do anything because that might end your career with us or something along those lines.
She : Wow, I didn't really know that.
Me ; Back to my point I am leaving tomorrow, and I have made sure that everything is ok, but there is one thing left.
She : What ?
Me ; I can't leave without telling you that you are a very very nice person and overtime my interest in you had grown more and more each day I saw you, and all I want to do is get to know you more that's all, I have tried that on Monday but thing didn't work out (slight laugh)
Me : And since I am being honest, I have to say that I really didn't feel good about what happened on Monday. I thought you ignored me and you had two days you didn't call me back.
She : I really understand you , but I was lying in bed there and my body temperature was up and I had something like 12 missed calls on my cell phone and I didn't feel like answering any of them including yours, because I wasn't feeling good.
Me : Which brings me to my point that I don't know what to say really, I took it the wrong way and just thought you weren't willing to call me back because you were avoiding me, and I didn't know that you were ill all that time, otherwise I would have understood the situation that day.
She : I really understand why you would have been angry about it, but I am glad you understand.
Me ; OK knowing that I have been sincere all the way with you. I think it's your turn here, do you feel the same towards me as I do towards you.
She : Absolutely, you are a very bright guy, you are fun, you respect me, and you obviously are very forgiving. I did mention it to you that right now I have two Jobs and I am going to school so I really don't have that much time for BF or anything like that.
But I will be hanging out with you often, we should for sure get to know each other better, you are fun, you are sincere, you have told me things that I know 90 % of the guys would just hide from me, trying to make themselves look more confident, while they really don't look like that really.
Me : Same here, I mean next semester I am not going to even have time for work nor a very serious relationship, but still getting to know you more and more over this period of time and hanging out with you and everything would really give me a more clear picture about you.
She : Of course.
Me : So building on that when are you free this week.
She : I am not sure really , I don't want to give you a random day and something might come up that day and end up calling you to not expect me.
Me : I understand, look, before school starts I won't be doing much , you know my number and you know how to reach me, if you find yourself capable of going out, call me and I will take you out ok.
She : Of course, will do for sure.
Me : Great.
Me : I know you must have a lot of things to do, so I am going to leave and let you go on your way.
She ; I am really glad we had this conversation, and I appreciate your honesty.
She : I really like that smell of those cinnamon rolls they have here.
Me : I 'll be back.
Me : (go back to the table with a frosted cinnamon roll in a plate behind my back, and I surprise her with it, she looks at me, and she knew I meant business, and that I want to do whatever it takes ( no matter how small or big it is) to make her smile and light up my world.
She : I really don't know what to say.
Me : I saw you how you looked at those rolls.
She : laughs for a while and starts eating her cinnamon roll.
After 5 minutes :
She : XXX I want to thank you for all of this, you are really a nice guy, I had a wonderful time with you today and I want to thank you for the breakfast you made me have , it was all great.
Me : XXXX you know you are most welcome, always.
So I walk her to the car.
Me ; I want to tell you something, you can think of it in any way you want, you can think I am just flirting with you or you can take it for what it is (a fact).
For six years not even one girl was successful in getting my attention and staying on my mid, not even for a minute, I don't know what to say but, listen, do you know how special you are ? I didn't think so.
I ' ll see you tomorrow ok.
She : I am glad we talked , and I 'll see you tomorrow.
She takes off, I stick for a while think of how much burden has been lifted of my shoulders and relax for a cigarette.
At that moment GWB comes out of no where at the roof top of that Tim Hortons, and says :
"Mission Accomplished" I am like whatever, there is still lots of work to be done here you might not know it, but I do for sure Georgi boy
January 03
Well, I called her Monday around 7:45 PM, she didn't answer , today had passed she didn't give me a call back.
I am supposed to go to work today, I really don't know what she is going to say or do.
I am expecting some half-assed execuse from her, if she appologizes for not calling back and sets some date when she is not busy, we'll go out, if she just doesn't bring it up, I am afraid tough sht, I don't care anymore.
Today I decided I want my normal ME again, I went out and played soccer with some friends, and ATM I am hangning out at my favorite coffee shop enjoying my time (which includes but not exclusive too listening to / mixing some kick ass Trance records , sipping coffee and bothering the hell out of my buddies that work there).
I already feel I am over her, but I have a bad feeling that I might be dragged all over again into all of this once she talks to me again today, only time will tell, if she acts like a snob today I am all for that, if she acts reasonable I will too.
Dec 31
After taking some more time to think about the entire situation, a little change in plans, I will be waiting for her call either this weekend or early on Monday, If she calls we will go out and we will have fun, if she doesn't then we won't that's all there will be to it.
Dec 30
After hard negotiations between me BD2003 , fbrdphreak and many more of our devoted members ( AND GTA FANS!!!) I was finally able to put my sht together and give her a call, everything is arranged for a date at an AppleBee's and most probably I am picking her up , I am off to getting ready for some action now, wish me Luck
Part 2 : I got sick of wating for an hour so I called her up, and as follows :
Me : Hey X, so are you coming out tonight?
She :Uh.., I was just about to call you now.
Me : That's ok so, will you join me for dinner ?
She : Uh.. I have to hang out with my Mom tonight so I won't be able to make it.
Me : Mhh, too bad though, how about monday then, you know before work and stuff.
She : Uh....I might have to open on Monday...
Me ; Well just pick a day that will suit you, I have no problem.
She : Uh.... Monday sounds great.
Me ; Ok I guess Monday it is. I 'll see you at work tomorrow morning.
She : Allright see ya. bye.
The Conclusion : GO FIGURE !!!!
What am I going to do :
a- I am sick , and I wasted too many brain cells for one week
b- My keyboard has a high milage on it.
c- My heart is broken
d- When Monday comes I won't call her.
e- If she calls me I will tell her that it's ok for her not to want to go out,
and that she can stop making excuses, she doesn't have to be with me if she doesn't like me really.
f- Not have another relationship for another 5 make it 10 years.
g- I will be ok, just need to recover a little bit of my manhood that I lost through all of this.
And for all the members that supported me, thank you all very much for all the backing, but it may have made better results with some guy that has a better luck / more far sight, and for those that are observing , just learn from my mistakes.
Dec 29
Guys I really need to say something here, I am not sure if you are going to be happy about it or not, but you guys need to grab more popcorn than you did before here goes :
So at work I see her around, as usual I say hi she says hi and we start working.
I really didn't feel any of the excitement she had yesterday, and that's it, we didn't get a chance to talk much until the end of the shift, plus she didn't mention a thing about meeting after work, and she was acting like I didn't ask her out.
At the end of the shift, I came up with this idea, I wanted to save myself some of what's left of manhood in me, so instead of just walking out immediately towards the clock out / in device, I said to myself, what if she doesn't want to do all of this, what if she has been negative all night trying to tell me "Hey, I really don't want to do this !" , I felt very pissed all night, so I wanted to give her the chance to run for her life but how ?
Well I said to myself If I delay myself 2 minutes in the bathroom, she will have more than enough time to clock out and run to her car and not see me, and then she can come in next day and pretend that we didn't have a date and that would mean a no and it will be all over.
Sadly I spent 1.5 minutes in the bathroom and came out to find her out of the office, I go to where we clock out and she is not waiting for me there, even though she saw me going to the bathroom , I knew at that point, OK she doesn't want to do any of this, she is more of a coward than I am in this deal, I got really pissed, It was much bigger than a NO & it felt like I was dumped, which at that point is pretty much what it was for me I WAS DUMPED for the 1st time in my life, and let me tell you , you didn't want to be around me at that minute, because most probably you wouldn't survive .
I shook my head and I am like, I gave her 1 minute and some change and she ran through the door, not even her car is in the parking lot, I kept telling myself where did I go wrong ? I took it easy and I was polite with her, and I didn't force her and I was flexible with her.
I guess it was a lesson well learned, so I got into my car and I pretty much make one hell of a wheel mark when I took off, I was driving like a MANIAC, I was so ashamed of myself and I couldn't believe that I actually fell for such a dirty trick like that, I kept banging my hands on the steering wheel and I am like "I knew it, I shouldn't have ventured in an area that I have left for the dust" add to it that I felt like a fool that I almost got into an accident with a Semi !! And then I was like "WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT !!!! I ALMOST GOT KILLED AND BECAUSE OF WHO ?? BECAUSE OF A GIRL THAT DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH DECENSY TO NOT RUN AWAY WHILE I TOOK A 1 MINUTE PISS!!" I woke up from my anger state and I put on a trance track and smoked a cigarette, and I cooled down for a sec and said to myself, who gives a sht, to hell with her , at least I know I won't be trying for a very long time from now, and then I actually felt very happy that I got over all of that in 2 minutes (Thanks to DJ Doboy & Marlboro Lights) I was like, OK you will forget about all of this and be happy again like you were before, and what a lesson well learned.
So as I was driving I pass by this place that we were "supposed to meet", and I decide that I need to compliment my cigarette with a nice cup of black coffee, so I park my car there , there were no other customers so obviously she isn't there either, so I turn off my engine and I am shaking my head to the tune of Dj Doboy 2003 mix while I grabbed my money from the glove compartment.
Then I decided instead of going to the drive through, I want to grab my Linux BASH book and read some stuff I wanted to look up for a while , inside the store while I enjoy my coffee in peace (Yes that is my replacement for newspapers ) it sounded like a good idea.
So when I grabbed my money, I looked for one second to my right (as I was inside my car) SUDDENLY!! I see another car pull right next to mine very slowly , so slow that I moved very slowly inside my car, and reach next to me and grabbed my metal baseball bat apparently someone is trying to rob me , and I got ready for any possible action, then the car stops, and it's flashlights go off.
When the headlights went off, I was able to see clearly who was driving the car.
IT WAS HER!!!
I put down my baseball bat immediately so that she doesn't think that I am some serial killer or whatever and I get it out of the car. I am like "What are you doing here ? (And I really meant it, WTF is she doing there, I just got over here 2 minutes ago , what is this ??) I thought you are not going to come because you forgot or something came up again!"
She : No how can I !
Me: Oh silly me, shall we go in.'
She : Yes it's so cold.
So we go in she beats me to the counter because I opened the door for her. and I wasn't able to pay for her, anyway, we go to my favorite spot and we sit down and chat as follows :
- We talked about work
- We laughed alot, then we laughed a bit more.
- We then talked about how much fun we had on monday.
- SUDDENLY! She mentions something that happened in there, and she was saying "My Dumbass wouldn't do that !" I knew what she meant, she was talking about herself, but I jumped on the oppurtunity and said, " Are you talking about your BF , that you have a DUMBASS BF oe something ?? " She laughed for like two minutes and she is like no I am talking about myself, and no I don't have a BF (YES!!), I don't have time anymore for that stuff (DANG IT!!), and I am like I understand what you are saying, and you would have a relationship that would end up in without a warning, she is like exactly that's what happened with me last relationship and I was like I know it happened to me that way like 5 years ago and till now I was hesitant about having another GF, so it seems we are in the same boat. ( At that point I had to ditch plan A and go not to plan B which is make her feel that both of us are going through the same thing, which is really what is going on and try to win her over)
She had so much fun with me that she stayed with me like 45 minutes more than she originally told me she has time for, I don't know it can be a sign.
Good news, : I told her I would like to stay in touch with her and she gave me her cell # and I gave her mine.
Also we both told each other that we should have done this more often, and we should do it more often in the future.
Bad news : She has plans with her friends for New Year's eve and I can't come up with suggestion for that. so much for being GOLDEN
There's the update for now , more updates after new year's eve , I will try to call her maybe next week on the weekend and try to get with her again if possible.
Dec 28
I have just came back from work, well here is what happened ( grab popcorn please , becasue this will take a while ) :
I kept waiting all night through the morning for a chance to have her in one spot of the office by herself, at the last 15 minutes or so, that just happened. I stood next to her and looked at the wall for a sec , and I engaged her as follows :
Me : So how are you today ?
She : Oh I am doing great, how about you ?
Me : Oh not so good.
She : Oh why ?
Me : Well I have this terrible headache and I can't wait till it's six o'clock so I can go and grab me a nice hot cup of coffee.
She : Oh that sounds good right now !
Me : Yes it does.
Then I had to leave for a minute , because I had to. Then I came back to were she was and surprised her with the following .
Me : So would you like to grab a cup of coffee with me after work ?
She : (A bit surprised as it seemed on her face ) Oh... Yeah sure, where ?
Me : I just know this Tim Hortons right next to where we work on XXXXXX street .
She : Ya I would rather a hot chocolate cup .
Me : Ya whatever you like.
She : (Walks away in a state of minor shock while I am using every muscle in my body to stop myself from putting that big smile on my face because I know there is more work to be done yet and also I didn't want to look like an idiot, as she wasn't expecting all of this)
She : (Comes back in one minute) Yeah I have just remembered that I have some things to do today after work, would tomorrow be ok ?
Me : Ya no problem tomorrow is just fine (And at that point I look normal on the outside, but deep inside I was really confused, she could have changed her mind so quickly for 4 main possible reasons :
a- She really remembered that she has something to do.
b- She doesn't have something to do, but she thought that I kind of made her say yes because I came out of no where with my question and she needs sometime to think how she is going to behave with me while she intended to say no or couldn't say no.
c- She really likes me and she wants to maybe be more prepared by having a day notice and maybe wants to look better.
d- She is trying to delay things untill she can give me the NO! answer or come up with some other execuse.
)
At that point I lost all the joy that I had gathered from getting myself enough courage and putting away all that shyness in me to ask her out.
Only time will tell if it's a Nay! or a Yay! I am a positive guy and I will say , maybe she just wanted a day to think about it, or maybe she likes me and wants to have time to know what to tell me. I am going to exclude the BF possibility for now becasue I haven't seen any indications yet. Plus I noticed that after I asked her out, she started smiling more at everyone in the office and laughing hard at the slightest thing, it kind felt for me that I made her happy, I hope so, but I don't know
Now let's say that I go see her at the coffee shop tomorrow after work, is the following logical :
- We go get our drinks (XXL becasue it will take a lot of sipping for me to get to the point)
- Go sit some where quiet.
- Engage her with something about work for 5 minutes or so.
- After that tell her that I don't feel good about leaving work for that long, but I have too.
- At the end tell her " The idea of me leaving work, eally makes me feel, bad and I have got used to see people in my crew everyday that I can't stay that long without having casual meetings with someone every now and then untill I return"
- " I have really enjoyed the period of time that I have worked with you, and I would like to stay in touch with you during the period of time I am away from work"
- wait for what she has to say and then try to get her number if thats ok with her.
- Also would it be considered a good thing or a bad thing if I paid for both of us as a courtesy, or would it be considered bad on the 1st date ( if you want to call it that).
So how about that approach ?
Dec 27
OK I have just came back from the night out with my office crew, we went to a local bar and grill, after that we went to this place were we all played some pool.
We had alot of fun , and I asked the girl that I am talking about to play some pool with me, we played like 4 rounds or so and we both had a lot of laughs. I liked how she looked she was really nice, and having laughs with everyone around, It kind of gave me a nice idea about her interaction with other ppl.
Also when I left she told me that she had a lot of fun and gave me a big hug .
All that aside the good news is that everyone showed up with a BF / GF except for her and me .
And I asked her about what she did on the break, she told me she did nothing except that she just ate and slept, so I don't see any indication of a BF of what so ever .
Now when I go back tomorrow I am considering talking to her more, and tell her the following :
" Hi , yesterday was awesome and I really enjoyed my time with you, we really should do this more often.
I was wondering if you would like to grab a cup of coffe with me sometime next week ?"
I think that is a nice way to put it it's not too pushy and not unrelated at the same time , right guys and girls ?
Dec 22
OK I have a while ago started a thread
about my emotional situation, and how I feel about girls, marriage and kids.
Since that thread I have been doing a lot of thinking and know I really feel confused, one side of myself is telling me that I need to change, and the other sis telling me that I am happy as I am and there is no reason to change but here goes.
Thinking about the comments that I have read in the thread, I said to myself what if I give it another whirl ? I see no damage coming from it. Now what's the problem ? The problem is as follows and I am going to make it short :
For some personal reasons I am taking 3 months off work and coming back after that. There is this girl I work with; and I know what I am going to say is strange but, I don't think there was ever a girl in my whole life that made me really smile every time I look her way, nobody ever laughed at my jokes more than she did and no girl ever made me laugh at her jokes more than she did, no one ever seemed willing to listen to something that I have to say more than she does, and the most weird thing yet is that , non of all of this ever came to my mind until I am now two weeks or so close to me taking my 3 months of work!! From the point of view about how she looks, I have to say that she has to be one of the cutest girls I have seen yet. We share lots of common points (and yes she is into computers, not as I am but close enough ).
What is the problem that faces me now ? As I said I decided that another shot at it won't hurt anyone and might come with some positive results, but here is the thing I don't know if she has a boyfriend or not ? I really don't know what she thinks of me emotionally, and I am not sure how she would react if she ever got the hint that I like here more than she knows.
You see throughout the period we have worked together side by side, the idea of getting closer to her never crossed my mind and I was treating her as a friend and the reason we talk to each other a lot is because we tend to talk about the same issues and have a similar point of view about many things that occur at work.
What am I trying to do ? After realizing the fact that I really do like this girl, and looking back at the other girls that I have liked before she basically pwns them! I do want to gradually get closer to her and maybe ask her out for dinner or maybe a cop of coffee somewhere. I want to get to know her more, I want to let her know how I feel from the start and what my intentions are. I DON'T WANT HER TO THINK THAT I WAS GOOD TO HER AT WORK BECASUE I WAS IN FACT HITTING ON HER OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT!! As I said the idea of me being attracted to her on an emotional level didn't come to my mind until today when I was leaving work and was walking her to her car in the parking lot.
What info do I need from her ? Since I am leaving for 3 months I would like a way to be able to get in touch with her, and thanks to Graham Bell I can get her phone number but how do I do that without giving her a hint that I am attracted too her ? What is the easiest way for me to get a good idea about if she likes me or not, so I can save my self braincells and time ?
Cliffs :
- I discovered that I like this girl I work with
- I am leaving on a 3 months leave of work
- Before I go on my vacation I would like to :
- Make sure that she doesn't have anyone else on mind.
- Find out if she possibly feels the same about me
- Get her phone number and see if I can jump start this relation .
- I want to do what's above without letting her get a wrong impression about me .
February 15th :
Well message sent , whatever she is cooking up it's time to find out.
Message content : "Hi there, I am doing very well, hope you had a great Valentines day."
February 14th ( AKA FCKN VALENTINES DAY!! ) :
OK so I am hanging out here at this coffee place sipping a cop of joe and chatting with a good friend of mine, and out of no where I get this text message, but from who ?
Well you got it ,it's HER!! The message says :
"Hey XXXXXXX Happy Valentines day, sorry I haven't called how are u"
^
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WTFMINDGAMES !!!!
Note that we had Zero contact with each other since the last time we saw each other (The day before the beginning of the fall semester)
I really don't feel like messaging her back, and I most probably won't, but just in case I do, it will be along the following lines :
"Hey XXXXXXX Happy Valentines day, I am doing good."
WTF does she thinks I am ? A disposable plastic cup or something ?
OK I get it, she realizes that she is lonely on Valentines day (she wouldn't have been like that if she wasn't a MIND-GAMES QUEEN) and decided that she will honor me with her crappy company for a day or two ?
Well screw her!
Though I am still undecided about sending her that above message or even replying at all, so I guess I'll wait to listen to some valid logical arguments from our logical members here.
January 06
OK guys here is what happened today at work and I am going to make it as short as possible :
- I go to work.
- She is there we greet each other and we start working.
- Close to the end of the shift I go to her and I tell her :
Me : I was just thinking .
She : mhh?
Me : Since we don't have work Friday evening I was wondernig if you would like to go out with me and maybe we can do something together either have dinner or maybe go to the movies ?
She : Look, I know how much you care for me and how much you would like this to workout, but I really don't think it's going to, and I rather us just stay the way we where before.
Me : Hmmm, well I would have loved to see things work out but I really got a different impression from you. But It's ok, I am glad that you were able to be honest about it.
She : I am really sorry XXXXX.
Me : Shakes head.
- I took off work, and most probably I will not see her again in my life, and I hope I never will, it was just too much of a trauma like experience for me during the last two weeks, and I hope I never fall into any similar experience again not even dating / attempting to date again is a valid option for me, what I am happy about is that I was able to finish all of this up before my semester starts.
Do I think I will meet another girl like her, and as cute like her ? I doubt it, and even if I do this experience got me feeling so bad about everything, I think she is right, it wouldn't have worked out, I am too honest, she likes going around in circles, it wouldn't be proper.
To all members that have helped me out I can't thank you enough I wish you all the very best but hey things don't always go as we like them to. I started sensing the failure out of this after her not calling back for 2 days, sick my ass!! So I kind of saw that one coming but rathered be more patient and hear it from the horse's mouth I guess.
I don't know how on earth this thread got so big, but this is my first and most probably the final GF / dating thread, that's it for me I retire, I am just too exhausted and sick of all of this, too much effort too much time and no results.
January 05
OK the schematics of today's plan at work is that I inform her somehow that I would love if she would come out on a date with me on Friday night since both of us don't have to work that night, ATM I have some time before I take off for work and the door for suggestions is still open so hurry in with your ideas
. January 05
Hey guys guess what I have behind back ?
That's right, it's popcorn!! So kick back and relax because captain Linuxator is about to take you for a ride :
The reason why I didn't update yesterday is because she wasn't there, and it got me concerned that she is trying to avoid me, I said to myself "WOW!!! You must be one hell of a psychopath for her to miss about 15 hours of work to avoid you!"
Today I went to work and I didn't see her at the routine pre shift start staff meeting. I was like WTF she is willing to skip 3 days in a row and not talk to me, I really need to see a Doc ASAP. Well 5 minutes after the staff meeting, I see her dragging her ass up the stairs and she looks kind of OK. I pretend I didn't see her and just sat at my desk (with my back facing the stairs, she goes to her desk, puts her stuff in the locker, and then she comes behind me, and she had this sad look on her face :
She : Hi XXXX, how are you ?
Me: Hey XXXX, I am doing good (slight grin), how about you ?
She: I really want to apologize to you about Monday, but I don't know if you know, but I had to call in sick Saturday and Monday and miss a good deal of hours, I tried to call you but I couldn't.
Me: (Thinking that her excuse is slightly sincere but I gave her the benefit of doubt), well that wasn't a big deal, I hope you feel better now, and that's ok we will go out some other time maybe.
She: OK, thanks for understanding.
Me: That 's not a problem. (slight grin)
Now she goes to her desk and starts working, we had a sht load of work to do after new year and what not, we where very understaffed on Monday and we had lots of paperwork to handle for today. So me and her didn't have the slightest amount of time to chat up or anything.
So I did what I always do , I used my HT capabilities and made my body split the threads in half, one part of my brain assisted by my hands were doing the sht load of paperwork at the desk, and the other part of my brain is just sitting there and analyzing or over analyzing things if you will. I start adding things up and see if I got the right sums .
Well, she did miss a lot of work, she did call in sick twice, if she wanted to avoid me she could have easily requested an emergency week and not show up for a week( yes at work we are that flexible), but for her to show up with that cute nose of her really really red and her voice being weak, I knew she was really sick, but the only check that she didn't pass was that , well she could have at least just made a simple call to let me know that hey it wasn't going to work out for Monday maybe another day or something.
But since she did the right thing and came up to me and told me about her mistake and that she apologizes for not calling back, and she didn't just ignore me and the date, I thought that maybe I should forgive her a bit and see how I can use that for my own sake.
At the break of dawn, I got this idea, yes I want to put an end to all of this, so I reach in to my drawer and I find these gloves :evil:, OK I am kidding but it was worth the excitement right ?
Anyway at the break of dawn I said to myself, If I really want to put an end to all of this, it's time to put her in the corner and start extracting data from her, I am sick of the she likes me she likes me not game and I am getting done with all of this today.
I walk to her desk full of confidence, and I , "(Put on a Gregory Peck like face)listen XXXX, I would like to speak to you after your done here, is that OK with you ?" She is like "OK sure"
So I wait like 30 minutes she finishes up and I finish up and we head to the parking lot and she is trembling thinking I am going to take my Samurai sword any second and do a fatality on her or something, I even saw her holding on to her phone just in case I go BANANAS or something (oops). So :
She : So what is it you wanted to talk about ?
Me : Uh... I don't think this is an appropriate place for us to talk. How about I buy you a cup of hot chocolate at that last place we where at.
She : OK but I don't have much time on my hand.
Me : I understand you might have things to do, but this will only take 10 minutes.
She : OK I'll see you there.
So I drive over there and meet her . I go in and I open the door for her. We stop at the register.
Me : So XXXX what would you like me to get you ?
She : Well nothing really, (Ya right I believe you)
Me : Come on, you like hot chocolate, so I'll get you one.
She : ok maybe a small one.
Me ; You know what we will get 2 Medium Hot chocolates please (talking to the employee)
Then we go and sit at our favorite spot. and we start looking at each other (God she has beautiful eyes)
Me : So, rough day huh ?
She : Oh it was horrible did you see how much work I had to do ?
Me : I know, I was there silly!! Remember me? That guy going around the office in circles not having the slightest clue what the hell he is doing
She : Starts laughing for a minute (And my my I saw pearls in her mouth
)Me : While you are at it, I will tell you why we are here now, it's that (points at her mouth)
She : Starts slowing her smiles down.
Me : It's that beautiful smile of yours
She : Starts smiling again and looks at me in the eyes.
Me : Every time I see you I just have this almost uncontrollable urge to start LMAO, but somehow some way I just control my self and maybe that's why I feel confused of what to do when I am around you.
She : Why ?
Me : I just feel happy around you, and I don't know what to say but you really cheer up the office back there .
She : Thank you I don't what to say.
She : I was just telling my friend XXX how much you crack me up.
Me : I think you got it the other way around.
Me : You know , there is something that I wanted to tell you for a long time, but now I guess I can say it.
She : What is that ?
Me : A month ago, I decided that I will not have enough time to come to work and that I will need to be fully focused this spring semester and I have a coop coming in and whatnot, so again that's why I have decided to leave.
Me : I was thinking there isn't anything that I will be missing , but really there is one thing I am going to be missing, i'll be missing such a nice & fine girl like you .
She : Thanks, I really don't know what to say you are a great guy yourself.
Me : I just wanted you to know that after working with you that I have had so much respect for you, that I didn't want to make you feel in any way that I find you attracting or hint at anything , I didn't want to make you feel that you are being forced to talk to me because I see you everyday, and you will end up in a very harmful environment in there, where you are being hit on by this guy but you can't do anything because that might end your career with us or something along those lines.
She : Wow, I didn't really know that.
Me ; Back to my point I am leaving tomorrow, and I have made sure that everything is ok, but there is one thing left.
She : What ?
Me ; I can't leave without telling you that you are a very very nice person and overtime my interest in you had grown more and more each day I saw you, and all I want to do is get to know you more that's all, I have tried that on Monday but thing didn't work out (slight laugh)
Me : And since I am being honest, I have to say that I really didn't feel good about what happened on Monday. I thought you ignored me and you had two days you didn't call me back.
She : I really understand you , but I was lying in bed there and my body temperature was up and I had something like 12 missed calls on my cell phone and I didn't feel like answering any of them including yours, because I wasn't feeling good.
Me : Which brings me to my point that I don't know what to say really, I took it the wrong way and just thought you weren't willing to call me back because you were avoiding me, and I didn't know that you were ill all that time, otherwise I would have understood the situation that day.
She : I really understand why you would have been angry about it, but I am glad you understand.
Me ; OK knowing that I have been sincere all the way with you. I think it's your turn here, do you feel the same towards me as I do towards you.
She : Absolutely, you are a very bright guy, you are fun, you respect me, and you obviously are very forgiving. I did mention it to you that right now I have two Jobs and I am going to school so I really don't have that much time for BF or anything like that.
But I will be hanging out with you often, we should for sure get to know each other better, you are fun, you are sincere, you have told me things that I know 90 % of the guys would just hide from me, trying to make themselves look more confident, while they really don't look like that really.
Me : Same here, I mean next semester I am not going to even have time for work nor a very serious relationship, but still getting to know you more and more over this period of time and hanging out with you and everything would really give me a more clear picture about you.
She : Of course.
Me : So building on that when are you free this week.
She : I am not sure really , I don't want to give you a random day and something might come up that day and end up calling you to not expect me.
Me : I understand, look, before school starts I won't be doing much , you know my number and you know how to reach me, if you find yourself capable of going out, call me and I will take you out ok.
She : Of course, will do for sure.
Me : Great.
Me : I know you must have a lot of things to do, so I am going to leave and let you go on your way.
She ; I am really glad we had this conversation, and I appreciate your honesty.
She : I really like that smell of those cinnamon rolls they have here.
Me : I 'll be back.
Me : (go back to the table with a frosted cinnamon roll in a plate behind my back, and I surprise her with it, she looks at me, and she knew I meant business, and that I want to do whatever it takes ( no matter how small or big it is) to make her smile and light up my world.
She : I really don't know what to say.
Me : I saw you how you looked at those rolls.
She : laughs for a while and starts eating her cinnamon roll.
After 5 minutes :
She : XXX I want to thank you for all of this, you are really a nice guy, I had a wonderful time with you today and I want to thank you for the breakfast you made me have , it was all great.
Me : XXXX you know you are most welcome, always.
So I walk her to the car.
Me ; I want to tell you something, you can think of it in any way you want, you can think I am just flirting with you or you can take it for what it is (a fact).
For six years not even one girl was successful in getting my attention and staying on my mid, not even for a minute, I don't know what to say but, listen, do you know how special you are ? I didn't think so.
I ' ll see you tomorrow ok.
She : I am glad we talked , and I 'll see you tomorrow.
She takes off, I stick for a while think of how much burden has been lifted of my shoulders and relax for a cigarette.
At that moment GWB comes out of no where at the roof top of that Tim Hortons, and says :
"Mission Accomplished" I am like whatever, there is still lots of work to be done here you might not know it, but I do for sure Georgi boy
January 03
Well, I called her Monday around 7:45 PM, she didn't answer , today had passed she didn't give me a call back.
I am supposed to go to work today, I really don't know what she is going to say or do.
I am expecting some half-assed execuse from her, if she appologizes for not calling back and sets some date when she is not busy, we'll go out, if she just doesn't bring it up, I am afraid tough sht, I don't care anymore.
Today I decided I want my normal ME again, I went out and played soccer with some friends, and ATM I am hangning out at my favorite coffee shop enjoying my time (which includes but not exclusive too listening to / mixing some kick ass Trance records , sipping coffee and bothering the hell out of my buddies that work there
).I already feel I am over her, but I have a bad feeling that I might be dragged all over again into all of this once she talks to me again today, only time will tell, if she acts like a snob today I am all for that, if she acts reasonable I will too.
Dec 31
After taking some more time to think about the entire situation, a little change in plans, I will be waiting for her call either this weekend or early on Monday, If she calls we will go out and we will have fun, if she doesn't then we won't that's all there will be to it.
Dec 30
After hard negotiations between me BD2003 , fbrdphreak and many more of our devoted members ( AND GTA FANS!!!) I was finally able to put my sht together and give her a call, everything is arranged for a date at an AppleBee's and most probably I am picking her up , I am off to getting ready for some action now, wish me Luck
Part 2 : I got sick of wating for an hour so I called her up, and as follows :
Me : Hey X, so are you coming out tonight?
She :Uh.., I was just about to call you now.
Me : That's ok so, will you join me for dinner ?
She : Uh.. I have to hang out with my Mom tonight so I won't be able to make it.
Me : Mhh, too bad though, how about monday then, you know before work and stuff.
She : Uh....I might have to open on Monday...
Me ; Well just pick a day that will suit you, I have no problem.
She : Uh.... Monday sounds great.
Me ; Ok I guess Monday it is. I 'll see you at work tomorrow morning.
She : Allright see ya. bye.
The Conclusion : GO FIGURE !!!!
What am I going to do :
a- I am sick , and I wasted too many brain cells for one week
b- My keyboard has a high milage on it.
c- My heart is broken
d- When Monday comes I won't call her.
e- If she calls me I will tell her that it's ok for her not to want to go out,
and that she can stop making excuses, she doesn't have to be with me if she doesn't like me really.
f- Not have another relationship for another 5 make it 10 years.
g- I will be ok, just need to recover a little bit of my manhood that I lost through all of this.
And for all the members that supported me, thank you all very much for all the backing, but it may have made better results with some guy that has a better luck / more far sight, and for those that are observing , just learn from my mistakes.
Dec 29
Guys I really need to say something here, I am not sure if you are going to be happy about it or not, but you guys need to grab more popcorn than you did before
here goes : So at work I see her around, as usual I say hi she says hi and we start working.
I really didn't feel any of the excitement she had yesterday
, and that's it, we didn't get a chance to talk much until the end of the shift, plus she didn't mention a thing about meeting after work, and she was acting like I didn't ask her out.At the end of the shift, I came up with this idea, I wanted to save myself some of what's left of manhood in me, so instead of just walking out immediately towards the clock out / in device, I said to myself, what if she doesn't want to do all of this, what if she has been negative all night trying to tell me "Hey, I really don't want to do this !" , I felt very pissed all night, so I wanted to give her the chance to run for her life but how ?
Well I said to myself If I delay myself 2 minutes in the bathroom, she will have more than enough time to clock out and run to her car and not see me, and then she can come in next day and pretend that we didn't have a date and that would mean a no and it will be all over.
Sadly I spent 1.5 minutes in the bathroom and came out to find her out of the office, I go to where we clock out and she is not waiting for me there, even though she saw me going to the bathroom , I knew at that point, OK she doesn't want to do any of this, she is more of a coward than I am in this deal, I got really pissed, It was much bigger than a NO & it felt like I was dumped, which at that point is pretty much what it was for me I WAS DUMPED for the 1st time in my life, and let me tell you , you didn't want to be around me at that minute, because most probably you wouldn't survive . I shook my head and I am like, I gave her 1 minute and some change and she ran through the door, not even her car is in the parking lot, I kept telling myself where did I go wrong ? I took it easy and I was polite with her, and I didn't force her and I was flexible with her.
I guess it was a lesson well learned, so I got into my car and I pretty much make one hell of a wheel mark when I took off, I was driving like a MANIAC, I was so ashamed of myself and I couldn't believe that I actually fell for such a dirty trick like that, I kept banging my hands on the steering wheel and I am like "I knew it, I shouldn't have ventured in an area that I have left for the dust" add to it that I felt like a fool that I almost got into an accident with a Semi !! And then I was like "WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT !!!! I ALMOST GOT KILLED AND BECAUSE OF WHO ?? BECAUSE OF A GIRL THAT DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH DECENSY TO NOT RUN AWAY WHILE I TOOK A 1 MINUTE PISS!!" I woke up from my anger state and I put on a trance track and smoked a cigarette, and I cooled down for a sec and said to myself, who gives a sht, to hell with her , at least I know I won't be trying for a very long time from now, and then I actually felt very happy that I got over all of that in 2 minutes (Thanks to DJ Doboy & Marlboro Lights
) I was like, OK you will forget about all of this and be happy again like you were before, and what a lesson well learned. So as I was driving I pass by this place that we were "supposed to meet", and I decide that I need to compliment my cigarette with a nice cup of black coffee, so I park my car there , there were no other customers so obviously she isn't there either, so I turn off my engine and I am shaking my head to the tune of Dj Doboy 2003 mix while I grabbed my money from the glove compartment.
Then I decided instead of going to the drive through, I want to grab my Linux BASH book and read some stuff I wanted to look up for a while , inside the store while I enjoy my coffee in peace (Yes that is my replacement for newspapers ) it sounded like a good idea.
So when I grabbed my money, I looked for one second to my right (as I was inside my car) SUDDENLY!! I see another car pull right next to mine very slowly , so slow that I moved very slowly inside my car, and reach next to me and grabbed my metal baseball bat apparently someone is trying to rob me , and I got ready for any possible action, then the car stops, and it's flashlights go off.
When the headlights went off, I was able to see clearly who was driving the car.
IT WAS HER!!!
I put down my baseball bat immediately so that she doesn't think that I am some serial killer or whatever and I get it out of the car. I am like "What are you doing here ? (And I really meant it, WTF is she doing there, I just got over here 2 minutes ago , what is this ??) I thought you are not going to come because you forgot or something came up again!"
She : No how can I !
Me: Oh silly me, shall we go in.'
She : Yes it's so cold.
So we go in she beats me to the counter because I opened the door for her. and I wasn't able to pay for her, anyway, we go to my favorite spot and we sit down and chat as follows :
- We talked about work
- We laughed alot, then we laughed a bit more.
- We then talked about how much fun we had on monday.
- SUDDENLY! She mentions something that happened in there, and she was saying "My Dumbass wouldn't do that !" I knew what she meant, she was talking about herself, but I jumped on the oppurtunity and said, " Are you talking about your BF , that you have a DUMBASS BF oe something ?? " She laughed for like two minutes and she is like no I am talking about myself, and no I don't have a BF (YES!!), I don't have time anymore for that stuff (DANG IT!!), and I am like I understand what you are saying, and you would have a relationship that would end up in without a warning, she is like exactly that's what happened with me last relationship and I was like I know it happened to me that way like 5 years ago and till now I was hesitant about having another GF, so it seems we are in the same boat
. ( At that point I had to ditch plan A and go not to plan B which is make her feel that both of us are going through the same thing, which is really what is going on and try to win her over)She had so much fun with me that she stayed with me like 45 minutes more than she originally told me she has time for, I don't know it can be a sign.
Good news, : I told her I would like to stay in touch with her and she gave me her cell # and I gave her mine.
Also we both told each other that we should have done this more often, and we should do it more often in the future.
Bad news : She has plans with her friends for New Year's eve and I can't come up with suggestion for that. so much for being GOLDEN
There's the update for now , more updates after new year's eve , I will try to call her maybe next week on the weekend and try to get with her again if possible.
Dec 28
I have just came back from work, well here is what happened ( grab popcorn please , becasue this will take a while ) :
I kept waiting all night through the morning for a chance to have her in one spot of the office by herself, at the last 15 minutes or so, that just happened. I stood next to her and looked at the wall for a sec , and I engaged her as follows :
Me : So how are you today ?
She : Oh I am doing great, how about you ?
Me : Oh not so good.
She : Oh why ?
Me : Well I have this terrible headache and I can't wait till it's six o'clock so I can go and grab me a nice hot cup of coffee.
She : Oh that sounds good right now !
Me : Yes it does.
Then I had to leave for a minute , because I had to. Then I came back to were she was and surprised her with the following .
Me : So would you like to grab a cup of coffee with me after work ?
She : (A bit surprised as it seemed on her face ) Oh... Yeah sure, where ?
Me : I just know this Tim Hortons right next to where we work on XXXXXX street .
She : Ya I would rather a hot chocolate cup .
Me : Ya whatever you like.
She : (Walks away in a state of minor shock while I am using every muscle in my body to stop myself from putting that big smile on my face because I know there is more work to be done yet and also I didn't want to look like an idiot, as she wasn't expecting all of this)
She : (Comes back in one minute) Yeah I have just remembered that I have some things to do today after work, would tomorrow be ok ?
Me : Ya no problem tomorrow is just fine (And at that point I look normal on the outside, but deep inside I was really confused, she could have changed her mind so quickly for 4 main possible reasons :
a- She really remembered that she has something to do.
b- She doesn't have something to do, but she thought that I kind of made her say yes because I came out of no where with my question and she needs sometime to think how she is going to behave with me while she intended to say no or couldn't say no.
c- She really likes me and she wants to maybe be more prepared by having a day notice and maybe wants to look better.
d- She is trying to delay things untill she can give me the NO! answer or come up with some other execuse.
)
At that point I lost all the joy that I had gathered from getting myself enough courage and putting away all that shyness in me to ask her out.
Only time will tell if it's a Nay! or a Yay! I am a positive guy and I will say , maybe she just wanted a day to think about it, or maybe she likes me and wants to have time to know what to tell me. I am going to exclude the BF possibility for now becasue I haven't seen any indications yet. Plus I noticed that after I asked her out, she started smiling more at everyone in the office and laughing hard at the slightest thing, it kind felt for me that I made her happy, I hope so, but I don't know
Now let's say that I go see her at the coffee shop tomorrow after work, is the following logical :
- We go get our drinks (XXL becasue it will take a lot of sipping for me to get to the point)
- Go sit some where quiet.
- Engage her with something about work for 5 minutes or so.
- After that tell her that I don't feel good about leaving work for that long, but I have too.
- At the end tell her " The idea of me leaving work, eally makes me feel, bad and I have got used to see people in my crew everyday that I can't stay that long without having casual meetings with someone every now and then untill I return"
- " I have really enjoyed the period of time that I have worked with you, and I would like to stay in touch with you during the period of time I am away from work"
- wait for what she has to say and then try to get her number if thats ok with her.
- Also would it be considered a good thing or a bad thing if I paid for both of us as a courtesy, or would it be considered bad on the 1st date ( if you want to call it that).
So how about that approach ?
Dec 27
OK I have just came back from the night out with my office crew, we went to a local bar and grill, after that we went to this place were we all played some pool.
We had alot of fun , and I asked the girl that I am talking about to play some pool with me, we played like 4 rounds or so and we both had a lot of laughs. I liked how she looked she was really nice, and having laughs with everyone around, It kind of gave me a nice idea about her interaction with other ppl.
Also when I left she told me that she had a lot of fun and gave me a big hug .
All that aside the good news is that everyone showed up with a BF / GF except for her and me .
And I asked her about what she did on the break, she told me she did nothing except that she just ate and slept, so I don't see any indication of a BF of what so ever .
Now when I go back tomorrow I am considering talking to her more, and tell her the following :
" Hi , yesterday was awesome and I really enjoyed my time with you, we really should do this more often.
I was wondering if you would like to grab a cup of coffe with me sometime next week ?"
I think that is a nice way to put it it's not too pushy and not unrelated at the same time , right guys and girls ?
Dec 22
OK I have a while ago started a thread
about my emotional situation, and how I feel about girls, marriage and kids.
Since that thread I have been doing a lot of thinking and know I really feel confused, one side of myself is telling me that I need to change, and the other sis telling me that I am happy as I am and there is no reason to change but here goes.
Thinking about the comments that I have read in the thread, I said to myself what if I give it another whirl ? I see no damage coming from it. Now what's the problem ? The problem is as follows and I am going to make it short :
For some personal reasons I am taking 3 months off work and coming back after that. There is this girl I work with; and I know what I am going to say is strange but, I don't think there was ever a girl in my whole life that made me really smile every time I look her way, nobody ever laughed at my jokes more than she did and no girl ever made me laugh at her jokes more than she did, no one ever seemed willing to listen to something that I have to say more than she does, and the most weird thing yet is that , non of all of this ever came to my mind until I am now two weeks or so close to me taking my 3 months of work!! From the point of view about how she looks, I have to say that she has to be one of the cutest girls I have seen yet. We share lots of common points (and yes she is into computers, not as I am but close enough ).
What is the problem that faces me now ? As I said I decided that another shot at it won't hurt anyone and might come with some positive results, but here is the thing I don't know if she has a boyfriend or not ? I really don't know what she thinks of me emotionally, and I am not sure how she would react if she ever got the hint that I like here more than she knows.
You see throughout the period we have worked together side by side, the idea of getting closer to her never crossed my mind and I was treating her as a friend and the reason we talk to each other a lot is because we tend to talk about the same issues and have a similar point of view about many things that occur at work.
What am I trying to do ? After realizing the fact that I really do like this girl, and looking back at the other girls that I have liked before she basically pwns them! I do want to gradually get closer to her and maybe ask her out for dinner or maybe a cop of coffee somewhere. I want to get to know her more, I want to let her know how I feel from the start and what my intentions are. I DON'T WANT HER TO THINK THAT I WAS GOOD TO HER AT WORK BECASUE I WAS IN FACT HITTING ON HER OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT!! As I said the idea of me being attracted to her on an emotional level didn't come to my mind until today when I was leaving work and was walking her to her car in the parking lot.
What info do I need from her ? Since I am leaving for 3 months I would like a way to be able to get in touch with her, and thanks to Graham Bell I can get her phone number but how do I do that without giving her a hint that I am attracted too her ? What is the easiest way for me to get a good idea about if she likes me or not, so I can save my self braincells and time ?
Cliffs :
- I discovered that I like this girl I work with
- I am leaving on a 3 months leave of work
- Before I go on my vacation I would like to :
- Make sure that she doesn't have anyone else on mind.
- Find out if she possibly feels the same about me
- Get her phone number and see if I can jump start this relation .
- I want to do what's above without letting her get a wrong impression about me .
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