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scottish144

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In continuation of the "Should I go to Prom alone?" thread, I've decided to go with asking as many girls as it takes (wthin reason). So I started porring over the list of girls I know well who havn't made plans yet (Prom is in 1.5 weeks). Needless to say, the list was rather short. At the top of the list is a girl I met during All-State Chorus. We talked off and on for the 3 day period, and on the last day she asked me for contact info (AIM, facebook/myspace, email, no phone # though 🙁 ) Being the blithering idiot I was that day, I didn't ask for hers. However, her HS is only about 1 hour away from me at worst. I looked up her number via phone book (She has a fairly unique last name, only 3 people to call). Females: Would it seem desparate/stalker-ish if I were to call using the number obtained via phone book, and if so, what should I say to explain when I do call?
 
Originally posted by: scottish144
In continuation of the "Should I go to Prom alone?" thread, I've decided to go with asking as many girls as it takes (wthin reason). So I started porring over the list of girls I know well who havn't made plans yet (Prom is in 1.5 weeks). Needless to say, the list was rather short. At the top of the list is a girl I met during All-State Chorus. We talked off and on for the 3 day period, and on the last day she asked me for contact info (AIM, facebook/myspace, email, no phone # though 🙁 ) Being the blithering idiot I was that day, I didn't ask for hers. However, her HS is only about 1 hour away from me at worst. I looked up her number via phone book (She has a fairly unique last name, only 3 people to call). Females: Would it seem desparate/stalker-ish if I were to call using the number obtained via phone book, and if so, what should I say to explain when I do call?
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It would show that you'd really like to talk to her. If she asked for your information, I wouldn't worry too much about comming off as a stalker, I mean, that's what a phonebook is for.

Not that I have any experience, just giving my two cents.
 
She has your info. but has never contacted you?
Maybe she forgot about you or didn't like you
How do you know she doesn't have a BF or anything already?

I'm not a female, just going from experience.
 
Originally posted by: joedrake
She has your info. but has never contacted you?
Maybe she forgot about you or didn't like you
How do you know she doesn't have a BF or anything already?

I'm not a female, just going from experience.
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All-State chorus ended last Saturday. That plus AP tests plus finals = not much time, at least for me. I know I havn't had time to call her even if I had her #.
 
i've done that 2 or 3 times when i was in HS. it does seem weird, and maybe it is, but like someone else said, thats what the phone book is for (well, not asking girls for dates...uh,you know what i mean).

i should mention i got no where either time, so you might want to take that into consideration. of course, i may have been out of my league with the girls.
 
Originally posted by: scottish144
In continuation of the "Should I go to Prom alone?" thread, I've decided to go with asking as many girls as it takes (wthin reason). So I started porring over the list of girls I know well who havn't made plans yet (Prom is in 1.5 weeks). Needless to say, the list was rather short. At the top of the list is a girl I met during All-State Chorus. We talked off and on for the 3 day period, and on the last day she asked me for contact info (AIM, facebook/myspace, email, no phone # though 🙁 ) Being the blithering idiot I was that day, I didn't ask for hers. However, her HS is only about 1 hour away from me at worst. I looked up her number via phone book (She has a fairly unique last name, only 3 people to call). Females: Would it seem desparate/stalker-ish if I were to call using the number obtained via phone book, and if so, what should I say to explain when I do call?
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try it. I'm not a girl, but had a similar situation once. it worked. DO IT. You're only young once
 
I know I am old, but is Prom not a big deal anymore? Is it really acceptable to take someone that you chatted with one and off for a few days and not since?

Wow!

But if you decide that she is the one you wanna ask... then your method of locating her is not wrong.

 
The worst thing that could happen is that she shoots you down. At best you could have a date and a new GF. I'd say give it a try, but do it soon (tonight) as you both will need time to prepare (get clothes, a ride, dinner reservations, etc).

Yes, it seems strange to cold call her. The key here is to not *ever* call her again if she shoots you down. If she says something about having "other plans", then thank her anyway, offer her your number, or just tell her to drop you an e-mail or AIM sometime and leave it at that. Do not seem pushy, and don't call back after the first time to talk to her unless you make a date or she says to call her again. If you get an answering machine, leave your name, number, how you two met, and ask her to call you back. Do not mention prom on the answering machine. If she doesn't call, try back in two days, and if you have to leave a message again, then don't call back a third time. You've done all you can.

OK, good luck!

R
 
Originally posted by: OdiN
Call her. Worst she can say is no.
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if you don't ask, she can't say no

you should give her the opportunity to reject you

call her today!


good luck
 
Just ask a girl that you are friends with at school.

You don't have go with a girl that you intend to get busy with.
 
Originally posted by: Qwest
tell her you got the # off of an AIDS walk list.
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Tell her that she gave you her number... she won't say she didn't cause then she'd look like an idiot and then you'd be dominant and then she wouldnt be able to say no
 
Originally posted by: rgwalt
The key here is to not *ever* call her again if she shoots you down. If she says something about having "other plans", then thank her anyway
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:thumbsup:

you don't want anymore evidence around
 
Originally posted by: rgwalt
The worst thing that could happen is that she shoots you down. At best you could have a date and a new GF. I'd say give it a try, but do it soon (tonight) as you both will need time to prepare (get clothes, a ride, dinner reservations, etc).

Yes, it seems strange to cold call her. The key here is to not *ever* call her again if she shoots you down. If she says something about having "other plans", then thank her anyway, offer her your number, or just tell her to drop you an e-mail or AIM sometime and leave it at that. Do not seem pushy, and don't call back after the first time to talk to her unless you make a date or she says to call her again. If you get an answering machine, leave your name, number, how you two met, and ask her to call you back. Do not mention prom on the answering machine. If she doesn't call, try back in two days, and if you have to leave a message again, then don't call back a third time. You've done all you can.

OK, good luck!

R
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Excellent advice.
 
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
I know I am old, but is Prom not a big deal anymore? Is it really acceptable to take someone that you chatted with one and off for a few days and not since?

Wow!
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Yeah, it seems prom really ISN'T a big deal anymore. Mine was nothing special, that's for sure.
 
Sure, give her a call. The worst that can happen is that she says no, and you don't even have to take that personally. If Prom is in 1 and 1/2 weeks that doesn't give her a lot of time to get a gown and all, so that may be the only reason she turns you down, but it's also the reason you should call her as soon as possible if you're planning to.
 
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