Put my name on any mirror and look into it. Blame me for what you see. I think this is kind of what happens when you read my posts. You take everything personally. Your dislike of yourself is what you hear when you are neutrally described. Now the reason I know this to be true but can express it only as an opinion is that I see this behavior in myself. When I say you I mean me. In another thread this behavior has been described as" Every action is a confession." I have known this from long before I started posting here. Our blame of others comes from our own self hatred. If you see this seriously you will know that nobody is to blame, that blaming others, your blaming me, is a wrong place to be. You can't accept being wrong objectively. I can't either but I have more practice. I feel what you feel but I do not righteously defend myself. I know I am a clown who can't help himself, neither free nor a total prisoner.
The funny thing I have noted is that we see what we believe and or we see what is fresh on our minds. I saw this probably sometime since we have been having this exchange. It may help you to see that what I have tried to tell you isn't unknown in psychology:
However unconsciously, many people “mutate” their out-of-control anxiety into anger, as anger creates the illusion of regaining control of the situation.
www.psychologytoday.com
I hope everyone who sees this reads this link.