My Wife is not Taking my Name

[Aztech]

We've been married for about 6 years. I know, it's pretty late to be asking, but help me out anyway. She still hasn't gone to whatever office and changed to my last name. She uses my last name on a lot of things, but it's not official yet. It always comes up at tax time, when we have to use her name, and then I always forget about it again. Is there any reason for me to insist that she take my name?

I guess, I'll be googling about this while you guys tell me what you think. Oh yeah, one other thing, she has one sister and no brothers, so she actually wanted me to take her name, to carry on her family name, since I have two brothers to carry on ours. Now, I will say this, her family name is a lot easier to pronounce than my foreign family name.

Talk to me, yo...

 

[Amused]

Should I Care?

No.

Why don't you take her name?

If this question seems absurd to you, ask yourself, why?

 

[nageov3t]

meh.

I don't know if I'd marry a woman who would take my last name. It just seems so submissive and pedestrian. Don't see what the big deal is, and I never understood why women are expected to take their husband's name.

 

[GtPrOjEcTX]

obviously she doesn't want to change her name or she would have done so by now.

would you mind taking her last name? its not custom of course, but its something she wants, and easier for the both of you.

choices:

1) do nothing, have separate last names forever.
2) get the ball rolling on her name change (take to her, go to wherever you need to go together)
3) just append your last name to her name... so if she's Jane Mary Doe, she'll now be Jane Mary Doe Smith, and having 2 middle names (Mary Doe)


edit: I'm getting married in 1.5 months and I want her to change her name. Her's is easier, but we're going the traditional route.

 

[YetioDoom]

It's really no big deal.

 

[PlatinumGold]

my wife's maiden name is the same as my last name (Lee, probably the most common asian name)

so, did she take my name or not? i don't know, should i care?

 

[nageov3t]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
my wife's maiden name is the same as my last name (Lee, probably the most common asian name)

so, did she take my name or not? i don't know, should i care?

that wedding announcement must have looked pretty weird. you don't live in West Virginia by chance, do you?

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

Good thing you gave your last name. I was going ask if anyone would want to be known as Mrs. Aztek (sic)

 

[Gravity]

If it's an issue for you, then it's waaaaay too late to address it. Any other signs of feminism in your marriage?

I had a gf once that I considered marrying, she was up front telling me that she wouldn't want to change her name. She was already 40 and had professionally established herself with that name so she wouldn't want to change it. (she was a famous author).

That and other stuff broke us up.

BTW, after 15 years of married challenges, that name thing would be minor to the mass conflagurations we now endure.

Cheers!

 

[GtPrOjEcTX]

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith
Good thing you gave your last name. I was going ask if anyone would want to be known as Mrs. Aztek (sic)

Where did he give his last name?

 

[Risiko]

-- Hmm, I'd change your name to hers.

EDIT: Whoops, sorry Loki, I mischaracterized your post . My opinion, though not directed at anyone, still stands . If you want to read it, it's the quote in the following post.

 

[GtPrOjEcTX]

Originally posted by: Risiko

I don't know if I'd marry a woman who would take my last name. It just seems so submissive and pedestrian.

To the contrary, my friend, it shows that you are mature enough not to be stuck in a silly tradition, and, perhaps, is extremely respectful. It might be thought of as a way of honoring your wife, the gentlemen's way.

Of course, you can still be a gentlemen if she changes her name to yours, but to assert that somehow for a man to change his last name to his wife's last name is submissive and pedestrian, well, I'd disagree. I think it makes you more of a man.

I think the testosterone-driven macho attitude is one of the (if not the) driving forces of idiocy, immorality, and destruction in history. A true man, I believe, is one who sheds himself from this.

Re-read his post Risiko. I think you read it wrong.

 

[Pliablemoose]

As the only male child in my family & the father of one child, a girl, I can understand her not changing her name. Matter of fact, I like that you may change your name to carry on the family name.

 

[LED]

I usually don't even lurk through this Forum butt this topic was 1 eyeopener as I have a Daughter who would be the only one to carry my last name on so I hope she won't change hers...although it'll be up to her so in your Case Don't worry about it as long as there is love! :heart:

 

[Ausm]

Ex took my name and the Biiotch still uses it!


Sysadmin

 

[LED]

Originally posted by: Sysadmin
Exx took my name and the iiotch still uses it!


Sysadmin

ROTFLMFAOPIMP!!!

 

[Manzelle]

Pamela Martha Focker

 

[LeadMagnet]

my full name is Ricky Ticky Tembo No Sai Rembo Cherry Berry Uchi Pip Perri Pembo

and we live in Taumatawkakatangihakoauauotanenuiarangikitanatahu New Zealand

my wife v xu didn't take my last name.

 

[allisolm]

My only question is what do you do namewise when children come along?

 

[StageLeft]

6 years and still unresolved? lmao!

 

[skace]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
6 years and still unresolved? lmao!

Procrastination :thumbsup:

 

[LED]

Originally posted by: allisolm
My only question is what do you do namewise when children come along?

With tradition usually the Baby gets the Males name last and the Females name is placed in the middle or a dash betwinx the 2 on the last...nowadays I'm sure 1 discussion is necessary as with who opens door for who

 

[MrAwesome]

My wife better change her name if i were to get married. It's part of the deal. The only excuse for not changing her name would be if she had a sweet last name like Dragonslayer or Deathninja, in which case I would gladly change my last name to hers.

 

[LED]

Originally posted by: MrAwesome
My wife better change her name if i were to get married. It's part of the deal. The only excuse for not changing her name would be if she had a sweet last name like Dragonslayer or Deathninja, in which case I would gladly change my last name to hers.

Mrs. Awesome ???...married or not I wanna see the gif

 

[GtPrOjEcTX]

Originally posted by: MrAwesome
My wife better change her name if i were to get married. It's part of the deal. The only excuse for not changing her name would be if she had a sweet last name like Dragonslayer or Deathninja, in which case I would gladly change my last name to hers.

LMAO!

oh wow.