My roomate always wants rides home from work

[James Bond]

My roommate, who takes the bus to work, checks his work schedule online every day.

He is very good about being at work on time, never calling in sick, etc.

I don't understand why he will accept a shift that gets off at 11:30PM, when he has no car, and the buses have stopped running.

I'm sure he has known for days about this shift, but never put out the effort to get his shift changed. I doubt his boss even knows that he has no car--why would someone not make that apparent? Because of that, this same thing has happened TOO many times.
He has known for days, but doesn't ask me for a ride until today.

So many options, but he decides that the best way to handle this is to ask me for a late ass ride home, the day of?

I'm going to go see a movie tonight. He can figure it out with his boss. Not my problem anymore.

 

[Mr Incognito]

How many times has he done this? Multiple times a week? Does he show any appreciation/ give you anything for your efforts?

EDIT: What movie are you seeing?

 

[DainBramaged]

Instead of bitching about it to me, have you considered TALKING to him about this?

 

[Jahee]

Just tell him "No." straight up why bother to even make excuses?

 

[Wuffsunie]

Tell him, too bad; he can get a ride from a coworker or call a cab. You're busy.

 

[James Bond]

Originally posted by: Mr Incognito
How many times has he done this? Multiple times a week? Does he show any appreciation/ give you anything for your efforts?

He had a job in the past and he did it about 4 times in one month.
Its about a half hour drive each way for me, but he had no other options and would have to walk if I didn't pick him up (which he has done before, it took him 4 hours).

He doesn't show much appreciation--he's not a dick or anything, but he doesn't actually even say 'thank you'.

I should have handled it right off the bat saying "this will not happen again", but I really didn't think he would act so negligent.

 

[James Bond]

Originally posted by: Mr Incognito
EDIT: What movie are you seeing?

I'm not sure yet...
Whats good?

 

[Mr Incognito]

I heard Reno 911 was okay, but you see most the movie in the previews. Good thing I declined that offer.

 

[Maximilian]

Just say "yeah ill pick you up!" and sound enthusiastic, then dont bother picking him up. Simple as that.

 

[Bryophyte]

It's unreasonable for him to expect you to take an hour out of your day because of his job. He should get a car, a bike, or call a cab. Either that or live closer to work/ work closer to home.

 

[Mr Incognito]

He could bike home much faster than walking and get some exercise to boot.

 

[Aimster]

I mean if you are cool with your roommate then do it, unless you have other things to do.

I still think your roommate should have bought you a few beers, maybe even lunch for you going out of your way.

 

[James Bond]

Originally posted by: Aimster
I mean if you are cool with your roommate then do it, unless you have other things to do.

I still think your roommate should have bought you a few beers, maybe even lunch for you going out of your way.

I am cool with him, but I don't want to make this a common thing.
I've done it in the past, and it really is a major hassle for me.

If he showed some appreciate or gave me some incentive I would do it... But hey, at least ask me a few days in advance.

I even drove his girlfriend to the airport one Saturday (he asked a week in advance) at like 8am, it sucked. Then, a week later, he pretty much assumed I would pick her up, but didn't bother asking until the day of (which makes it 10x worse for some reason).

Isn't it just common courtesy to give me a few bucks or buy me food or something?

 

[Greyd]

If you haven't talked to him about it already- the problem is you. You let yourself get walked over. Now don't go and yell at him,etc and be a jerk, becasue pretty much you give off the impression that its ok. Sit him down and be honest but firm and polite about it.

 

[James Bond]

Originally posted by: Greyd
If you haven't talked to him about it already- the problem is you. You let yourself get walked over. Now don't go and yell at him,etc and be a jerk, becasue pretty much you give off the impression that its ok. Sit him down and be honest but firm and polite about it.

Yeah, I completely realize that. I'm not going to be a jerk or anything, we're great friends. I'm just telling him that he needs to make other arrangements tonight and that he needs to ask me in advance in the future.

 

[FoBoT]

probably for the same reason i can't decide how to fix my car