My old friend

[The Godfather]

Ok this girl was my friend ever since i came to the States 4 years ago. We became really close and were like family. We met at this apartment complex where most immigrants go. After that we seperated for a few months, but saw each other, back and forth, thats how it was for 1-2 years. Then my family moved into a house complex where she lived, about 1 year ago. Now we're neighbors.

Well anyways, one day, she made some friends, depressed cutters, goths if you know what i mean. And then she totally left me out of her life. So i said screw it and things between us cooled out. After a few months, we started talking again, but she was this depressed bitch cause she started going out with one of the goths.

She always told me before how she wanted a boyfriend, how she's lonely, and how she only liked me as a friend. Now this guy asked her out, and i'm totally sure she's going out with him (7 months so far) just because she doesn't want to be lonely. This guy has no charm whatsoever, he has no intelligence, no humor, no solid personality. Last week i got into a fight with him (verbal) because he was arguing with me about things he has no clue about, and i hate arguing with ignorance.

This girl's parents don't like him, my parents have noticed how depressed she has gotten, and they saw too what kind of a moron this guy is.

I have to convince her to stop ruining her life by going out with this jerk, but she's "in love" Everytime they talk on the phone, every 3rd word i hear from her mouth is "I love you too"

What do i do?

 

[Suspicious-Teach8788]

Are you in love with her? Or do you just wanna be friends..

 

[The Godfather]

Nah i just wanna be friends. But i'm concerned about her, cause she's ruining her life.

 

[Goosemaster]

Originally posted by: The Godfather
Nah i just wanna be friends. But i'm concerned about her, cause she's ruining her life.

A good friend will speak out and take action, but not attempt to live the life of the other.


If she doesn't accept your help move on. Sorry, but it'll only hurt you more if you resort to nievity and try to fix something that might engulf you.

 

[The Godfather]

bump

 

[Yossarian]

She isn't ruining her life. You're just jealous.

 

[alien42]

goosemaster is right.

on the bright side it is just a phase she will grow out of.

 

[D1gger]

You can't change her life or make her decisions for her. You can only effect how you react to her. If her new life causes you pain, inform her that you cannot be around her because of her choices and move on.

 

[The Godfather]

Originally posted by: Yossarian
She isn't ruining her life. You're just jealous.

No. I only like her as a friend. Taking the fact they intend to get married as soon as they graduate, which will be in 1 year. And the way things are going, i know he won't break up with her. And she won't either, cause she's so desperate for a boyfriend. How desperate can you be, to become blind to the fact that the person you're dating for 7 months is a moron?

I've never seen people like him. I've seen people who try to be stupid just to be funny. I've seen average and intelligent people. But stupidity to his level, and lack of character i've never witnessed.

I'm not the only one who sees it.

So she might marry a jackass.

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: Goosemaster
If she doesn't accept your help move on. Sorry, but it'll only hurt you more if you resort to nievity and try to fix something that might engulf you.

and that's the unfortunately truth. people are stubborn, and it may take them a while to realize it.

 

[The Godfather]

She didn't even call to wish a Merry Christmas. All she cares about is that jackass. She probably doesn't even care about her parents. She has no friends at all. Ahh forget her, i've got plenty of other friends.

 

[HaxorNubcake]

Originally posted by: The Godfather
She didn't even call to wish a Merry Christmas. All she cares about is that jackass. She probably doesn't even care about her parents. She has no friends at all. Ahh forget her, i've got plenty of other friends.

great...way to abandon her

 

[The Godfather]

She abandoned me long before i did.

 

[her209]

Relationship Ghost of Past, Future, and Present?

 

[NorthRiver]

Show her your Johnson and get it over with!!

 

[Azndude2190]

Slap her?

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: The Godfather

Originally posted by: Yossarian
She isn't ruining her life. You're just jealous.

No. I only like her as a friend. Taking the fact they intend to get married as soon as they graduate, which will be in 1 year. And the way things are going, i know he won't break up with her. And she won't either, cause she's so desperate for a boyfriend. How desperate can you be, to become blind to the fact that the person you're dating for 7 months is a moron?

I've never seen people like him. I've seen people who try to be stupid just to be funny. I've seen average and intelligent people. But stupidity to his level, and lack of character i've never witnessed.

I'm not the only one who sees it.

So she might marry a jackass.

I agree with Yossarian. You have yet to mention 1 bad thing that the bf has done to her. Ok, you think he's a jerk, but she digs him, so he must be doing something right. You just can't stand the fact that she's seeing someone, and I'd bet my next paycheck, that you aren't.

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: Goosemaster

Originally posted by: The Godfather
Nah i just wanna be friends. But i'm concerned about her, cause she's ruining her life.

A good friend will speak out and take action, but not attempt to live the life of the other.


If she doesn't accept your help move on. Sorry, but it'll only hurt you more if you resort to nievity and try to fix something that might engulf you.

EVERY path to enlightenment, righteousness, or The Truth, (in all it's variants) begins with a self realization that one is not "there".
Only by patient example can you hope to imbue that in someone else.
You cannot shame, cajole, ridicule, nag, plead, berate, lecture, talk. beat, force, brainwash, bribe, trick, sex, love, hate (did I leave anything out?) that quality into another. All you can do is to be consistant in your love (friendship) towards that person and show by your own actions how positive that place is. The qualities of hope and charity are deeply intertwined.
Good Luck, young Sky-walker, Remember, THE FORCE gives you power over their weaker minds. <not being sarcastic )

 

[dirtboy]

Her life, her decisions; stay out of it, unless you want to take the chance at losing her as a friend. While you see a problem, she might not.

 

[Goosemaster]

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

Originally posted by: Goosemaster

Originally posted by: The Godfather
Nah i just wanna be friends. But i'm concerned about her, cause she's ruining her life.

A good friend will speak out and take action, but not attempt to live the life of the other.


If she doesn't accept your help move on. Sorry, but it'll only hurt you more if you resort to nievity and try to fix something that might engulf you.

EVERY path to enlightenment, righteousness, or The Truth, (in all it's variants) begins with a self realization that one is not "there".
Only by patient example can you hope to imbue that in someone else.
You cannot shame, cajole, ridicule, nag, plead, berate, lecture, talk. beat, force, brainwash, bribe, trick, sex, love, hate (did I leave anything out?) that quality into another. All you can do is to be consistant in your love (friendship) towards that person and show by your own actions how positive that place is. The qualities of hope and charity are deeply intertwined.
Good Luck, young Sky-walker, Remember, THE FORCE gives you power over their weaker minds. <not being sarcastic )

exactly..... but you lsot me on that George lucas mumbo gumbo jumbo...