My mini novel of the "sorority girl" ENDING ADDED

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Nutdotnet

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Ok, so what's the problem? You two are still seeing each other. Sure, you've had some issues but fvck it.

But, you seem like a little b!tch (don't take offense). You gotta remember man, you're a GUY. Guy's do boneheaded things (like get jealous and insecure). Women like this, as long as it's not psycho. They feel special. Heck, my last woman dumped my ass because I WASN'T jealous or insecure. I knew she was lucky to be with me and that it wasn't in my control if she hooked up with someone else.

Anyway, my best advice? STAY OUT OF HER BUSINESS WITH HER EX!!! Or even with her ex-fiance. Console her if her ex is giving her a hard time, just do the things that he didn't. About the fiance...meet him if you can. As a social thing. Who cares if she calls him pumpkin or not? They have history...maybe his peter is shaped like a pumpkin...and she calls him that to give him a hard time. ;)

Good luck man, sounds like you have something special. Just don't bend over backwards and don't OVERANALYZE...it just screws people up.
 
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Originally posted by: Nutdotnet
Ok, so what's the problem? You two are still seeing each other. Sure, you've had some issues but fvck it.

But, you seem like a little b!tch (don't take offense). You gotta remember man, you're a GUY. Guy's do boneheaded things (like get jealous and insecure). Women like this, as long as it's not psycho. They feel special. Heck, my last woman dumped my ass because I WASN'T jealous or insecure. I knew she was lucky to be with me and that it wasn't in my control if she hooked up with someone else.

Anyway, my best advice? STAY OUT OF HER BUSINESS WITH HER EX!!! Or even with her ex-fiance. Console her if her ex is giving her a hard time, just do the things that he didn't. About the fiance...meet him if you can. As a social thing. Who cares if she calls him pumpkin or not? They have history...maybe his peter is shaped like a pumpkin...and she calls him that to give him a hard time. ;)

Good luck man, sounds like you have something special. Just don't bend over backwards and don't OVERANALYZE...it just screws people up.



it's over, we "broke up" or whatever yesterday. thx for the words though:beer:
 

Zombie

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I don't understand what the girl being in a sorority has anything to do with your story.

So far your story doesn't sound any different than 100 different YAGT we see here everyday.
 

Gulzakar

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here's your lesson for next time:

a) don't be so god damn clingy
b) stop over analyzing
c) jsut relax and let thigns take their course... do try and force a $hit out? or do you wait until it's the appropriate time...
 

DougK62

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Originally posted by: Gulzakar
here's your lesson for next time:

a) don't be so god damn clingy
b) stop over analyzing
c) jsut relax and let thigns take their course... do try and force a $hit out? or do you wait until it's the appropriate time...

NEVER force a $hit out - I've got a nice hernia here from trying that!

 

sygyzy

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You were not very clear in your mni-novel. Did you actually ever say you broke up?
 

flyingboujanero

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I sure would love to know all the sticky details of how this ends. Surely we deserve that, after getting this far in to the story.
 

nitsuj3580

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The whole getting the screen name and putting it on your buddy list was kind've weird. I know you've already learned from your mistakes but if her ex had bothered her, were you going to threaten him via AIM or something?
 
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Originally posted by: nitsuj3580
The whole getting the screen name and putting it on your buddy list was kind've weird. I know you've already learned from your mistakes but if her ex had bothered her, were you going to threaten him via AIM or something?

actually at first, i was thinking of just talking to him and being cool. just letting him know that i'm not looking for trouble. i never did talk to him. it was stupid.

like i said i did a lot of stupid stuff and ruined it, i'm paying for it now, happy?
 
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Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
Has ATOT been DP'd? (that just sounds wrong if you take the sexual meaning of DP)

i'm not gonna stand you guys up. i will update it tonight or tomorrow. i'm so down in the dumps right now so it's kind of hard to even think about her. i will tell you that it's over for those wanting the ending. i will tell you why when i posted part 4 but yes it's over. i don't know why i feel like this, i've lost 9 lbs in the past week. it's getting rediculous.
 

ggnl

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Originally posted by: DP
Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
Has ATOT been DP'd? (that just sounds wrong if you take the sexual meaning of DP)

i'm not gonna stand you guys up. i will update it tonight or tomorrow. i'm so down in the dumps right now so it's kind of hard to even think about her. i will tell you that it's over for those wanting the ending. i will tell you why when i posted part 4 but yes it's over. i don't know why i feel like this, i've lost 9 lbs in the past week. it's getting rediculous.

Aww don't be sad, this will blow over soon. What's the last 4 weeks compared to everything you've been through? Is it really worth being depressed over? I don't think so. It's Friday, go have fun and get your mind off things.
 
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Originally posted by: ggnl
Originally posted by: DP
Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
Has ATOT been DP'd? (that just sounds wrong if you take the sexual meaning of DP)

i'm not gonna stand you guys up. i will update it tonight or tomorrow. i'm so down in the dumps right now so it's kind of hard to even think about her. i will tell you that it's over for those wanting the ending. i will tell you why when i posted part 4 but yes it's over. i don't know why i feel like this, i've lost 9 lbs in the past week. it's getting rediculous.

Aww don't be sad, this will blow over soon. What's the last 4 weeks compared to everything you've been through? Is it really worth being depressed over? I don't think so. It's Friday, go have fun and get your mind off things.

i can't help it. time is the only thing that will work. it's almost time to go home, i have a liter of heaven hills waiting on me and the toughman is this weekend. i've been cooped up at work all day and i'm about to bust. i seriously shouldn't feel this bad. i messed up and admitted i was wrong to her but i should not feel this bad about a girl i've known for a month. i don't know what's up.

i have a question:

one of her shirts is at my house, i'm trying to get it back to her. she said i have quite a bit of clothing stuff over there? i also gave her my ironman watch a few weeks ago. i was drunk last night and i called her at 2am asking for my watch back. she was pretty pissed that i woke her up to ask that. my question is should i even worry about getting my stuff back? honestly i could care less about the watch and clothes.
 

Pliablemoose

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Sorry DP, sometimes relationships just get too confusing to keep alive.

She doesn't deal with stress well, big negative there, and it doesn't get better, trust me. She actually sounds a bit bipolar (rapid cycling too).

Suck it up & move on, there's lots of women to fsck out there, and it sounds like you gave it an honest effort. Just wait till you have a divorce or 2 under you belt with kids to pay for and houses to sell, and retirements to split.
 

Stark

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I remember the original thread where you said you met a hot sorority chick on hot or not... you can look up my comments from that thread, but it looks like I was right on the money. The girl has issues: deep, dark issues.

It sounds like you're both using each other as the "rebound/screw buddy" after coming out of serious relationships. If you take it for that and nothing more (at least at this stage), you should be fine. If you can't, thank her for the good times and move on.
 
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Originally posted by: Stark
I remember the original thread where you said you met a hot sorority chick on hot or not... you can look up my comments from that thread, but it looks like I was right on the money. The girl has issues: deep, dark issues.

It sounds like you're both using each other as the "rebound/screw buddy" after coming out of serious relationships. If you take it for that and nothing more (at least at this stage), you should be fine. If you can't, thank her for the good times and move on.

i really do like her though. i wasn't looking for a rebound, she has been single for a while too. she told me everything would be going fine if i didnt go behind her back about adding her ex and pressuing her so much.(said this in an email this morning)

i'm not getting my hopes up but for some reason i think she will be back. i told her last night i'm just gonna block her aim and never contact her again, she didn't want that. plus wtf would she be calling me to talk for almost an hour last night.

 

Gulzakar

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this is what i want you to do...

1) grab your balls
2) stretch them to your feet
3) tie them around your ankle
4) proceed to meet with said woman and profess love
5) untie balls and watch as they spring up to your face with a nice *smack*
 

Originally posted by: jjones
Originally posted by: DearQT
Please explain, Jjones. In what way was it his fault (as there are different ways you could say so)? I'm curious in what way you in particular perceive it as his fault.

"This was very stupid on my part but I was trying to scare her into thinking that I don?t play around."

"On Monday the 31st, I asked for her ex?s screen name. She told me she didn?t want me having it. I just wanted it just in case he bothered her. I got it anyways looking behind her back one time and remembered it to add it to my buddy list."

"She calls someone and says ?hey pumpkin? when they answer, I?m thinking must be a gf of hers. WRONG, I heard a male answer so I was like wtf? Why is she doing this. I sat there silently just wanting to die. After 20 minuets she got off the phone and I asked who that was? She said her ex fiancé. I was like why did you call him pumpkin?"

"During the pageant I kept quiet the entire time and she kept asking what was wrong and giving me her sad puppy dog face, I tell her nothing but she can tell I?m mad about what happened."

"We didn?t talk much and I made the comment I?m going home tonight since things weren?t going well."

"After that bogus weekend"

And there seems to be more coming. Rushing into a relationship is one thing, but trying to control someone is another. Sure the girl has a couple of issues with her ex-bf but they sure don't appear to be of such great importance that she is fscking up the relationship over it. It seems that DP is trying to control her life too much, gets jealous of her relationship with her ex-fiance, and has already imposed certain expectations on this girl's behavior. Their relationship is new and these things shouldn't be happening at all, let alone so early in a relationship.
I hear you, Jjones. However, the only thing that sounds quite weird is the part about obtaining her ex's screen name, in spite of she saying no. In a normal relationship, his behavior would send a warning flag. I would be the first to jump on him for being a control freak.

However, this one wasn't normal, for in a normal relationship a normal girl wouldn't get a guy she's dating so involved in her crap about some ex before she even knew him. The fact that she chose to bring her problems from an ex and get DP deeply involved takes away her claim to privacy on a moral level as far as that guy is concerned. So DP no longer looks so weird when you look at the whole context and the characters of people involved.

About jealousy: Geez ? as if jealousy is so unusual! Jealousy is human nature. The only jealousy we question is that which infringes upon another person's right, when it leaves thoughts to become action, and when it reaches the point that one couldn't function, especially due to constant suspicion. If you noted, DP indicated to us that these were his thoughts--not his actions in most cases, given to us in retrospect. He had a legitimate reason to ask why she called that person pumpkin if it was a male voice. Would many of us not be suspicious if someone was using that kind of name on an ex, even in good terms? We may keep it to ourselves if we are passive, but we would still be suspicious. We would have to know the interaction and relationship between the two before our doubts would disappear. Again, a normal person doesn't get you so involved in his/her past relatiionship(s) at an early stage--especially at the dating stage.