My mini novel of the "sorority girl" ENDING ADDED

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dsfunk

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You need to calm down dude. You didn't screw up that bad. She has issues. Have a beer.
 

Oh by the way, I hope this isn't some April Fool's (i.e., "Skoorb effect"). My thought process tells me that it's likely the case because of the profile of the girl you were dating. However, another side ... the skeptical side of me wonders if this is just all made up, which might explain why you are taking a long time to write the story. The skeptical part of me is small, though, not anything as strong as the other side that believes that at least most of what you wrote is what transpired.

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Originally posted by: jjones
Originally posted by: DearQT

Quit blaming yourself! It's not your fault...
Actually, it is his fault.

Please explain, Jjones. In what way was it his fault (as there are different ways you could say so)? I'm curious in what way you in particular perceive it as his fault.
 
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Originally posted by: DearQT
Oh by the way, I hope this isn't some April Fool's (i.e., "Skoorb effect"). My thought process tells me that it's likely the case because of the profile of the girl you were dating. However, another side ... the skeptical side of me wonders if this is just all made up, which might explain why you are taking a long time to write the story. The skeptical part of me is small, though, not anything as strong as the other side that believes that at least most of what you wrote is what transpired.

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Originally posted by: jjones
Originally posted by: DearQT

Quit blaming yourself! It's not your fault...
Actually, it is his fault.

Please explain, Jjones. In what way was it his fault (as there are different ways you could say so)? I'm curious in what way you in particular perceive it as his fault.

why would i make something up like this...trust me it's real, unfortunately. and jjones has a point. i rushed it, i got attatched and scared her away. what i dont get is that she called me last night and talked to me for 37 minutes. that baffles me.

the reason the ending is taking a while because it's the hardest part for me to right. it just happened this week, plus i'm at work. it will be posted.
 

desteffy

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Originally posted by: DP
why would i make something up like this...trust me it's real, unfortunately. and jjones has a point. i rushed it, i got attatched and scared her away. what i dont get is that she called me last night and talked to me for 37 minutes. that baffles me.

the reason the ending is taking a while because it's the hardest part for me to right. it just happened this week, plus i'm at work. it will be posted.

Thanks DP :thumbsup:
take your time, just as long as you dont SPIDER us with the end.
 

rahvin

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You dated the crazy. The problem is you are also the crazy. When you learn to come to terms with that you will better off. You have incredible levels of rage, resentment, jealousy and just downright nastiness that you heaped on this girl and look at how attached you became and you barely know her. I would wager you are both co-dependent and quite "the crazy".
 
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Originally posted by: rahvin
You dated the crazy. The problem is you are also the crazy. When you learn to come to terms with that you will better off. You have incredible levels of rage, resentment, jealousy and just downright nastiness that you heaped on this girl and look at how attached you became and you barely know her. I would wager you are both co-dependent and quite "the crazy".

note that i have not asked for advice. i have admitted what i did wrong in previous post and realize i was in the wrong. you're acting like i posted this and questioning why it didn't work out? i know why it didn't, lesson learned. i posted this to vent, that is all.
 

Originally posted by: DP
why would i make something up like this...trust me it's real, unfortunately. and jjones has a point. i rushed it, i got attatched and scared her away. what i dont get is that she called me last night and talked to me for 37 minutes. that baffles me.

the reason the ending is taking a while because it's the hardest part for me to right. it just happened this week, plus i'm at work. it will be posted.
I believe you that it's true. I just needed to clear my skeptic hunch, which I tend to have . . . well, it wasn't strong in this case, but it was there.

Anyway, well, I do disagree with you about it being your fault with the rushing. Rushing is normal at the infatuation stage. I think the girl was emotionally unstable, which made the normal excitable experience at the start of relationships rather excessive and causing, figuratively, fire. In my opinion, the only way that you were wrong was jumping fast after leaving a long-term relationship and choosing this girl with knowledge of her background with an abusive ex. Just my view, of course.
 

Pepsei

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patiently waiting for the next part, while trying to ignore everything else until the end.
 

SethK28

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I remember your original thread about this, I hate to say it bro but I TOLD YOUR ASS that any girl in COLLEGE in a SORORITY that posted her pics on the internet, and was willing to date some dude she met on the internet was fuct in the head and had issues/baggage.


 
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Originally posted by: SethK28
I remember your original thread about this, I hate to say it bro but I TOLD YOUR ASS that any girl in COLLEGE in a SORORITY that posted her pics on the internet, and was willing to date some dude she met on the internet was fuct in the head and had issues/baggage.

all good, life goes on. i still really like her but am going to respect the fact that she doesn't want anything with me. trust me, there are tons of girls out there. she is still a great person imo.
 

SethK28

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Hey bud remember this?


Talking about college here not dating once you are in the workplace. She looks to be pretty damn hot, so you gotta look at it this way. Hot chicks in college do not stay single for long, reason being is that you have thousands of horny guys all houndin over the same general population. And as a hot chick you have the pick of the litter so to speak. So for this chick to have resort to myspace.com or eharmony it shows something about her (desperation) and lack of interpersonal skills. Hell my fiancee gets hit on all the time and she even has a ring (she is still in college). My point being it is very very very easy for hot chicks in college to meet guys without having to resort to online dating.
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Originally posted by: SethK28
Hate to burst your bubble but any chick or guy for that matter that is in college and must resort to picking up/meeting people on the internet has problems. And always remember no matter how good she looks someone somwhere is sick of her sh!t.



just got down to reading this post, you're a fvcking moron. first of all, i'm a pretty decent looking guy and no i'm not conceited. i have more of a life than a ton of people on the internet do. there isn't anything wrong with not having a life, to each his own but just because i met a girl over the net that don't mean shit. and trust me i'd rather meet a female over the net and know as much as about as her as i can before i meet her rather than meeting a drunk bitch at a bar.

me>you

thx


Guess me>than you now eh. Punk
 
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Originally posted by: SethK28
Hey bud remember this?


Talking about college here not dating once you are in the workplace. She looks to be pretty damn hot, so you gotta look at it this way. Hot chicks in college do not stay single for long, reason being is that you have thousands of horny guys all houndin over the same general population. And as a hot chick you have the pick of the litter so to speak. So for this chick to have resort to myspace.com or eharmony it shows something about her (desperation) and lack of interpersonal skills. Hell my fiancee gets hit on all the time and she even has a ring (she is still in college). My point being it is very very very easy for hot chicks in college to meet guys without having to resort to online dating.
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Originally posted by: SethK28
Hate to burst your bubble but any chick or guy for that matter that is in college and must resort to picking up/meeting people on the internet has problems. And always remember no matter how good she looks someone somwhere is sick of her sh!t.



just got down to reading this post, you're a fvcking moron. first of all, i'm a pretty decent looking guy and no i'm not conceited. i have more of a life than a ton of people on the internet do. there isn't anything wrong with not having a life, to each his own but just because i met a girl over the net that don't mean shit. and trust me i'd rather meet a female over the net and know as much as about as her as i can before i meet her rather than meeting a drunk bitch at a bar.

me>you

thx


Guess me>than you now eh. Punk

glad you got that out, i hope you feel better.
 

SilverTorch

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Not your fault .... even though you might think you got attached too quicly and scared her off, its actually partly her fault as well

From what I read (yes I actually read it, dont be so hard on your self), it seems like she got attached rather quickly as well, but you deal with women and their thought process you have to add the $^@$ factor, which basically means that a woman will change her mood, likes, dislikes, or anything about her feelings in a fraction of a second, just like that. So she rushed into this as well, and now she is questioning her self, same as you are, thats all. Also sounds like she is trying to get back at her ex, which is not going to get her anywhere.

Its part of human nature to question something that is good and works at the time (f@ck you Murphy).

Best thing to do for you right now, is to figure out what you want from this, you have to be a bit selfish in a relationships, otherwise you will let the other walk all over you. Once you figure that out, you will need to trust her with everything. Its hard to do for a guy, but you have to, and if you have insecurities about something, talk to her about it .... communication is the key.

Also remember about the &^$# factor when it comes to women, and try to be understanding :)
 
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Originally posted by: SilverTorch
Not your fault .... even though you might think you got attached too quicly and scared her off, its actually partly her fault as well

From what I read (yes I actually read it, dont be so hard on your self), it seems like she got attached rather quickly as well, but you deal with women and their thought process you have to add the $^@$ factor, which basically means that a woman will change her mood, likes, dislikes, or anything about her feelings in a fraction of a second, just like that. So she rushed into this as well, and now she is questioning her self, same as you are, thats all. Also sounds like she is trying to get back at her ex, which is not going to get her anywhere.

Its part of human nature to question something that is good and works at the time (f@ck you Murphy).

Best thing to do for you right now, is to figure out what you want from this, you have to be a bit selfish in a relationships, otherwise you will let the other walk all over you. Once you figure that out, you will need to trust her with everything. Its hard to do for a guy, but you have to, and if you have insecurities about something, talk to her about it .... communication is the key.

Also remember about the &^$# factor when it comes to women, and try to be understanding :)


thx:beer:
 

jjones

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Originally posted by: DearQT
Please explain, Jjones. In what way was it his fault (as there are different ways you could say so)? I'm curious in what way you in particular perceive it as his fault.

"This was very stupid on my part but I was trying to scare her into thinking that I don?t play around."

"On Monday the 31st, I asked for her ex?s screen name. She told me she didn?t want me having it. I just wanted it just in case he bothered her. I got it anyways looking behind her back one time and remembered it to add it to my buddy list."

"She calls someone and says ?hey pumpkin? when they answer, I?m thinking must be a gf of hers. WRONG, I heard a male answer so I was like wtf? Why is she doing this. I sat there silently just wanting to die. After 20 minuets she got off the phone and I asked who that was? She said her ex fiancé. I was like why did you call him pumpkin?"

"During the pageant I kept quiet the entire time and she kept asking what was wrong and giving me her sad puppy dog face, I tell her nothing but she can tell I?m mad about what happened."

"We didn?t talk much and I made the comment I?m going home tonight since things weren?t going well."

"After that bogus weekend"

And there seems to be more coming. Rushing into a relationship is one thing, but trying to control someone is another. Sure the girl has a couple of issues with her ex-bf but they sure don't appear to be of such great importance that she is fscking up the relationship over it. It seems that DP is trying to control her life too much, gets jealous of her relationship with her ex-fiance, and has already imposed certain expectations on this girl's behavior. Their relationship is new and these things shouldn't be happening at all, let alone so early in a relationship.
 

CVSiN

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Originally posted by: jjones
Originally posted by: DearQT
Please explain, Jjones. In what way was it his fault (as there are different ways you could say so)? I'm curious in what way you in particular perceive it as his fault.

"This was very stupid on my part but I was trying to scare her into thinking that I don?t play around."

"On Monday the 31st, I asked for her ex?s screen name. She told me she didn?t want me having it. I just wanted it just in case he bothered her. I got it anyways looking behind her back one time and remembered it to add it to my buddy list."

"She calls someone and says ?hey pumpkin? when they answer, I?m thinking must be a gf of hers. WRONG, I heard a male answer so I was like wtf? Why is she doing this. I sat there silently just wanting to die. After 20 minuets she got off the phone and I asked who that was? She said her ex fiancé. I was like why did you call him pumpkin?"

"During the pageant I kept quiet the entire time and she kept asking what was wrong and giving me her sad puppy dog face, I tell her nothing but she can tell I?m mad about what happened."

"We didn?t talk much and I made the comment I?m going home tonight since things weren?t going well."

"After that bogus weekend"

And there seems to be more coming. Rushing into a relationship is one thing, but trying to control someone is another. Sure the girl has a couple of issues with her ex-bf but they sure don't appear to be of such great importance that she is fscking up the relationship over it. It seems that DP is trying to control her life too much, gets jealous of her relationship with her ex-fiance, and has already imposed certain expectations on this girl's behavior. Their relationship is new and these things shouldn't be happening at all, let alone so early in a relationship.


100% agree jealously is stupid...
real men that are confident in themselves have nothing to be jealous over.

 

Baked

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Meh, chicks dig abusive jerks. Reminds them of their father.

/me waits patiently for part 4.

Ps.

"The next morning I messaged her on AIM and her away message read ?if you cry over someone, their not worth crying over in the first place?.

Some English major she is. You would think a English major at the college level would know how to use proper grammar.