dullard
Elite Member
Update:
Got all prepared for an early morning 15 minute court hearing to get the whole divorce finalized. Finally years of anger and resentment put to rest. I've been thinking of this day for years and anxiously waiting for it for months. Drove down to the court. Closed. A water main broke. I'll have to wait another week just to be able to reschedule the hearing. Who knows, that may be weeks later. 🙁
I feel kind of bad for my new GF, as she is put in an akward position while I'm still legally married. The whole divorce was supposed to be over a few weeks ago (about the time I started seeing her). However, I did give her a thoughtful gift earlier this week, see here. She said it was by far the sweetest thing anyone had ever done for her. I was rewarded very well with the longest and most passionate kisses I've ever had. 🙂
Original Thread
I figured it is time for an update on a bunch of my old threads.
[*]Jan 2005: I'm shy: turned into a thread about my marital problems.
[*]Feb 2005: I was depressed. Marital problems again.
[*]June 2005: Divorce advice needed.
[*]Late June 2005: Briefly met someone who intrigued me.
My life in 2005 summed up:
I've spent every possible evening socializing. I stopped rushing home to play computer games and wait patiently (impatiently) hoping that my wife would come home from work (or a date with another man) to give me a few minutes of her time. Instead, I've spent every evening out with someone doing something:
1) Renovating a 100 year old building with my boss, our friend, and while 1-10 people from nearby businesses come by to chat.
2) Going to every initation that people gave me. Even if I didn't want to do it. I stopped asking my wife to come along and I just went myself.
3) Going to dance at places that I had old friends at (that my wife had banned since she was a former worker there and hated the owner).
4) Going out to lunch with coworkers nearly every day instead of eating at my desk.
5) Spending a lot more time with family - even taking long trips across the country.
I realized that my marriage was over. I got through my depressions by being 100% open and honest with everyone I met. I stopped hiding my embarassing marital problems and got as much advice and support as possible. I filed for divorce in mid June. Got an agreement with her on how to split everything a few days later. Wife moved out at the end of July. Unfortunatly a back-log of courtwork meant the judge can't sign the papers until Sept 15. Just half a week left!
Briefly met a very nice woman shortly after filing for divorce. She really intrigued me, but I didn't see her again for two more months (we didn't know each others last name nor phone number as I wasn't ready to enter a relationship when we first met). She matches everything that I wanted in a woman: she is quite intelligent, well educated (actually we are both chemical engineers with graduate degrees), very cute (no pics, I hereby ban myself for another week), a lot of fun to be around, and loves to dance like I do. We've been seeing each other quite a bit. Great kisser. 😀
I couldn't be happier.
Side effects: I haven't played a computer game in months and that was my big passion. I don't think I'm going to be following college football much this year. The weekly ATOT computer football ratings may not happen this year.
Got all prepared for an early morning 15 minute court hearing to get the whole divorce finalized. Finally years of anger and resentment put to rest. I've been thinking of this day for years and anxiously waiting for it for months. Drove down to the court. Closed. A water main broke. I'll have to wait another week just to be able to reschedule the hearing. Who knows, that may be weeks later. 🙁
I feel kind of bad for my new GF, as she is put in an akward position while I'm still legally married. The whole divorce was supposed to be over a few weeks ago (about the time I started seeing her). However, I did give her a thoughtful gift earlier this week, see here. She said it was by far the sweetest thing anyone had ever done for her. I was rewarded very well with the longest and most passionate kisses I've ever had. 🙂
Original Thread
I figured it is time for an update on a bunch of my old threads.
[*]Jan 2005: I'm shy: turned into a thread about my marital problems.
[*]Feb 2005: I was depressed. Marital problems again.
[*]June 2005: Divorce advice needed.
[*]Late June 2005: Briefly met someone who intrigued me.
My life in 2005 summed up:
I've spent every possible evening socializing. I stopped rushing home to play computer games and wait patiently (impatiently) hoping that my wife would come home from work (or a date with another man) to give me a few minutes of her time. Instead, I've spent every evening out with someone doing something:
1) Renovating a 100 year old building with my boss, our friend, and while 1-10 people from nearby businesses come by to chat.
2) Going to every initation that people gave me. Even if I didn't want to do it. I stopped asking my wife to come along and I just went myself.
3) Going to dance at places that I had old friends at (that my wife had banned since she was a former worker there and hated the owner).
4) Going out to lunch with coworkers nearly every day instead of eating at my desk.
5) Spending a lot more time with family - even taking long trips across the country.
I realized that my marriage was over. I got through my depressions by being 100% open and honest with everyone I met. I stopped hiding my embarassing marital problems and got as much advice and support as possible. I filed for divorce in mid June. Got an agreement with her on how to split everything a few days later. Wife moved out at the end of July. Unfortunatly a back-log of courtwork meant the judge can't sign the papers until Sept 15. Just half a week left!
Briefly met a very nice woman shortly after filing for divorce. She really intrigued me, but I didn't see her again for two more months (we didn't know each others last name nor phone number as I wasn't ready to enter a relationship when we first met). She matches everything that I wanted in a woman: she is quite intelligent, well educated (actually we are both chemical engineers with graduate degrees), very cute (no pics, I hereby ban myself for another week), a lot of fun to be around, and loves to dance like I do. We've been seeing each other quite a bit. Great kisser. 😀
I couldn't be happier.
Side effects: I haven't played a computer game in months and that was my big passion. I don't think I'm going to be following college football much this year. The weekly ATOT computer football ratings may not happen this year.
