My grandpas really sick...

[Nocturnal]

Man, my grandpa has arthritis, and I believe cancer is his reproductive organs.

Anyhow I feel really bad for him. He's getting really bad. He urinates on himself because he can't hold it until he gets to the restroom at our house. He's really getting old and weak. He can't even go out of the house anymore. He often drools on himself as well. I'm not teasing him, I'm just telling you guys the story about him. I love the guy a lot. I feel so bad watching him get so weak. He's losing a lot of weight. I don't know how long more he'll be around. He just took his last trip to Las Vegas (he loves that place) not too long ago. It's weird when you think about... I remember when I was little and he was ok and he would walk around and just be up and about. When I see old men walking around it reminds me of my grandpa when he was their age. He used to take me to McDonalds, he would buy me shoes at the mall.

Man is anyone else experiencing this type of family loss? I mean I know he's gonna go in the near distant future. It's inevitable. I just wish he didn't have to go. But I know he'll be ok when he leaves this place. My grandmother passed away a few years ago. I once asked him, "Grandpa do you miss grandma?" His reply was "I don't miss grandma, I miss MY WIFE!" And I just was like whoa. I never really talked about it with him. But I know he hurts a lot.

Anyone else going through this or has gone through this? It sucks, plain and simple.

 

[nater]

my grandfather suffered from parkinsons for the last 10 years of his life. For the last 5 or so of that, he was pretty much completely unaware of his surroundings. My grandfather "died"(for me, anyway) when he was taken to nursing home when I was like 7. I never wanted to go visit him because I wanted to remember him as the one who took me out to movies, took me and my sister to Shoney's, etc. You still have to be there for them though, because as hard as it is on you, it's 10 times worse for them.

 

[OutHouse]

Yes im going through the same thing. My dad has leukemia. 2 weeks ago he stopped all treatment and have hospice come in and take care of him. The Dr. only gave him a week and he has gone two now. I call him about every other day and he is getting weaker and weaker.

 

[monk3y]

I got chills just reading your post. I'm really sorry to hear that he is so sick. I actually had a similar situation with my grandfather. His wife passed away and he was alone for a good while and refused to live with any of his kids. He wanted to be as independent as possible but in the end he was forced into it as he couldn't take care of himself. I think getting old is probably one of the hardest things in life to deal with, especially because you've lived for so long, living a certain way. It's hard when your body stops acting the way it used to. I sincerely hope your grandpa's health returns.

 

[HappyPuppy]

I watched my father go like that. It hurts, but you need to suck it up and stay by him no matter how bad he gets. It's his time of need now.

 

[Zim Hosein]

I never really knew my grandpa's, but I'll say a prayer for you and yours.

 

[Cyberian]

Sorry to hear about your Grandpa. I lost my Mom last month, and I'm a Grandpa so I guess I kinda know how you feel.
Best of luck to your family.

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

I can relate to this myself. I'm closer to my grandpa than both my parents. We hang out a lot when I was younger. When I got older I didn't spend as much time with him (which I regret greatly).

His passing away was a shock, as he was in the hospital at the time and I didn't really know the severity of his health. I thought he would be out in a few days. He was in there weeks before for a stroke, but that was ok. Found out he was retaining too much water in his lungs. At least he past away peacefully.

Best wishes to your grandpa.

 

[Wintermute76]

Sorry to hear about your grandfather.

I lost my grandpa on my dad's side last December 1st, I was up north for the weekend and mom came upstairs about 1:30 in the morning and said he had passed away. He drove and gardened and hunted right up to the end , he always said he just wanted to up and go. He lived about 40 miles north of Hibbing MN, way out in the sticks. he was 84. Last time I had seen him was the week before, for Thanksgiving. I guess that made it that much harder.

Then last Feb 2nd, my grandpa on my mom's side passed away, he had been in the nursing home for about 6 years tho, I guess is was really a good thing, as he couldn't do much of anything for himself for the last 4 years or so. He was 89.

I guess that's life, and it sucks

 

[LeStEr]

My grandpa is in a similar situation as yours only my grandpa has alzheimer's. He basically has no memory and does not recognize anyone in my family. Its very sad when older people get sick......

 

[Nocturnal]

No sh1t. That's life and life sucks. Especially when you get old. All of this overclocked computers, and chicks mean crap when you get to that point in your life where you can no longer do things for yourself. I feel sad. I guess I'm also depressed because I'm sick. I can feel it... It's weird, I know when I'm depressed. Even though I'm taking an SSRI I can still feel the depression... only when I get sick.

Anyhow, whoever here believes in God, I ask if you would take a few minutes out of your time and just say a little prayer for him that he'll be ok after he leaves and that he will leave peacefully.

I keep waiting and dread that call from my father telling me that he passed. FRICK!!

 

[amdskip]

I lost my grandpa a few years back. He had cancer and the doctors couldn't figure it out. We all yelled at him for not eating and it was the cancer causing him to not want to eat. We all feel bad about it now. I miss him a lot now. It used to be so much fun seeing what new project he was working on in his different sheds. We went camping once a year as a family and it was a blast.

I'll say a prayer for your grandpa and your family.

Jeff

 

[LunarRay]

I never knew either my mother or 3 of my 4 grandparents so I can't speak to your issue directly but, I have tears in my eyes now because I see love. Love is all you can really give someone from your essence. It is all that matters. I am also a grandpa. My three grandkids live with me (I have custody of them) and I know I'll cause pain for them in time as I transit into my future. So we talk often about issues of all sorts including death. The fact that he has problems probably hurts him because he wouldn't want to seem a burden nor see himself as weakening. When I'm in pain my grand kids joke about it and I with them. I often speak of someday having this or that issue etc. We turn it into humor if we can. Reality of age cannot change. If you are fortunate enough to get there you'll need all the strength you can muster to keep those you love from hurting. This is the burden of love. Love with all your might and never stop loving. Love will guide you as it guides me. Differn't paths for differn't people... same vehicle though... love.